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Ways To Prevent Boredom From Destroying Your Marriage/Relationship

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1. Initiate new activities/hobbies you can do together.

Research has consistently shown that learning new things together as a couple increases the excitement within a relationship.

Take golf or tennis lessons together. Or learn a new language. Maybe you and your partner enjoy cooking; so cooking lessons might be just what your relationship needs.

It doesn’t really matter what new activity you pursue. All that matters is that you pursue it together – and enjoy it.

Enjoying new activities creates excitement!

And excitement is a great antidote to boredom because it is impossible to be bored – when you are excited!

2. Make old things new again!

Do you remember the activities you and your partner enjoyed when you first began dating? Remember those long conversations that you never wanted to end?

Chances are you haven’t engaged in these activities or conversations that initially excited you about your partner in a long time.

So bring back the “good ole days”. Go out dancing or take dance lessons if you used to love to go dancing. Or go out and play golf or tennis if you used to enjoying those activities in the past.

Or if you loved watching movies together – do that!

You might be surprised as to how fast and strong those feelings of excitement get aroused when you re-visit the activities that attracted you to each other.

3. Get creative in the bedroom!

Chances are that a boring sex life is contributing to the overall boredom you are feeling in your relationship.

And there is also a good chance that if you are bored with your relationship, so is your partner.

We are all adults here so I’m going to get a little explicit.

Sex toys, fantasy and role-playing are all fun, easy and creative ways to spice up your sex life. Talk with your partner and see what ideas they might be opened to so you can re-energize your sex life and bring it back to life.

If you are bored with your sex life – make it your responsibility to do something about it!

4. Laughter!

Laughter is often the best medicine for many ailments; and it’s often overlooked.

Take responsibility to inject laughter and a sense of humor into your relationship by joking around and being silly with each other.

Lighten up a bit. The day-to-day grind can take a toll on all of us – zapping all the frivolity and laughter out of our lives.

Laughter and having a sense a humor can really liven things up for our relationship!

Don’t just take my word for it. Here’s what current research says about the positive impact laughter has on our relationship.

On February 22, 2016, Science Daily published the results of a study conducted by the University of North Carolina that found: “People who spent more time laughing with their partner felt that they were more similar to their partner … the more people laughed with their romantic partner, the more they felt they were supported by that person.”

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16 Weird Ways To Turn Her On

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1. When a guy has really nice forearms. Is it because he’d look good chopping wood? Because I don’t live anywhere near a forest, but I’m still into it. Also, I couldn’t tell you what makes a nice forearm. It’s very subjective and case-by-case, but you know it when you see one.

2. Ryan Gosling’s fake Brooklyn accent. Ryan is from Canada and yet he sounds like Robert DeNiro for no reason. Do our vaginas care that his voice is a lie? No, they do not. If anything, the fact that it’s total B.S. might work in its favor, but I don’t know why because scientists have yet to do any research on the matter. Who do I speak to about getting that changed?

3. Guys in tailored suits that don’t look like they previously belonged to their dads. So many guys own suits that make them look like 1980s stand-up comedians that when a guy has one that fits just right, our vaginas hurtle into space like shooting stars.

4. When a guy jangles his watch while he drives. Seriously, what movies taught us this was hot? How do we explain that a guy shaking his watch off his wrist because it was too loose and he wanted to shake it down his arm makes us want to stop the car and jump him? How?

5. Suspenders. Note: Not everyone can pull them off. Years ago, I told a guy that suspenders drove me nuts and he tried to wear them and just ended up looking like a ’90s drug dealer. Not the same thing.

6. When men wear female-fronted band T-shirts. One time, I saw a guy I never would’ve looked twice at on the subway wearing a Heart T-shirt, and all of a sudden decided he was my soul mate. Why? Who knows, but any man who can openly worship at the alter of women in rock can get it.

7. Guys who have very pretty long hair. Who then take their hands and run it through their pretty, pretty long hair. God help us if they also push it behind their ear.

8. When guys talk about how much they love their moms. Unless your mom is a monster human being, everyone should love their mom, so a guy who loves his mom should not be hot. He should just be “a guy.” And yet, the second a dude tells us he thinks his mom is amazing, we immediately become that little emoji face with hearts instead of eyes. So weird.

9. When guys seem like really good dads. Again, all men should be good dads, so why is this so hot?! Maybe it’s because it’s rare to see a guy hanging out with his kid in the park and looking really into it? Analyzing this is making me sad.

10. A reasonably fit guy in a slightly too tight white T-shirt. I’m sorry. My brain stopped working just reading that.

11. When men have luxurious eyelashes we wish we had. At first, you’re angry because that just seems like a waste of luxurious eyelashes, but then the more you gaze at them, the more you need a vibrator stat. Doesn’t matter why. It is what it is.

12. Cheekbones so deep you could crawl into them and set up base camp for life. If anything, this should make us think a dude might be malnourished, but instead it makes us want to run our fingers along their deep, deep crevice.

13. When men roll up their sleeves. Exhibit H (for horniness, duh).

14. When a guy is doing dishes and puts a dishtowel on his shoulder. First of all, this happens so rarely IRL and I think that is the cause of many problems in this world.

15. Guys cooking while wearing aprons. And then when they take it off. It’s basically “Aww, they care if their shirt gets dirty. We should have sex.”

16. Hot guys reading. There’s an entire Instagram devoted to this for a reason.

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Four Ways My Selfishness Healed My Marriage

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1. I got a hobby.

And when I say, I got a hobby, I don’t mean I just went out there and started taking knitting classes. I took some time to reflect on the parts of myself that I had neglected for so long. As the nature caretakers that women are, we naturally seek to take care of others often at the expense of our own well being and health. So I took stock over my life, and although I loved being a wife and mother, there was a part of me that I needed to bring back to life. I felt like something was missing and I needed to go out there and find out what that was. In the process, I rekindled my love of writing. I am now a blogger and just published my first book.

2. Just say NO!

I made the conscious choice to stop perpetuating the Black Superwoman Syndrome. I can’t be everything to everyone all the time, and when it came down to it, I didn’t want to! Acquiescing to everyone’s needs can really begin to create a sense of resentment and unappreciation in your life, and that’s no way to live. There’s nothing wrong with saying no to additional responsibilities at work or saying no to cooking dinner every now and then. You’ve got to carve out time for yourself and it’s never going to happen if you’re constantly chasing after others. Make sure you take time to fill yourself back up so you can continue to pour into others.

3. Become a health nut.

LOL, I don’t mean those annoying kind, I mean someone who consciously takes account for what you put in your body and what you do with your body. So make changes in your diet and what you feed your family. I know it can be hard to introduce new and healthy foods to young kids and a husband, but take it one step at a time. Also, make exercise a priority in whatever form works best and you’re most comfortable performing. Looking good and feeling good is a great recipe for a thriving marriage so get to work! Also, surround yourself with healthy thoughts and people. Health extends beyond our physical appearance and what you think and listen to has more power over you than you could imagine. So take stock of your mindset and make sure that the things you want in your life are also the things you speak out of your mouth.

4. Get away.

My husband and I are very serious about spending time away from each other. We both plan trips away with friends and the time apart keeps us stronger. Not ready to take a long getaway from your spouse? Then plan girl’s nights out once a month or so. It’s so important to cultivate relationships outside of your primary one which adds a new layer of depth to you. Spending time away from your spouse and experiencing new things without them also serves as lessons to bring back to your marriage. And finally, we’ve all heard the phrase, “absence makes the heart grow fonder”, and it really does. My husband and I miss each other while we’re away, we give each other space to have a good time without the other, and when we come home, we’re that much more excited to re-engage and re-connect.

Of course all this comes down to communication, a cornerstone to marriage, and when I started to communicate my needs to my husband more openly and unapologetically, he got on board and our relationship grew in deeper intimacy. So now it’s your turn, how can you be more selfish in your marriage?

Dinah Adams: How To Make Him Love You!

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Truth is… there ain’t no way… If he loves you, he loves you and if him no love you, my dear him no love you!!!

Sorry honeys for that heartbreaking news flash, but reality check; Love in itself is priceless and cannot be purchased with money, Agbani like body, Ekaete cooking skills, not even by being an ace kama sutraist… if there is any word like that.

And as God made it, men are actually a kind of confused as regards to what they want, but I tell you, a guy can never be certain of anything else aside the girl that has his heart.

Let me rephrase in other words, a guy can choose to be unsure of all the things  that concern his entire life but is VERY, VERY, VERY sure of the madam of his heart.

I have seen situations where girls effortlessly strive to “win back his Love” by bringing down heaven and moving mountains #PELE#, and the guy will still sing the “I’ve moved on” song (on replay sef) to the girl.

The honest truth is this, there was no love in the first place. Maybe a mirage of love or the famous lust made him sound like Enrique Iglesias without music, or maybe badoo was just servicing his toasting skills. Point is, girls tend to take them seriously but my dear sisters, if you’ve fallen and eventually realized you’ve entered one chance, kuku respect yourself and leave him alone.

I am lazy by nature and life has taught me not to struggle for anything, which is pretty convenient for me. Words’ out ladies, if he loves you he’ll call you, save your credit; if he needs you he’ll find you and if he Loves you, then you’ll know. Simply tell yourself the truth.

@DidiYargata

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#MenOnly: These Famous Marriage Proposals Are Actually The Worst Ways To Propose

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1. With a flash mob

This was pretty cool a couple of years ago, a guaranteed viral video hit on YouTube, but it’s kind of outdated at this point. Don’t try it with Bruno Mars’ “Marry You” either, your partner may run scared. While big points are given to those of you who put in such tremendous effort, just don’t do this — it’s way too cliche.

2. In public

This includes anywhere where there are a lot of people and crowded areas. Also, on stage during a performance, at a mall, or at a restaurant. You’re just showing off, please stop.

3. On the big screen at a sporting event

Considered just as bad as the kiss cam, and the birthday shout-out, I’m unsure as to why those two things still exist. You run the risk of being monumentally embarrassed amongst thousands of screaming fans if she happens to say no. Lest us not forget Pheobe from Friends comment about a couples’ proposal on the big screen as being lame just as Mike was about to propose to her in that exact way at a Knicks game. Even pop culture deems this as a flimsy proposal.

4. Skywriting

Mildly embarrassing in general, especially if your significant other sees it as it starts to fade. Also realize that this option will run you a couple of thousand dollars that may be better spent on your actual wedding.

5. On Valentine’s Day

Ah, the most corny of all. Need I say more? Granted, you’ll never forget what day you proposed. In 2013, the American Express Spending and Saving Tracker consumer report surveyed Americans’ Valentine’s Day plans and found that six million couples are likely to get engaged on February 14. This number has remained steady since. Don’t you want to be different than six million other couples?

6. Or any other holiday

If you propose on Christmas or Hanukkah or any other major holiday of importance and the two of you happen to not work out, the holiday, for you, will be forever tainted. Who doesn’t look forward to the holidays? Why take a chance?

7. Your birthday (or her birthday)

The same reason for not proposing on a holiday applies here. Your birthday (or your partner’s birthday) is special enough. Think sometime down the road to when you two are already married. You have to remember her birthday and the day you proposed, and it’s a double whammy if you forget both. There’s a good chance you may never hear the end of it. Don’t risk it.

8. With a professional photographer in tow

Although this is a “professional” way to capture the moment, it’s probably one that should remain private. The only reason, I can think, that someone would do this is so they could post their pictures to Facebook and Instagram. Enough with the overshare. Your proposal should be just for the two of you, something special you share and not for the world to see.

9. Proposing while drunk

Please don’t ever do this. Mainly, because most likely you won’t remember doing it.

10. Hiding the ring in food or a drink

Engagement Ring in Champagne

Perhaps you never saw that Two and a Half Men episode when Charlie plans to propose by placing the diamond engagement ring in a glass of champagne, in which his girlfriend swallows it before he gets the chance to go through with the proposal. Need I say more?

11. On social media

I’m not 100% how many people do this, but unfortunately, I am sure it is a thing. To me, this sounds worse than texting a proposal — which, by the way, you shouldn’t do either.

12. Without a ring

Tradition calls for a ring. It may be old-fashioned, but a diamond is forever and so is the hope for your marriage.

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Devise Ways Of Paying Workers, Buhari To Governors

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President Muhammadu Buhari has called on state governors to consider, as a matter of urgency, exploring efficient means of gradually liquidating all unpaid salaries of staff, which have brought untold hardship to thousands of families.

Inaugurating the national economic council  at the presidential villa Monday morning, ?President Buhari also called on the states to also devise ways of increasing their revenue base in order to cushion the effect s of dwindling revenue from the federation account.
The national economic Council  is made up of the 36 state governors, minister?s of Finance and National as well as the Attorney General of the Federation.
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