My marriage was a sham – Tonto Dikeh

Embattled Nollywood actress, Tonto Dikeh, on Friday said her marriage to Olakunle Churchill was a sham.

Churchill is alleged to be former President Olusegun Obasanjo’s nephew.

She made the revelation on her Instagram @tontolet while responding to advice from her fans persuading her to have a rethink over her marriage.

The Nollywood actress added she had been using her social media platform to lie and paint Churchill the good man he is perceived to be today, as according to her, all the cars and jewelleries she flashes on social media were not bought for her by him.

She wrote: “I posted stuffs my ex-husband bought for me doesn’t make it true. I used my platform to lie, to make him the man he is today.

The mother of one alleged that she treated so many sexually transmitted diseases (STD’s) while being married to Churchill.

“Nobody knows how many STDs I have treated or pain I know in marriage. If laughter is all they have then the karma that bites me awaits them all.

“Thank for your love. Yes no marriage is perfect but mine was based on gross lies deceit, scam and many more darkness.

“I loved the man no one begged me to, I take all the blame.”

“So don’t come at me with the bullshit of enjoying this man’s money.

“ I have not started talking, I will bare it all but there is time for everything.

“I care now for the STD’s because I am no longer naive. I am a mother who wants to live long for my child.

“I am not a saint and cheating is not the only reason I took the forever walk,” she added.

The controversial actress got married in 2015 to Oladunni Churchill, a Nigerian businessman and philanthropist, and they have a son from the union.

However, the separation crisis started when it was reported that a certain woman had stepped into the picture, with Tonto Dike removing her husband’s surname from her Instagram account.

The duo have been in a war of words on the social media, with Churchill demanding for exclusive access to his son.


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Islamic Rights Group backs Emir Sanusi’s call for regulation of polygamy.

The Muslim Rights Concern (MURIC) has supported call by the Emir of Kano, Alhaji Muhammadu Sanusi II for a law to regulate marriage to second wives.

The emir was reported to have said on Monday that the Kano State Government was preparing a law to make it mandatory for men seeking to marry second wives to satisfy certain conditions.

A statement issued on Wednesday by MURIC’s Director, Prof. Ishaq Akintola, and made available to newsmen in Ibadan, said the move was in conformity with the provisions on marriage as contained in the Holy Qur’an.

MURIC said, although Islam allows a man to marry up to four wives, the permission was meant to provide security for widows and other unmarried women.“It is an open secret that women outnumber men in all parts of the world.

“Islam therefore permits men to marry more than one wife in order to provide shelter and welfare for those women who would have been left single.

“In the first instance, the Qur’an enjoins those who do not have the capacity to maintain even a single wife to abstain from marriage until they can become economically strong enough.

“ The Qur’an also allows a man who already has one wife to take a second woman, a third or even a fourth but with the condition that such a man must have sufficient means to care for them all,’’ MURIC said.

MURIC said that what the Kano state government was trying to do was to give interpretation to the verses of the Quran.

“This becomes necessary in view of the fact that many Muslims misinterpret the Quran by marrying more than one wife when in reality they cannot even maintain one wife comfortably.

“The result is the production of children who end up as social miscreants,’’ MURIC said.

MURIC commended the vision and courage of the Emir of Kano as well as the forthrightness of Kano state government for evolving “this great idea.”

The group called on other states which have Muslim majority population to emulate the policy, as it is capable of reducing poverty, raising standard of living and increasing the number of literate citizens.

INTERVIEW: Tonto Dikeh’s hubby opens up on marital crisis, Bobrisky.

In a tell all interview, popular actress, Tonto Dikeh’s husband opens up on the couple’s recent marital crisis.

Below are excerpts of the interview in which he refuted the allegations of having a relationship with Nigerian cross-dresser, Okuneye Idris, also known as Bobrisky.

Could you clarify for us about the recent news of your split with your wife, her use of marijuana which purportedly led her to destroying things in your mum’s home and her leaving with your son?

Every family has its ups and downs, but I would not want to talk about my family. Well, it’s funny to me, because I don’t have a female personal Assistant. My PA is Mr. Paul, who has been working with me over the years. Besides, it was a sponsored blackmail. These issues are private to me and my family. I don’t know where this came from and I don’t believe my wife would say that, I’m against such. Even my foundation preaches against domestic violence in some of our charity awareness campaigns. It is obvious that all these channelled attacks are targeted to drag my image and what I believe in, to the mud. Well, the truth is that I have never raised my hands against my wife. There is CCTV camera evidence in my mum’s home to prove all this.

There was also news that you have a relationship with Bobrisky and Swanky Jerry…

Churchill: I only heard about it later but never did see the actual post and I must say it beats my imagination. I met Swanky Jerry through my wife and believe that whoever my wife likes as a friend, I also take as a family friend. I don’t know Bobrisky. I’m too busy to think of such unpleasant issues, let alone cooking up a defence.

With your son’s first birthday around the corner, how will you mark it?

I really miss him and have planned a worthwhile party for him with friends and family, but sadly all efforts to reach him have been unsuccessful. This is affecting me and my business. His mum won’t pick calls. I truly should not be granting this interview if this is all about my family. I’m very optimistic that our family will unite together for his birthday, even though channels to reach my wife are temporarily off.

What do you say about all that has happened?

Churchill: It’s a phase. But I would like to ask bloggers and on social media enthusiasts to first verify the facts. Every marriage has it good and bad moments. Unfortunately, I recently discovered news of the alleged marriage instability is making headlines on some media platforms. Please Tonto Dikeh fans and well-wishers, take it easy on her. I guess she is still adjusting to motherhood. With time, it will be well.

What were your thoughts when you started Kindred Realtors, a real estate firm for your son?

The company was actually one of my companies. I changed it to our son’s name after his birth and feel it’s one of his benefits, to start building a brand for him as he grows.

You recently had a four-day charity walk through your foundation what was the idea behind it and how do you fund it?

Yes, that was a memorable and successful event. I’m glad a lot of the physically challenged were empowered. We spoke to them about discovering ability in disability. We’re able to do this from favour and goodwill. Also, 10 percent of our profit or revenue from the Big Church Group is transferred to the foundation’s charity account. It all started in Ghana before cutting across states in Nigeria and beyond?

See Kenyan couple that spent just $1 for their wedding ceremony

A Kenyan couple unable to afford the expense of a wedding have earned plaudits on social media for pursuing “a budget option $1 ceremony” which they attended wearing casual clothes.

Wilson and Ann Mutura postponed their wedding twice in 2016 because they were unable to raise the $300 (£240) fee.

They decided to get married this year with the minimum of expense.

The groom only spent $1 on two budget wedding rings, which he produced amid cheering during the exchange of vows.

Other expenses surrounding the pair’s nuptials – including the licence fee – were instead borne by their church.

Online commentators have praised their move, pointing out that weddings are becoming increasingly expensive.

The romantic story of Wilson, 27, and his bride Ann, 24, seems to have captured the attention of many Kenyans.

Somali town bans lavish wedding spending

After dating for more than three years, the couple overcame the biggest hurdle in their relationship – money.

Last year their appeals to friends and family failed to raise enough cash.

‘Blessed union’

Wilson told the BBC that his older brother even advised him to forego the wedding and live with Ann without getting married.

But that was not an option for the self-employed fruit seller and his fiancee who wanted “a permanent and blessed union”.

Online reaction

  • “Who said we have to complicate marriage ceremonies with huge budgets?” Jay Can-did (Nairobi News comment page)
  • “This is impressive. The most important thing is the marriage, not the wedding.” Daniel Wafula (Twitter)
  • “Their wedding had nothing, but their marriage will be beautiful,” Beatrice Oloo (Facebook)
  • “God has done for them, five star hotel!” Esther Renson (Facebook)
  • “This is wonderful and I love it so much – using what you have is the best principle of satisfaction.” Moses Matikho (Facebook)
  • “If both families agree, let it be made simple. This will reduce the backsliding rate of the youth,” Martin Mwangi Njoroge (Nairobi News comment page)

“As a [Christian] couple, we wanted to marry and live with dignity in order to avoid other temptations,” said Ann.

So the pair opted to have a low-key wedding ceremony in Nairobi without cakes, flowers or decorations.

The couple were simply dressed, wearing jeans, T-shirts and training shoes. Their only assets were two shiny steel circles that served as wedding rings.

During the wedding service, Wilson surprised the congregation by running out of the church to buy the two rings, Pastor Jasper Ojwach from the Community Christian worship centre in Nairobi told the BBC.

The groom was cheered when he produced them from his pocket just before the exchange of vows.

The couple say they are surprised by the positive reaction on social media to their frugal wedding and have urged other young Kenyans to follow their example.

“I believe money should not stop young people like us from getting married. If people love each other and want to marry they should,” Ann said.

So warm has been the reaction that the couple have received gifts from companies and individuals who were touched by their courage.

They are expected to go on their honeymoon soon, after a travel agency gave them a five-day break.

Comedian Seyilaw reveals challenges after birth of first child after five years of marriage.

Popular Nigerian comedian, Oluwaseyitan Aletile, aka Seyilaw, is a happy man and the reason is not far-fetched.

He recently welcomed his first child, a daughter, with his wife, Ebere, after five years of marriage.

Tiwaloluwa was born in October 2016.

The couple tied the knot in 2011 and, sadly, in February 2015, after some miscarriages, they lost their first child at birth.

The dark-skinned comedian has flooded Instagram timelines with pictures and videos of his newborn.

Quite outspoken about his journey to becoming a parent, Seyilaw has opened up about the circumstances surrounding the birth of his first child on Instagram.

Not only did he disclose that the birth of his daughter set him back about N10 million, he also revealed that they almost lost her when his wife was eight months pregnant.

Sharing a picture of himself and his wife in matching outfits, he wrote:

“To my dearest wife,

I might be silly and puffed, but I will never forget. I will never forget your sorrow, tears and strength. The strongest of women are sometimes the weakest in the hands of men, especially the men they love.

The pains and emotions of love are more than enough to throw you off balance. I have decided that no matter how masculine I am, I will let you reign in the right places for the pains you bore for me. The scars that is visible and invisible.

Do you know people wonder why I flaunt our God’s gift Tiwaloluwa? Maybe, because they are ignorant of our testimonies. I would have loved to share them all, but the space here will be too small. How do I tell people we almost lost her at eight (8) months? The issue that got you stuck to the hospital bed for almost a month with a monitoring machine strapped to your protruding belly.

Can I ever forget the number of injections you took without me being able to hold your hands to help you ease the pains and the doctors scary words? Will people ever know the journey that took you to the theatre with Fifteen (15) doctors on you alone, denying your family room to witness the birth of God’s miracle?

Don’t let me even mention the hospital bills, because all these Oyinbo no dey gree send their own once. Thank God for his miracle and Mrs. Abosede Holloway (Mummy Yetunde), Olori B of Baltimore. Story for another day. Any child wey dem take over N10million born, no be ordinary pikin na ISSUE in capital letters.

Our testimonies are numerous, but our God is one, yes ONE big GOD. If I don’t celebrate you who will? Thank you for everytime, I have forgotten to say it. Thank you for all the times, I will never be there to say it.

You are more than a JEWEL OF INESTIMABLE VALUE rather you are the SPECIAL EFFECT that makes the JEWEL OF INESTIMABLE VALUE. I love You NOW and ALWAYS.


Funmi Iyanda: I’ve never wanted to get married. It’s not for me.

Funmi Iyanda, talk show host and broadcaster, says the marriage institution is not for her.

The host of the defunct New Dawn, on Wednesday, took to Twitter to state that she’s not the “marrying type”.

Sharing her experience with a psychic, she tweeted: “I had my palm and tarot card reading done yesterday, 1st time. Psychic says l am not the marrying type. I want my money back.”

Her tweet elicited comments of support from well-wishers, who prayed that she would get married.

In response, Iyanda further tweeted: “Oh for goodness’ sake. Stop texting me prayers. This means he told me what l always knew. Jeez! So many fried brains.

She added: “I have never wanted to be married. I like it for others who like it for themselves but as for me ms Funmi Iyanda, no, thank you.”

When asked why she’s against marriage, she said, “because marriage is often wielded as a power tool and a repudiation of it seem like a challenge to misguided power notions”.



Woman Gives Birth To Five Kids After Ten Years Of Waiting In Marriage

A couple that has been married for 10 years without children gave birth to five kids, the first quintuplets’ birth recorded at the University of Calabar Teaching Hospital (UCTH) in Cross River State.

The three girls and two boys, born between 10:50 a.m. and 10:54 a.m. on Monday, weighed between 1.45kg and 1.75kg.

They are currently in the Special Care Babies Unit of the Teaching Hospital and are in stable condition.

Wife of the Cross River State Governor, Dr Linda Ayade, who was among other persons that visited the first time parents, with the first of its kind delivery, happily announced the donation of one million Naira in support of the needs required by the family.

“This is a sign of good tidings in the state and country at large and I want to thank the new mother for opting for professional services of birth attendants,” she said.

Dr. Ayade did not only make donations to the couples but also gave another 500,000 Naira to the medical experts who aided the woman deliver the babies safely.

The quintuplets, three girls and two boys, weighed between 1.45kg and 1.75kg

“In This Recession”

An excited father of the quintuplets, Dr. Ekpo Edet, thanked God for answering his prayers of ten years, as according to him, God alone could have done it.

“I want to thank God almighty. He is a faithful God. For the first time in the history of Cross River State, the first time in the history of UCTH, five at a go.

“God has just been faithful, as we have concluded the first phase and the doctors have confirmed that the babies are kicking.

“We are entering into the second phase and I know it is not going to be easy but I solicit for support from all well-meaning Nigerians. All my friends and well-wishers in taking care of them in this recession,” the father of the children requested.

The State Commissioner for Health, Dr. Inyang Asibong, congratulated the father of the babies who in spite of the whole tension and expectations during the period of the pregnancy was steadfast, as it has been a long wait for the couple.

Dr. Ayade alongside the State Commissioner for Health also made a donation of an incubator machine to the hospital on behalf of Cross River State Government.

Lebanon Takes First Step To Abolish Marriage Rape Law

Lebanese lawmakers on Wednesday took the first step to overturn a law that allows rapists to avoid punishment if they marry their victims. The move came a day after protesters wearing fake-blood-stained wedding gowns confronted lawmakers just steps away from Parliament in the capital Beirut.

After a scheduled review of Article 522 of the penal code, Lebanese Prime Minister Saad Hariri tweeted that a parliamentary committee had agreed to push forward with a plan that would abolish the law.
Article 522 states that if a man rapes an unmarried woman he can avoid prosecution for the crime if he marries the victim.
Hariri praised the committee’s decision. “We await the completion of this civilized step in the nearest legislative session,” he told state-run news agency NNA.
Samy Gemayel, president of the Kataeb political party, also welcomed the move and said he hoped for fast approval at Parliament’s general assembly, according to NNA.
Activists on Tuesday rallied near Parliament to denounce the law. Participants, who dressed as beaten brides, said the action was a visual reminder that for many women who are the victims of rape, what comes next may be worse than the rape itself.
Beirut-based rights group ABAAD, which has long lobbied against Article 522 through a grassroots and online media campaign, organized the protest.
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Ali Modu Sheriff’s daughter weds Army Chief Buratai’s aide

Maiduguri, the Borno State capital will be agog with weddings this December. Aside from the Indimis who are receiving President Muhammadu Buhari’s daughter, Zahra, into their fold as a wife; Halima, one of the daughters of a factional Peoples Democratic chairman, Ali Sheriff, is also set to walk down the aisle this month.


The lucky groom-to-be, Ronnie, is said to be one of Northern Nigeria’s most handsome and eligible bachelors.


In his early 30’s, he is the aide-de-camp to the Chief of Army Staff of Nigeria, Tukur Buratai, and a Captain in the Nigerian Army.


On the other hand, Halima is a fashion designer and a graduate of the Canadian University in Dubai.


The couple have released some pre-wedding photos which were shot by ace Abuja-based wedding photographer, Big H Studios.

Kanye West Having Marriage Troubles, Source Reveals

Kanye West is reportedly living apart from his wife Kim Kardashian and their two children after being released from the hospital, an anonymous source told Us Weekly. He’s supposedly staying at a rental house as he receives outpatient treatment, the insider added.

On Wednesday, West was released from UCLA Medical Center after being admitted for sleep deprivation and exhaustion. He had returned home to Kardashian and their two kids, North and Saint, upon his release — the family even celebrated his homecoming and Saint’s first birthday with a “low-key” party.

Though West is living apart from his family for medical reasons, there is speculation that he and Kim are having marriage troubles stemming from Kardashian’s traumatic Paris robbery, which some cite as a reason for Kanye’s “erratic behaviour.”

“Kanye’s behaviour took a huge toll on their marriage,” a source told Us. “But Kim feels relieved he is getting the help he needs. She thinks this is what it will take to save him — and help their marriage.”

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Ayade: Young people must remain virgins until marriage

Ben Ayade, governor of Cross River state, says young people must be encouraged to abstain from sexual intercourse till they get married.

Ayade says abstinence and faithfulness are the only ways to end the HIV scourge in Nigeria.

Speaking on Thursday at the commemoration of the 2016 World AIDS Day celebration in Calabar, Ayade said it’s high time young people were taught that sex before marriage is a taboo in the African culture.

The governor criticised campaigns advocating for condom usage, saying it’s a false feeling of protection.

Ayade said condoms have thus far failed to stop the spread of the HIV scourge, according to the News Agency of Nigeria (NAN).

“Rather, it increases the level of promiscuity among the younger generation and encouraged unfaithfulness,” he said.

“The absolute factor that can put an end to HIV/AIDS spread is total loyalty and abstinence.

“Married couples must be faithful to their partners. Young people must remain virgins until they get married and never allow any barber to use unsterilised clipper to barb your hair.

“Whatever the story, AIDS is real, it is a scourge, you must avoid it,” the governor said.

Ayade further noted that his government would do everything within its power to curtail the spread of the virus in Cross River.

Finally, FG set to launch campaign to end child marriage.

The Federal Government in Abuja on Monday announced plans to launch a campaign to end child marriage and other related harmful traditional practices in the country.

The Minister of Women Affairs and Social Development, Sen. Aisha Alhassan said this during a media briefing.

Alhassan said the move was borne out of the resolution by African leaders to end child marriage during the 25th African Union Ordinary Session of Heads of State in June 2015.

She said the leaders also resolved to take practical steps in addressing the issues of child marriage and other harmful traditional practices.

“One of first practical steps is a vigorous campaign to end child marriage which will be launched tomorrow Nov. 29 at the Sheraton Hotel.

“Global communities and Nigeria in particular are increasingly recognising child marriage as a serious challenge, both as a violation of human rights and a hinderance to key developmental outcomes,’’ she said.

Alhassan said African countries were faced with the challenges of child marriage which robbed girls or children of their education, health and future.

She said according to UNICEF findings, 15 million children are married off every year globally with devastating consequences on their general wellbeing.

“This is very disturbing as it is further revealed that 15 out of the 20 countries with the highest rates of child marriage in the world are in Africa.

“Fifteen African countries have so far launched the campaign to end child marriage.

“The countries are Ethiopia, Ghana, South Africa, Sierra Leone, Senegal, Niger, the Islamic Republic of Gambia, Malawi, Zimbabwe, Eritrea, Zambia, Chad, Burkina Faso , Mali and Madagascar,” Alhassan said.

She said a National Technical Working Group set up to end child marriage in the country was inaugurated on July 23, 2015 by the ministry.

Alhassan urged the media, development partners and other stakeholders to redouble their efforts in ensuring girl’s rights to freedom from child marriage and other forms of violence against children.

She also urged all stakeholders in the campaign, to be more proactive and come up with concrete actions to end child marriage in the country.

Court dissolves marriage over hubby’s inability to pay dowry.

A Grade “C” Customary Court sitting at Iseyin in Oyo State on Wednesday dissolved a marriage contracted five years ago over inability of a husband to pay dowry.

A correspondent of the News Agency of Nigeria (NAN) reports that Azeez Akeusola watched calmly as court terminated his marriage to his wife Rashidat, due to his inability to pay dowry and other allegations.

“This court finds it disturbing that families of the estranged couple were unable to resolve the lingering crisis between their children who have been married for five years.

“Evidences of threat to life, lack of love and care are obvious. Both families have also lost interest in the union.

“At this juncture, I hereby pronounced the marriage dissolved,” the President of the court, Adelodun Oyegbenle, ruled.

NAN recalls that Rashidat had approached the court seeking dissolution of the marriage over allegations of non-payment of her dowry and a lack of care, among others.

She told court that the union had produced a four-year-old child.

Rashidat also told court that she had tried without success to convince Azeez to do the needful.

“He said he does not have money, yet, he is living very large, drinking and partying every day.

“He claims he does not have money to pay my dowry and be responsible at home.

“I’m tired of living in this kind of marriage. I take care of the family all alone and his family members don’t appreciate that because they keep ganging up against me.

“I have to find my way out of this marriage before they do me harm because they are fetish people,” she alleged.

However, Akeusola responded: “I’m consenting to the dissolution not because she was correct in all that she said but because she is a very rude and uncultured woman.

“She talks to my family members very rudely and in a manner that says she lacks home training and discipline. I’m no longer interested too,” he asserted.

In the judgment, Oyegbenle bemoaned the inability of all parties concerned to resolve the matter out of court.

He, thereafter, dissolved the marriage accordingly.

This is the second time within a month that the court has had to dissolve a marriage on allegation of non-payment of dowry.

Political differences leads five-year-old marriage into divorce.

A 44-year-old man, Iliasu Salami, on Thursday in Iseyin, Oyo State, lost his five-year-old marriage to irreconcilable political differences between him and his estranged wife, Rashidat.

The News Agency of Nigeria reports that Salami had approached the Iseyin Customary Court, seeking the dissolution of the marriage over allegations of disobedience.

He told the court that his wife had no regard for him, adding that his opinions did not count in their affairs.

He said his wife joined a different political party against his instruction and wish.

Salami, however, did not state his or ex-wife’s party.

“All efforts to resolve the issue by both families failed,” Salami said, and pleaded with the court to terminate the marriage.

The President of the customary court, Chief Adelodun Oyegbenle, said, “Rashidat’s refusal to show up in court after several summons and the evidences tendered by the husband on the political differences between them are enough to show that no love is lost between the couple.

“It is unfortunate that the defendant (Rashidat) did not attend any of the court proceedings despite court summons. This court hereby dissolves the five-year-old union.”

Oyegbenle ordered Salami to pay N10,000 monthly upkeep allowance for the two children of the failed marriage.

Transgender Muslim woman hacked to death few days after marrying a man.

A transgender Muslim woman has been hacked to death in Russia days after marrying a man after her father pleaded on television: ‘Bring him here and kill him in front of my eyes’.

Adam Aliev became Raina after a sex change operation in Moscow, and was killed several days after a ‘wedding’ to a man called Viktor.


Adam Aliev became Raina after a sex change operation in Moscow. (Photo: Express gazeta_east2west/DM)
Adam Aliev became Raina after a sex change operation in Moscow. (Photo: Express gazeta_east2west/DM)

The killing took place after the 25-year-old’s father Alimshaikh Aliev had told a TV station: ‘Let him be killed, I don’t want to see him. Bring him here and kill him in front of my eyes.’

The victim was from an ethnic Chechen family living in Dagestan, a Muslim region between the Caspian Sea and Chechnya in the Russian Trans-Caucasus, it was reported.

Following sex change surgery in Moscow around a month ago, a wedding ceremony was held and the murder took place several days later, according to reports.

The circumstances of the killing have not been disclosed.

‘He was hated for his non-traditional sexual orientation and when he changed his sex he was damned and received threats,’ stated Ren TV.


Raina Aliev was from an ethnic Chechen family living in Dagestan, a Muslim region between the Caspian Sea and Chechnya in the Russian Trans-Caucasus. (Photo: Vkonlakle_east3west/DM)
Raina Aliev was from an ethnic Chechen family living in Dagestan, a Muslim region between the Caspian Sea and Chechnya in the Russian Trans-Caucasus. (Photo: Vkonlakle_east3west/DM)
A female neighbour said the victim's father 'had a stroke' when he discovered about the sex change and wedding and issued a 'purman', inviting people to kill Raina. The victim's medical report. (Photo: Express gazeta_east2west/DM)
A female neighbour said the victim’s father ‘had a stroke’ when he discovered about the sex change and wedding and issued a ‘purman’, inviting people to kill Raina. The victim’s medical report. (Photo: Express gazeta_east2west/DM)

‘The young man decided to change his sex because he wanted to marry the man he loved, Viktor from Karachaevo-Cherkessiya (another mainly Muslim region in southern Russia).’

The wedding ‘shocked’ locals, reported Russian Dialog news site.

A female neighbour said the victim’s father ‘had a stroke’ when he discovered about the sex change and wedding and issued a ‘purman’, inviting people to kill Raina.

‘He cheated them, he went there to Moscow, had surgery and he turned from a boy to a girl,’ said the neighbour.

‘And now in Chechnya it is known too. His mother is saying “I don’t want to see him, I gave birth to a son, but what for? It is such a disgrace for the family”.

‘If the mother and father give a purman, it means they want him to be killed.’

The mother was reported to be ‘crying day and night’ over the operation and alleged wedding.

A Dagestan Mufti was quoted by KP newspaper saying: ‘Changing sex is totally forbidden, because it means that a man will be a woman.

‘It is totally forbidden in Islam. Changing sex is a protest against Allah.

‘Such surgery can be performed only in one case: when a person was born as a hermaphrodite and must decided what sex he wants to belong.

‘If a person changed his sex for another reason, he is damned, along with the surgeon who performed it.’

The surgery included breast implants the removal of the penis, it was claimed.

Deputy head of the village administration Abdutagur Israpilov said: ‘I knew Adam. He liked to put on tight leggings, his manners were feminine, even his voice was like a girl’s.

‘He finished school and went to live in Makhachkala (regional capital), and then Moscow, where he worked in nightclubs and made good money.

‘I don’t blame him (for the sex change). His feminine nature had won, so he decided to correct the mistake.

‘I heard that Adam changed his sex and married a man from Kabardino-Balkariya.’

Israpilov said: ‘He received threats. He appealed to police and a local policeman visited our administration because of it, and also a man from prosecutor’s office came.

‘Every second man in the Caucasus wanted to kill him. According to our traditions, it is just a disgrace for his family, it is a dirt on the whole Caucasus.

‘This surgery came as a shock for his mother, she is not talking to anybody now. His father got a stroke.

‘Adam wrote a letter to his friend and said he was angry about his relatives.

‘He said: ‘When they asked me for help, I sent them money, but they betrayed me when they got to know about the surgery’.

The village official said: ‘I did not recognise Adam’s cut-up body when it was brought to the village.’

My Wife is a First-Class Prostitute, Husband tells Court

An electrician, Ibrahim Ekeolu, has said that his wife, Taiwo, is a first-class prostitute.

Ekeolu of Iyemetu-Igosun Areas of Ibadan made the assertion on Friday when he testified in a divorce petition institute by his wife at Mapo Customary Court, Ibadan against him.

The respondent, who denied the allegations in the petition, accepted the divorce request from his wife. “Your honour, Taiwo is a first class prostitute who thinks she can continue to fool me.

“Taiwo goes out and return home at anytime she feels, staying two or three months with her parents.

“In this state of constant abandonment, I saw Taiwo cooking very early one morning, she told me that one of her relatives was sick and needed food in the hospital. “She took the food and I carefully trailed her, I saw her entering an hotel with the food. “Though, I couldn’t get the room she entered, but I waited until she came out with her concubine and both of them sighted me and they took another direction out.

“Taiwo knew what I was going to do, when she got home, she packed out  with most of my belongings.

“Taiwo as a woman is a drunkard, when she returns home late, alcohol smells all over her body and sleeps to unconsciousness.

“When I reported the incident to her parents, they instead supported her as they usually did,” Ibrahim explained.

But, Taiwo, an Ibadan-based trader, had urged the court to dissolve her six-year-old marriage to her husband for allegedly stealing her money. The mother of one and resident of Ireakari-Mokola, told the court that her husband was crippling her life through constant theft of her capital. “For a number of times, Ekeolu has stolen the money meant for my business despite the fact that he does not make any contribution to it. “He has stolen thousands of naira from me to cripple my business and if I ask, he turns me into a punching bag.

“Your honour, he battered me one day such that I collapsed into the gutter. Each time he beat me, I end up in the hospital.

“As if those are not enough, he doesn’t want to know how our only child and I sustain our lives. Worst of all, he is jobless and does nothing about it,” Taiwo said. T

he President of the court, Mr Henric Agbaje, asked the couple to produce evidence to support their claims, and adjourned the case till Nov. 13 for judgment.

Court Dissolves 12 Year Old Marriage Over Attempted Child Sacrifice

A Customary Court in Mapo, Ibadan on Friday dissolved a 12-year-old marriage between an Ibadan-based businesswoman, Sekinat and her husband Raufu Abdulakeem, over attempted child sacrifice.

The President of the court, Mr Ademola Odunade, held that there was nothing the court could do since Sekinat and Raufu had both concluded to part ways.

Odunade, however, awarded custody of the two children produced by the union to Sekinat for proper motherly care.

He directed Raufu to pay a monthly feeding allowance of N3,000 for the upkeep of each of the two children in addition to been responsible for their education and other welfare.

Sekinat had said that Raufu sent her away from the house in order to offer their 11-year-old child for sacrifice.

“My lord, after Raufu, had sent me packing from his home more than a year ago, I came across our 11-year-old child recently and I saw multiple razor mutilation all over his body.

“It was a gory site to behold and I immediately became apprehensive of what my two children were undergoing in my absence with Raufu.

“Then, the child told me that his father, Raufu took him to a ritualist who compelled him to carry some sacrificial objects at 1:00 a.m. after designing his body parts with razor mutilation.

“The boy further said that his father, Raufu, had alleged that he was trying to prevent him from further stealing and that was the reason for the sacrifice.

“My lord, the fundamental questions at this point is that Raufu is an Alfa with strong Islamic background, what is his association with a herbalist and making a child at that tender age to undergo such a midnight exercise.

“Before sending me out of his house, Raufu had subjected me to such dehumanising experiences such as regular battery and inadequate care for I and the two children.

“I have all along been responsible for the welfare of the children and I want to have custody of all the children because he might use them for ritual,” Sekinat stressed.

Raufu, however, denied the allegation.

He acknowledged that it was true that he took his son to a ritualist and the intention was to cure him of the spirit of stealing in him.

“My lord, he is my son, I cannot use him for anything negative, but to take care of his spiritual deficiency,” Raufu said.

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My Wife Is Adulterous, She’s Dating Our Pastor — Husband

Worried by his wife’s adulterous acts, a businessman Kolawole Okeeyi, on Wednesday approached the Igando Customary Court in Lagos to terminate his 31-year-old marriage.

51yrs old Kolawole accused his wife, Funmilayo, with whom he had five children of infidelity.

“My wife is having an affair with my pastor, I got to know when I did not have credit on my phone and wanted to use her phone to call our pastor to report her for starving my mother of food.

“I picked her phone and I saw on the screen ‘sent message’. I mistakenly clicked it and the message opened, I saw several love messages my wife sent and received from our pastor.

“I showed her the messages when she came in, but she begged me, I seized the phone and later confronted our pastor with those text messages, but he told me to do my worst.

“I also caught her with my brother in a hotel in Oyo State; I wanted to ignore them, but I later confronted them so that they will not deny later,” he said.

The petitioner said his wife was after his life and that he had been attacked on two occasions.

“In August 20, 2013, I got to the front of my gate, as I honked for my kids to open the gate, suddenly three men jumped down from a motorcycle, pointing a gun at me.

“But for the timely intervention of the police, I would have been killed. When I entered my house, I told my wife what happened, but she did not say anything.

“Four months later, while coming from work, three men intercepted me, pointing a gun at me to come down and enter the booth, I complied and they drove me off.

“But luckily for me, my phone rang, one of them picked it, the caller addressed me as pastor and said that I should come to the church early that I will be ministering, but I am not a pastor.

“One of the guys said that they should not kill me that I am a pastor; that in the bible God said that they should not touch his anointed or do his prophet harm.

“After a hot argument among them, they stopped the car, stripped me naked and absconded with my car. A good Samaritan gave me clothes to wear. When I got home, I told my wife again about the incident, but she said nothing.

“That same 2013, my only three buses that plied Port-Harcourt, Akure and Abeokuta were involved in accident and were condemned, I again informed my wife, but no response from her,” he said.

He said because of these calamities and threat to his life, he left the house he built same year to start squatting with friends.

He pleaded with the court to dissolve the union that he was no longer in love as his life is in danger.

The wife, 43yrs old Funmilayo, a trader, denied the allegations. She said she was not having an affair with any man. “Those text messages on my phone were forged; I never sent nor received any love messages from our pastor.

“My husband saw me and his brother in a hotel, but we are not dating, his brother just followed me to book for a room when I went for a burial in Oyo State.”

According to NAN, the Court President, Adegboyega Omilola, adjourned the case to November 29 for further hearing.

“I’m Not Allowed To Get Married As An Hausa Actress” – Rahama Sadau

About two months ago at the City People Entertainment awards, embattled Hausa actress, Rahama Sadau had a chat with popular journalist Morakinyo Olugbiji where she talked about Challenges faced by actresses in the Northern part of the country. According to her, one of the challenges is that she is not allowed to get married as long as she is still practising the profession. She either quits or remains single. She also told the journalist her dream to become an international actress. With her recent ban from acting in Kannywood and the invitation to Hollywood by Jeta Amata and US singer, Akon, it looks like Rahama’s dream is fast coming to a reality. Read the interview below… 

You just won an award at the 2016 City People Entertainment Awards, what does this award mean to you?
A lot! It means a whole lot. I was actually surprised about the award.

What would you say that you’ve done within Kannywood to have deserved this?

Well, I will first of all say that finally, my hard work paid off because I am a very hard-working person and a dedicated person. Although I was surprised by winning this award because I wasn’t expecting it,however, it wasn’t a big surprise because I have been working hard and hard work always definitely get rewarded at the end of the day.

With this kind of prestigious award, do you think Kannywood is finally getting it’s due recognition in the Nigerian film industry?
Yes, I think so. It is getting recognised which is why we could be included in this kind of award. In fact, I would say Kannywood is now everywhere.

What’s your major challenge as a Kannywood actress?

My main challenge is trying to break from Kannywood into Nollywood. That is the challenge. I want to be able to juggle between the two industries because I believe that I am a Nigerian actress, not a Kannywood actress. Although, I must say that Kannywood is a foundation for me to start. Kannywood is my root, but then I am a Nigerian actress. A true actress is not boxed into a certain area, a true actress is versatile. So, crossing fully into Nollywood and being accepted as a Nigerian actress, instead of being referred to as a Kannywood actress has been a challenge. I just want to beable to act the two together. But I’m gradually overcoming that.

How did you get into acting?

I had always been a big fan of actors. When I was in secondary school, I joined this drama group entertaining our mates in Secondary school. So being an actress wasn’t something that hadn’t been a part of me. I had been dreaming of being an actress, and I am now.

Who is your mentor in the industry?

Ali Nuhu is my mentor. He is my brother and everything. He is the one that introduced me to Kannywood and everywhere. I am where I am today because of Ali Nuhu. If not for Ali Nuhu, I wouldn’t be here.

What are you aiming towards career-wise?

I want to be an international actress, apart from being a Nigerian actress. I just don’t want to be this actress that whenever it is mentioned anywhere in the world that she is an actress, what will come to mind of people is she belongs to a particular part. I just want to be a world actress, an international actress. So I have this dream of becoming an international actress.

You want to crossover, but a lot of your colleagues seem to complain about the religious and traditional restraint of acting in Kannywood, with that in mind, do you think crossing over will be possible at all?

Honestly, it feels a bit bad. It makes me feel a little bit bad, but you know, you can’t just crossover because of religion and tradition; what you can just do is to be careful in order not to offend the society. You just have to be very careful, especially in my own case that I’m determined to fully cross over. I will be having this challenges of different culture and tradition from Nollywood and Kannywood. So like I said, you just have to be careful.

Now, that you want to fully cross over to Nollywood, don’t you think the ‘offensive’ style of the industry will rub off on you; like the dress sense and all which might infuriate many?

I won’t express too much to attract the fury of the Northerners. I am an ambassador of my northern society and wherever you find yourself, you must represent yourself in a worthy manner. Just as we are here now, everyone that sees us at this event will know that we are from the north.

But that’s because you are still in Kannywood, is that not so?

(Laughs) Even if it is still in Nollywood, there are certain things that you just have to be careful about because you are representing your people and you have to protect their interests and their culture.

I know you are still growing, but what would you consider as the climax of your career so far?

There have been a lot. Like you said, I am still growing. I’m just grateful for every moment. Every moment has been a high point. I just had one with this award. So I would say, Alhamdulillah, Masha Allah.

You saw a lot of jaw-dropping dressing among Nollywood actresses here, for instance when Kiki Omeli was going to claim her award, she causes a stir because of her bum-short which had her derriere wiggling, what was going through your mind?

Yeah, I saw a lot of Nollywood actresses and their dressing and I was like huh? I mean, we don’t dress like this in the north. You know, I can’t walk like that, I just can’t!

What’s your advice to them, do you condemn that or would you say that it’s a free world?

No, no, no! I’m not complaining. It’s their life! Everyone has their lives to live. I’m not complaining at all. They should just do what they want; what they like. So it’s a free world, yes.

Anyone you would like to work with in Nollywood?

Yes, so many people. I have worked with so many already. I have worked Majid Michel, that’s Ghallywood. I have worked with Mercy Johnson, Eniola Badmus, OC Ukeje, Deyemi Okanlawon and a few others I can’t remember now. I’m aiming to work with much more.

What determines your fashion style; I mean you are all covered up, yet you look attractive and fashionable?

Thank you. I just wear what suits me best. What makes me comfortable. That’s just what determines my dress sense.

I’m aware that once you are married, you will not be able to act again, how true is that?

Yes, yes it’s true! But in my own case, I’d say no because there are politicians that are working mothers. Same, there are journalists and broadcasters that are working mothers. Are they not all media people, so what happens to we actresses? Why? That’s my own challenge I’m posing. why? So in my own case, I say no!

When you go against the norm, don’t you think the society that you are will frown at you, or despise you?

They might. I know they might.

So when that time comes what are you going to do?

Hmm, I don’t know. Honestly, I really don’t know.

Are you going to vacate Kannywood?

No, no, no! I won’t do that. I can’t quit acting for marriage.

What if your husband does not want to accept that you continue acting while married to him?

Whoever sees me now and say he wants to marry me, has definitely seen what I do. So, we need to decide whether he can bear me doing this as his wife or not. That’s it. Marriage cannot stop me.

Have you ever been criticised based on being an actress?

Yes. I have been criticised especially for the way I dressed as an actress.

Oh, you are dressed this way and someone still, thinks it’s not appropriate?

Yes, yes because they believe we are meant to cover everything totally. Also, I have been criticised for the things I do on TV and for the collaborations with Nollywood stars of course. That’s my main challenge because I am the first Kannywood actress to cross over to Nollywood.

Finally, tell me briefly about your family background?

My families are all northerners. My dad is from Kaduna state while my mum is from Gombe state. The only difference between my parents and other parents is that my parents don’t care what career you choose as long as you are protective of your background and tradition. They allow you follow your dream. My parents don’t believe in a world of strictness because they believe strictness leads a child to become a bad person.


“Marriage is not meant for everyone” – Banky W

Popular R&B musician, Bankole Wellington, a.k.a Banky W, has explained why he’s not in a hurry to get married.


According to him, marriage is not meant for every single person.


Speaking with Metro FM, the singer said, “The same people who would pressurize you to get married are the people who would criticize you when you fail.


“Oprah Wilson changed the world but she never got married. It is not the destiny of every single person to get married,” he quipped.


The singer had recently said he was fine with being single, and that if he would ever get married, his wedding will be a secret one.

Child marriage hinders girl child development – NGO

The Centre for Learning and Educational Development Advocacy Africa (CLEDA-Africa), an NGO, has said that child marriage is one of the major hindrances to girl child development in the country.

Mr Daniels Akpan, its Executive Director, told the News Agency of Nigeria (NAN) in Kaduna on Tuesday that globally, one in seven adolescent girls aged 15 to 19 are currently married.

“This is even worst in developing countries where one in three girls are married off before they turn 18 and more than 20,000 girls under the age of 18 give birth daily.

“This increases the world population by seven million annually,’’ he said.

Akpan also said that out of the more than seven billion population of the world, 1.1 billion are girls with talents, creativity and full of abilities.

However, he pointed out that culture, religion, tradition, poverty and illiteracy, among other factors, had hindered and limited the full development of the girl child.

As the world celebrates this year’s International Day of the Girl Child, the director called on relevant stakeholders and the global community to strengthen and support girl child progress in Kaduna State and the nation.

According to him, girls are engine of national development and stress the need to promote girl child education in preparing them for a better future.

“This is the best way to stand up for girls’ progress everywhere,’’ Akpan said.

He disclosed that CLEDA Africa had in September trained 150 secondary school girls in Pampaida and Saulawa communities of Ikara Local Government Areas of Kaduna State on vocational skills.

He said that the gesture was to empower the girls financially as part of efforts to encourage them to remain in school.

Akpan called on the Federal and Kaduna State Governments to partner with CLEDA Africa to reach out to young girls and empower them with education and basic skills to live a productive life.

Wife Plants A Tape In Office Bag To Catch Her Cheating Husband In Lagos

A 36-year-old woman, Ifeyinwa Nlemchi,who allegedly burnt her husband’s official documents to protest his adulterous acts, was on Monday hauled up before a Yaba Chief Magistrates’ Court in Lagos.

The accused, who resides at No. 45, Church St., Fiwakesin, Agebde in Ikorodu, Lagos State, is standing trial on a two-count charge bordering on malicious damage.

Prosecutor Roman Unuigbe told the court that the accused committed the offences on September 16 at their residence.

Unuigbe alleged that the accused who suspected that her husband was having an illicit relationship with another woman, planted a tape in his office bag to record their conversations.

He said the accused also found out that her husband was spending time at a hotel with another woman and out of jealousy, took all the documents he had brought from work and set them on fire.

“Her husband, who made a report at the police station, said he wanted her charged to court for wilfully destroying four international passports belonging to clients of Multi Choice Nigeria.’’

The offences contravened Sections 338 and 348 of the Criminal Laws of Lagos State 2011.

Ifeyinwa, however, pleaded not guilty to the charges.
In his ruling, the Chief Magistrate, Mr P.A. Ojo, granted her bail in the sum of N200,000 with two sureties in like sum.

He said one of the sureties must be a blood relation of the accused and should be gainfully employed in a reputable and verified organisation.

In addition, the magistrate said the sureties must show evidence of tax payment to the government.
The case was adjourned to November 4 for substantive trial.

5 Myths About Marriage That Are Totally Untrue

1. The romance eventually dies

Your sex life doesn’t end when you get married! Yes, as time passes things become routine or perhaps less spontaneous than in your 20s, but married couples actually experience more intimacy because there’s a level of trust that may not exist in premarital relationships.

2. Happy couples don’t argue

Let’s get this straight: every couple argues. No matter how compatible you may be with your partner, disagreements are going to happen. It’s how couples communicate and problem-solve that sets them apart from other, less successful relationships.

3. Babies fix everything

Babies bring so much joy into their parents’ lives that it’s hard to imagine ever experiencing negative feelings again. They do, however, add another layer of responsibility and could potentially create further strain on your marital issues. Making sure you’re both on the same page will set you up for success.

4. Love is all you need

While love is the most important thing in any relationship, a successful marriage requires way more than just that. Married couples need to be able to make tough life decisions and navigate hardships together. One of the biggest factors in a marriage is managing finances, and both people need to take responsibility for dealing with expenses.

5. Fairy-tales only exist in movies

Wrong again. A marriage is what you make of it, and as long as both people are committed to a long and happy life together, there’s nothing standing in your way of that dreamy, head-over-heels kind of love story.

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Ever Heard Of Marriage Break? This Woman’s Husband Let Her Take A Year Off Their 17 Years Marriage

After being hitched to her spouse, Scott Mansfield, for 17 years, she made the critical decision to enter into a year-long open marriage so that she could experience life (and by life we mean sex) with other people.

Robin, 50, who lives in San Francisco, says that she and Scott, a brewer and wine-maker, were “stuck in a rut.” She told the New York Post, “Our once-a-week sex life was loving, but lacked spontaneity and passion.”

But, unimaginative sex isn’t what convinced Robin to try her experiment, and ultimately write a book about it. She says that she finally reached a breaking point in her early thirties when she realized that despite years of pleading, Scott would never be willing to have a child with her.

She wrote in The Wild Oats Project, “I refuse to go to my grave with no children and only four lovers… If I can’t have one, I must have the other.”

“I reached a point that a lot of us face in midlife where I was about to have an affair. I knew I was going to cheat, or we were going to get a divorce and something had to change. And I figured if I was going to do it, I was going to be fair and give him the freedom. I knew it was a long shot,” she explains.

And now for the terms: Robin rented an apartment where she lived from Monday through Friday. There she was allowed to court as many suitors as she liked. On the weekends, she returned to Scott and they lived like a happily married couple without asking each other what or who they did during the week.

“It wasn’t as strange as you might imagine. I liked it. It was the perfect balance, living on my own during the week and then returning home,” she writes. “We had sex as always and the open marriage spiced things up — at least at first.”

The few conditions were that they had to practice safe sex, could’t sleep with mutual friends, and had to avoid “serious” relationships. Perfectly reasonable clauses, though they were all violated.

Robin, who had been off the market for awhile, began her exploits by posting an ad on

Within one day, she had 23 offers.

Her first paramour was a 40-year-old lawyer but she quickly moved on to younger men. She recalls texting her hubby goodnight from a Las Vegas hotel room immediately after a 23-year-old guy left her bed.

Over all, she had 12 encounters. Two were with women, one of them was a threesome.

After her trial year of condoned dalliances was up however, Robin and Scott struggled to make their marriage work.

“Moving back home full time proved more difficult than I had thought. After you open up a marriage and experience a whole range of sexual variety and aspects of yourself you’ve never had before, it’s hard to put everything back in the box. You’re changed.”

“Suddenly I found an updated version of myself. The person I was at 44 was so much different than the woman I’d been when I was last single at 26. She was less shy, more confident, wilder.”

Scott, had changed too. For nearly six months he had been exclusively seeing one woman, who happened to be younger than Robin but she says that didn’t bother her.

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Woman Claims Wearing Her Wedding Dress On Each Year Of Her Anniversary Keeps The Spark Alive In Her Marriage

A woman who puts her wedding dress back on every year on her anniversary claims the tradition keeps the spark alive in her marriage.

Samantha Burns, a relationship coach who lives in Boston, US, says wearing the white strapless gown brings back memories of her special day and reminds her of the vows she exchanged.

So far she’s worn it while playing golf, on a sunset cruise with her husband and eating pancakes.

Samantha explained: “When I pull out my wedding dress and put it on, it brings back the magic of that special day. It reminds me of the vows we exchanged, and the start of our married life together.”

She told how she has a “travel bucket list” of destinations where she’d like to wear the dress she first donned on her wedding day in August 2014.

Samantha said: “Top of the list are Africa, Thailand and Australia.

“So maybe on a safari, riding an elephant or surfing would be good.”

She admitted she does often get the odd weird look when she’s wearing the bridal gown in public at an occasion that is very much not a wedding.

But in her mind, the yearly event is an important one.

She explained: “Though it may seem like a silly tradition, there’s actually science to support why creating fun customs like this help you to keep a spark burning bright in your relationship.

“I Am Not Ready For Marriage”, Patoranking Reveals.

Nigerian reggae-dancehall singer, Patrick Nnaemeka Okorie, popularly known as Patoranking, has disclosed that marriage is not presently on his agenda.


The singer stated this in an interview with Hip TV.


He said, “Right now, I am just concerned about my career and family. I am single and ready to mingle. Marriage is not in the question for me.”

Are You Above 25 & Under Pressure To Marry? This Video Is A Must Watch

In China, the term “sheng nu” — which translates to “leftover woman” — is offhandedly used to describe single women, many barely over the age of 25. Even in 2016, the single adult lifestyle is seen as embarrassing for these women’s families, which explains the popularity of “marriage markets,” matchmaking hubs wherein parents seek suitable partners for their shamefully single daughters. In this video from Chinese skin care brand SK-II, some of these so-called “leftovers” attempt to stand up against the pressure to settle . . . for a partner, lifestyle, or societal expectation that doesn’t suit them.

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Jhene Aiko’s Nigerian Husband, Dot Da Genius Finally Speaks.

Estranged husband of Singer, Jhene Aiko, Oladipo Omisore who popularly goes by the name ‘Dot Da Genius’ has addressed the allegations leading up to his breakup with the singer whom he got married to not quite long ago.

Recall that Jhene Aiko had accused the Nigerian man of abuse.

In reply to the accusation, Dot Da Genius wrote:

In light of the public threats, false allegations, and attempts to slander my name and character, I am compelled to speak up. Because my nature is peaceful, I’ve been silent out of respect for all involved, and to maintain my privacy. However, I believe the truth must be heard, which is that I’ve never been violent or abusive towards any woman in my life. Such behaviour is abhorrent to me and fat from how I conduct myself. Moving forward, I will continue to focus on my family, friends, and music, and soon enough the entire truth shall come to light.”



Court Dissolves 83 Day Old Marriage In Ibadan

A Mapo Customary Court in Ibadan on Wednesday dissolved an 83-day-old marriage between Pa Owolabi Alowonle and his wife, Idia, for deception. Alowonle, 70, a surveyor was a widower before he married Idia, who was a widow.

The President of the court, Mr Hentic Agbaje, held that both Alowonle and Idia based their rush into marriage on infatuation and the urge to satisfy their selfish ambitions. “I don’t exactly understand why two elderly persons who are already widow and widower should carelessly rush into a marriage without proper knowledge of one another.

“Well, I only wish both of you good as you have both accepted dissolution of the union. Therefore, in the interest of peaceful coexistence, the 83-day-old union between Alowonle and Idia has ceased to be henceforth,” he said.

He, however, directed Alowonle to provide a cash of N12,000 for Idia’s accommodation and another N2,000 for the movement of her belongings within seven days.

Earlier, in his petition, Alowonle, told the court that Idia was causing disharmony in his house as well as being a threat to his life. “My lord, ever since Idia got to my home on May 18 this year, she has been doing everything possible to put an end to my life by not giving me rest of mind.

“She has been causing serious disharmony among my tenants who were peaceful before she married me. She and her daughter from time to time fight and gossip around the house giving unfounded information of one tenant to the other.

“As if that is not enough, Idia incited her daughter against me to abuse and break the long existing regulations I imposed on the house for peaceful coexistence of the tenants and my family.

“I barred any form of singing of religious songs which I know could cause problems among Muslim and Christian tenants.

“However, the daughter she brought from her late husband deliberately started singing in the house. In fact, Idia and her daughter have no respect for me,” Alowonle explained.

Idia, who did not deny any of the allegations, welcomed the divorce suit.

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“Men, If You Have No Income, You’re Not Entitled To Have An Erection” – Toke Makinwa

Popular On Air Personality, OAP, Toke Makinwa, has waded into the much debated advice by the General Overseer of the Redeemed Christian Church of God, Pastor E.A Adeoye to young men and women concerning marriage.


In a video, Adeboye warned women, “Don’t marry a man who has no job. Before God gave Adam Eve, he gave him a job. He said, ‘This is the garden, keep it.’ So when anybody comes to you and say, ‘Sister, thus saith the Lord, you are going to be the star in my firmament,’ ask him — ‘What is your job?’”


In another video, he advised men, “Marry a prayer warrior! Don’t marry any girl who cannot pray for one hour non-stop. Don’t marry a girl who is lazy! If she is lazy when she is single, what will happen if she is married?”

The warning trended on twitter, with many countering his claims while others insisted the soft-spoken preacher was on point.


On her part, the OAP took to her Instagram page @tokemakinwa to support Pastor Adeboye.


The divorced media personality wrote: “A man is to provide for his household and not the other way round. If he has no income, he should not marry #deepbuttrue.


“The foundation remains. Men too should pray but because women pay more attention to details, it is important to know how to pray.


“The issue of praying for an hour, it is said that a man is the roof and the woman the foundation.


“If the wind blows the roof, cooking is not an issue. He didn’t assay she must cook for you every day of her life?… Read between the lines people.


“Before God gave Adam eve, he gave him a job. Ladies shine your eyes. Let his vision materialize before you marry him.


“Pastor Adeboye did not say anything bad, if anything I would hope the women take the advice on men seriously.


“Matter of fact, if he has no income, he is not entitled to an erection.


Let him find another job, let him find something to do,” the 31-year-old added.

“Don’t Marry A Woman Who Cannot Cook” – Pastor Adeboye On Marriage [Video]

Pastor Adeboye On Marriage – The issue of cooking in marital homes is a common debate on social media, with arguments for and against whose duty it is


The General Overseer of the Redeemed Christian Church of God, Pastor E.A. Adeboye, has his own opinion on the topic, and he’s certainly very traditional.


According to the Vanguard, Adeboye, while speaking to his congregation, advised his young male congregation not to marry lazy woman and women who can’t cook.


Don’t ever marry outside the church and you have no reason to marry outside RCCG,” Adeboye is quoted as saying to his congregation.


“The reason is that if you are both from the same church even when trouble comes it is easier for the pastors to handle it! “Don’t marry a girl simply because she can sing! In the choir there are some people that can sing but they are fallen angels!


Marry a prayer warrior! If a girl cannot pray for one hour, don’t marry her. Don’t marry a girl who is lazy! Don’t marry a girl who cannot cook, she needs to know how to do chores and cook because you cannot afford to be eating out all the time.”


Don’t marry a girl who is worldly! If you do, you have carried what you’ll worship for the rest of your life!” he advised.

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Husband Battering: Court Dissolves 33 Year Old Marriage

Unable to withstand further beatings from his wife of 33 years, Emmanuel Osuya , 58, on Wednesday secured a divorce from the battering woman, Abigail.
“My wife wants to kill me, she beats me almost every day with dangerous weapons. On three occasions, she broke my leg, preventing me from going out for days.

“Due to her frequent beating, I got paralysed in 2012 and that made the beating unabated,’’ the News Agency of Nigeria (NAN) quotes Osuya as pleading.
An Igando Customary Court in Lagos dissolved the marriage, as its president, Mr Adegboyega Omilola said he was convinced that the couple could no longer live together as the petitioner insisted on divorce after several interventions.
“The court has no choice than to dissolve the union in spite of the fact that the wife still claims she loves her husband.
“The couple can no longer stay together because the marriage has broken down totally: both parties are no longer husband and wife, they are free to go their separate ways,” Omilola ruled.
Osuya, a retired civil servant, had approached the court to dissolve his 33-year-old marriage over alleged battering by his wife.
Osuya said that Abigail, with whom he had five children, was always threatening his life through battering, and that he was afraid she might kill him one day.
Osuya also accused his wife of turning his children against him, thereby making them to hate him.
“Abigail succeeded in creating enmity between me and my children, she tells them false and damaging stories about me in order for them to hate me.
“So, my children only care for her by sending her money and other items every month, without extending their love to me. They always ignore me as if I do not exist,’’ the battered husband said.
The petitioner also described his wife as a thief that was always stealing his money, rendering him financially broke.
He said it became so bad that he could no more keep money at home because of his wife’s penchant for stealing.
“She is not always satisfied with the money I give her, in spite of the fact that my children always send her money every month,’’ the petitioner said.
Osuya added that Abigail also starved him of food and sex.
He appealed to the court to dissolve the marriage, saying that “I am no longer interested in the marriage, I don’t want to die now, more so that I am out of love’’.
The respondent also said that she had never stolen her husband’s money.
The mother of five added that she used to cook for her husband whenever he gave her money for food.
She begged the court not to grant her husband’s prayer that she was still in love with him.

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Court Dissolves 2 Years Marriage Over Deceit, Laziness

A Mapo Customary Court in Ibadan on Tuesday dissolved a two-year-old marriage between Bolaji, a banker and her husband, Tope Adeniyi, over laziness and deception into marriage

The presiding president of the court, Mr Henric Agbaje, held that what had just happened should be a big lesson to young ladies and even men.

Agbaje said that they should try as much as possible to distinguish between appearance and reality.
He added that the establishment of an enduring marriage institution transcends mere mouth making in order to put a woman in the house.

“In the interest of peace and tranquility, the court has put an end to the union between Bolaji and Adeniyi.
He awarded custody of the two-year-old child to Bolaji and ordered Adeniyi to N5,000 monthly feeding allowance for the upkeep of the child and his other welfare.

In her petition to the court, Bolaji said that Adeniyi deceived her into a hopeless marriage, painting a picture of what he was not.
“We met each other just at the time when I was just starting my NYSC, making all the promises in this world.

“Adeniyi with his sugar-coated mouth told me that he was a well paid worker of an oil company in Port Harcourt and he did go there often in my presence.

“I eventually got pregnant for him, he then took me to an hotel for our honeymoon and I was surprised that we didn’t go to his home for the honeymoon.

“I received further shock when his elder brother invited us into his apartment to live there for sometimes.

“After six months, his brother’s wife stylishly drove me out when she started misbehaving towards me because we were staying too long in their house.
“With my job as a banker, I started taking responsibility of most of the things, including feeding and furnishing the house.
“Worst still, Adeniyi took to unleashing mayhem on me at any slightest disagreement as well as destroying my property.

“Then, one day, I moved to my parents’ home telling them how providence has brutally changed my life.
“As a matter of fact, Adeniyi had no qualification because he had no higher education, had no job, but dresses well because his brother works with an oil company and sometimes gave him money.

“For more than a year now, we have been staying apart,” Bolaji explained.
Adeniyi, who had no explanation to deny all the allegations rejected the divorce request.
“My lord, I love Bolaji and I don’t want to divorce her for the reason of love and because of our child who might suffer.

“Bolaji’s father had told both of us that he is not interested in any divorce and that anyone who wants to divorce should just write him a letter and not the court process,” Adeniyi said.

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Court Dissolves Marriage Over Constant Battering

A Customary Court in Osogbo, Osun State, has dissolved a marriage of eight years between a trader, Mrs. Adedeji Suliyat, and her husband, Mr. Adedeji Teslim, who is a shoe-maker, over the husband’s constant beating of his wife.

Suliyat who dragged her husband to court accused him of lack of care for both her and their two children, including absence of peace in their matrimonial home.

“I have reported him to his parents but they told me they were less concerned and that we should sort ourselves out since we agreed to marry ourselves,” Suliyat added.

Teslim, however, denied his wife’s claims but agreed to have the marriage dissolved, saying Suliyat turned him into a shoe-maker.

“I was doing well and living comfortably in Lagos before she made me lose my job due to her constant trouble, now I am just managing myself but things are hard, I even find it hard to eat sometimes,” he said.

After listening to both parties, the president of the court, Chief Gabriel Oparanti, dissolved the marriage with immediate effect.

He, however, implored the husband to take the welfare of his children seriously despite the divorce.

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15yr Old Patience Paul Narrates How She Was Abducted & Sexually Abused For 7 Months In Sokoto

Patience Paul, the 15 year old Benue state born girl who was abducted on August 12th last year and forced into Marriage in Sokoto state where she resides with her family, has narrated how she was abducted and sexually abused by her abductor for 7 months. Patience was freed on March 4th after the Sokoto state governor, Aminu Tambuwal, intervened in her case.

Speaking in an Interview with Leadership, Patience who is a primary six pupil, said her abductor and some Hisbah (Sharia police) personnel took her to an Imam in Runjin Sambo area of Sokoto with a
claim that she wanted to convert to Islam.

“I was sent to buy biscuits and on my way I saw him (her abductor) and he persuaded me to come to his bungalow.”she said Patience said she was not forced into marriage but that her abductor turned her into a sex slave at the house of the Sarkin Baki. “Yes, he was forcefully making love to me any time he wanted. They first took me to Sarkin Baki house, and kept me there for seven months before my parents came looking for me. They gave me something to drink, but I refused to take the drink, and they took me to one room and locked me inside the room. They forcefully made me to turn to Muslim and gave me another name, Aisha. Some people wanted to marry me, but the Sarkin Baki refused and said until I finish Islamic school before they marry me off”.

Patience’s abductor has been arrested and will soon be prosecuted.

Hulk Hogan’s Ex-Wife, Linda Writes Him, Says ‘I HATE YOU’

Linda Hogan broke down as she read an emotional letter she penned to her ex, Hulk Hogan, telling him: ‘You single-handedly ruined our 25-year marriage.’

‘I want the world to know how I feel about him,’ she tearfully told Inside Edition’s Jim Moret. ‘I gave that man everything. I gave him everything that I had.’

She added that she will never be able to forgive him until he seriously apologizes to her and their children, Brooke and Nick.

 ‘I was honest, I was a good wife. I never cheated on him,’ she added.

In her letter, which she says she intends to send to her ex-husband, she adds: ‘You took me for granted and never appreciated me or our beautiful family… blaming me for your horrendous mistakes. It was NEVER about me. It was always about you and your narcissism.’

She added: ‘I hate you, but probably not as much as you must hate yourself, and until you can really apologize to me and to our children… I will never ever forgive you.’

Linda, 56, also said she believed her ex deserves nothing from his suit against Gawker, a media outlet he is suing for publishing his s3x tape with his then best friend’s wife.

The couple wed in 1983, but their marriage ended after she filed for divorce in 2007.

26 Year Old Ugandan Singer Guvnor Ace Abandons 68 year old Swedish Wife for Younger Woman

26 year old Ugandan singer, Guvnor Ace who shot to fame and made international headlines last year after his wedding to a 68 year old Swedish woman named Mona Lisa Larsson has finally dumped her.

As at that time, Guvnor made it a daily routine flaunting his unshakable love for his wife and how it was never going to die despite an international outcry.

Fast forward to today, Guvnor Ace’s 68 year old wife is now crying out that Ace has dumped her for a younger Ugandan woman.

A heart broken Mona-lisa Larsson took to Facebook yesterday to vent her anger in broken English and call her estranged husband ” a cheap  and poor bush man after money” .

She said he tricked her by asking her to go shopping, only to come back and find him gone. He
allegedly fled with a Ugandan Woman to Norway. Aged Mona-Lisa accuses Gurvnor of having planned with the Norway based girlfriend to dupe her  into marriage in order to gain entry to Europe and then abandon her. She alleges Guvnor is now seeking political asylum in Europe. Below is what she shared on Facebook:

Are you surprised their love story ended this way?

‘Inseparable’ Couple Married for 76 Years Die within Three Days of Each Other

An inseparable couple who were married for 76 years and went everywhere together including work have died within three days of each other.

Phyllis and Miles Higgin met at a dance in 1933 when she was just 15 years old – marrying in 1939 and only separated when he was sent to war.

They even worked alongside each other running pubs and once retired would go out for walks with their dog up to three or four times a day.

Even as they fell ill they shared a double room together at their care home in Burnley, Lancs.

Their family say Phyllis died aged 97 – and Miles died just three days later aged 99.

Loved ones thought poorly Miles would go first but believe “he waited for her to die – he didn’t want to leave her alone.”

Their only child, Angela Hartley, 66, paid tribute to her parents’ wonderful love story.

Their romance began in 1933 when they met at a dance when Phyllis was just 15 years old.

Mum-of-two Angela said: “Dad always said that he knew he had met the woman he wanted to marry.”

But the pair didn’t rush into things and did not marry until 1939.

Miles was then sent to war and they were apart during his active service where he worked as a cook for the Royal Artillery, stationed in Germany and Belgium.

During that time they exchanged many-a-love letter.

They were lucky to be reunited a staggering six years later.

Retired Angela, who used to work as a supervisor in a doctors’ surgery, said: “So many young men lost their lives and did not come home.

“Dad often talked of how he was lucky to be alive. He talked of several trains that he should have gone on but didn’t and then they ended up being blown up.”

After the war Phyliss became a weaver in the mills and Miles a miner.

Only child Angela, a much wanted and longed for child, came along in 1949.

She said: “I had a happy childhood and a happy life with them. They were brilliant parents and brilliant grandparents. They were family oriented and they were very devoted.

“They did everything together, they never went anywhere on their own.”

Through her teens the family lived in pubs for around 15 years when they entered the pub trade and managed two pubs in the market town during the 1960s.

Mr and Mrs Higgin, who had two grandchildren and two great-grandchildren, were popular figures, with Miles ending his working life at the former Brockhall Hospital while Mrs Higgin worked in the canteen at Great Universal Stores.

Angela said: “Both my parents suffered with dementia. My mum was admitted to hospital after a fall and it was the proviso for her release that she go into a home.

“During her hospital stay I had looked after my dad and found it very difficult to cope. He did not like being without my mum.

“It turned out there was a double room at the care home so they went there together.”

After they retired the would spend hours walking together. They had a little dog and would go out three or four times a day for walks, walking around the town.

As their health deteriorated a couple of years ago Miles became Phyllis’ carer as she suffered with dementia.

But Miles soon became ill himself with dementia and several other life debilitating ailments such as prostate cancer and chronic lung disease.

Angela said:

 “I cannot fault the carers in the care home. They didn’t just care for my mum and dad, I felt they actually loved them.
“It became hard at the very end, we didn’t tell my dad that my mum was ill because we didn’t want to upset him.
“I was there during her final days and was with her as she passed away.
“It was heartbreaking telling my dad but I don’t think it sank in at first. We took him to her and he gave her a kiss.
“But it wasn’t until the next day that he asked for my mum all day long. It was so sad.
“I then stayed with my dad as his health deteriorated.
“I used to think my dad would go first because he was in worse health than my mum, but now I know that he was holding on for Mum. He didn’t want to leave her alone.
“Then when she had gone, he knew he could go too.”

 A joint funeral for the couple took place on Christmas Eve.

Angela said: “It was a sad day to have a funeral on but it was a beautiful ceremony. They were both carried in vintages hearses with a procession of vintage cars, it was absolutely wonderful.

“It is so hard to lose them both together, but at the same time it is nice to know they have never been apart, they have lived long and happy lives and they lived it together.”

‘I Can’t Marry A Fair Complexioned Girl Unless I See Her Childhood Photo’ – M.I

MI has opened up on his phobia’s ,confessing to Potpourri (Vanguard) in an interview that he lives in mortal fear of fair girls because he believes most of them are not natural. He said before he would take one for a wife he would need to see a picture of her as a child just to make sure she is naturally fair and not artificial. According to him, most girls have bleached their skins for so long that it almost looks natural.He said:

Talking about the physical side of what I want in a woman, I want my children to be tall, so, she must be tall because I am not tall. Then I don’t care about complexion. If she
is fair, that would be a problem because I would have to see  her childhood picture to confirm if she’s natural or artificial. Most ladies that claim to be fair or appear to be fair these days get unnatural means to achieve it. So, getting her childhood picture would tell me all I need to know concerning her true complexion”, he declares

He however conceded that he would take in any girl claiming to have got pregnant for him if he has the proof that they have had sexual relations before.

“Yes, if I have a proof that we have been together and done it because I believe that the best way for a child to be raised is for  both parents to be around. Look at somebody like 2Face he has shown love to all his kids and they are very close. Not only that, he has also maintained a good relationship with the mothers. When such situations arise, the best you can do is to make the most of it by staying true to yourself and be fair to all concerned”

Woman Turns Down Boyfriend’s Marriage Proposal For Most Unbelievable Reason

Getting married because you love someone is so last year, this year it’s all about the size of the diamond.

That’s according to this young woman anyway, who turned down her boyfriend’s marriage proposal because the diamond on the ring was too small.

The poor guy had gone to some effort to put a ring on it as well, getting down on one knee while a troop of hired dancers performed an elaborate display for the lucky lady.

She initially appeared to be overcome by the moment, starting to cry as he made his move, but this emotion soon switched to anger as she was confronted by the size of the diamond.

One eyewitness to the event in Chengdu, China, told local TV: “Her eyes went wide as she put her hand over her mouth, and then she turned around and walked away without saying anything.”

Ice cold. And a screenshot of a conversation she had with a mate afterwards has been leaked, with her allegedly saying:

” But he agreed to buy me a diamond ring as large as one carat.

Why was this one so small?

Is he so careless or has he ever cared about me?”

Before the friend replies:

“Don’t worry.

Perhaps the bigger one will be waiting for you later or he hasn’t prepared it for this time.”

Wonders upon wonders

“Koko Master” D’banj Finally Getting Married, Wedding Billed To Hold On 12th December…..

Good news! The koko master and the music star D’banj is finally getting married. The identity of the lucky girl is yet unknown, He (koko master) has decided to keep it a top secret for now; but she is definitely from the western part of the country, Our inside source revealed. D’banj does not want too much hype and media coverage for his wedding, he added.

According to the inside source, the wedding was originally billed for the 21st of november, but was eventually rescheduled to hold on the 12th of December. The venue of the wedding is yet unknown
but it will sure take place in Lagos, he said.

Watch this space for more info of the wedding of our Favorite Koko Master………

Source: Nairaland

7 Types Of Marriage Betrayal That Are Often Overlooked (MUST READ)

1. You always put the kids first. 

Who comes first in your life, your spouse or the kids? While you should prioritize your kids’ needs, putting too much focus on them could cheat your spouse out of your energy and full presence, said Otto Collins, a relationship coach who co-authored the book Passionate Spark, Lasting Love with his wife Susie.

“You think focusing on your kids and other obligations will strengthen and make your relationship better but instead the exact opposite happens,” said Collins. “You and your spouse end up becoming strangers who pass each other in the hallway and passion and connection withers and dies. You may love each other but you’re not ‘in love’ anymore largely because you’ve neglected the relationship without even realizing it.”

2. You emotionally cheat by confiding in someone else. 

Your spouse should be your emotional confidante, the sounding board you turn to when you need to share just about anything. If you start emotionally opening up to someone else — especially someone you’re attracted to — you could be well on your way to having an emotional affair, said Los Angeles-based psychotherapist Foojan Zeine. (It’s especially bad if you start sharing unflattering details about your relationship with this new person.)

“When a partner begins to give that special place of friendship, closeness and intimacy to another person, we feel cheated,” she said. “Your spouse shouldn’t take the place of your best friends, but he or she needs to have the security and openness of being the person you turn to the most. To foster a close emotional relationship that goes over and above what you have with your partner feels like a betrayal.”

3. You’re glued to your phone all day. 

It doesn’t matter if you’re sifting through important work emails or texting your buddies about fantasy football picks, spending an excessive amount of time on your phone when you’re in the company of your spouse sends a clear message to him or her: I could be spending my downtime with you, but I’d rather be on my phone.

“Everyone needs downtime and these activities help us to decompress but they become troublesome when they are substitutes for meaningful interaction with your spouse,” Wilke said. “Ask yourself: Am I spending more time perusing social media than talking to my spouse?”

4. You cheat on your spouse financially.

Those secret credit card purchases you’ve been making behind your spouse’s back are bound to come to light eventually — and when they do, it could spell major trouble. A 2011 study conducted by the National Endowment for Financial Education found that 68 percent of the time, financial infidelity had a negative impact on relationships, with 16 percent of marriages ending because of it.

“When one mate withholds financial information, it breaks down the fundamental trust in their partnership,” said Zeine. “The partner who has to pay the consequence of the other’s financial actions usually feels cheated. Lack of transparency in this area leads to minimum trust. You no longer feel like part of a team.”

5. You spend more time with your friends than with your spouse. 

Having hobbies and interests outside of your marriage is important — and being together 24/7 isn’t exactly healthy. But it’s a problem when your spouse feels as though he or she has taken a backseat to nearly everything else in your life, especially your friends. Otto Collins said he’s learned this firsthand.

“Many years ago, when I was much younger and still married to my first wife, I went to 26 concerts in one year (mostly without her) while she was home taking care of our young son,” he recalled. ” The marriage broke up for many reasons but the fact is that I put outside activities above the relationship, which didn’t help. Putting close friends before your spouse creates distance and mistrust between the two of you, which could harm your relationship.”

 5. You rant about your spouse to others. 

You may think venting to friends about your husband’s annoying grooming habits is harmless, but a small betrayal of trust occurs any time you say something to friends or family that derides your spouse, said relationship coach Susie Collins.

“My husband and I have a rule in our relationship that we teach to all of our coaching clients: never ever say or do anything when you’re not with your partner that you wouldn’t say or do if they were standing right beside you,” she said. “Many people think it’s healthy to ‘unload’ or just connect with friends by revealing their partner’s innermost secrets or sins but it always backfires. Even if your spouse never finds out what you said, it creates coldness between the two of you that you may not even be aware of.”

7. You stonewall your spouse. 

Stonewalling your spouse — becoming defensive and withdrawing from an interaction or argument instead of talking it though — can be extremely harmful to your relationship, said Zeine.

“Withholding thoughts, beliefs and emotions contradicts the purpose of our intimate relationships,” she said. “When a spouse gives the silent treatment or says ‘nothing is wrong’ when there is something wrong, you feel powerless against the wall that is put up. You feel cheated by your mate having the power to shut you down and close any ways of moving closer.”

And when you don’t speak up, the worst is usually assumed, she said.

“The passive-aggressive silent treatment gives our mate the space to interpret whatever they want about us.  In times of hurt and anger, the assumptions and interpretations are usually very one sided and self-serving,” she said.

Credit: HuffPost

Russian Man Marries A Pizza, Says It Would Not Reject Or Betray You

A 22-year-old Russian man recently got married to a pizza…yes, you read right. Pizza, that round flat bread usually topped with tomato sauce and cheese and baked in an oven. Except that this particular pizza wore a white wedding veil. The ceremony allegedly took place in the city of Tomsk, Russia, in a pizzeria with chefs and managers as witnesses because Russian authorities refused to officially register the marriage and a church also declined. Awon ti won ni she se! Lol
The unnamed groom says he decided to marry his favourite fast food after getting bored of the single life. “Love between two humans is a complicated wild thing,” he said. “Pizza, on the other hand, would not reject you or betray you, and speaking quite frankly and sincerely, I love it.” The restaurant even presented the groom and his ‘bride’ with an unofficial wedding certificate on a clipboard.

Man Kills Girlfriend For Rejecting Marriage Proposal In Imo

One Miss Onyinyechi Okegbulam of Egbu in Owerri North Local Government Area of Imo State has allegedly been killed by her boyfriend for refusing his marriage proposal.

A source said that the girl was shot in the head at close range by her supposed boyfriend in the village.

The source recalled that the deceased was, last Saturday, lured out of her family home by the boyfriend at about 7p.m.

“Some people, who were close to the scene of the crime that night, reported that as soon as the boy saw the girl approaching him, he fired at her,” the source said.

Another source claimed that soon after shooting the girl, the young man tried to smuggle Onyinyechi’s lifeless body into his car but scampered for safety when a woman raised alarm, which attracted several people to the scene.

Another story, however, had it that the boyfriend was responsible for the entire educational expenses of the girl, who later ditched him.

A resident of the area said: “We heard that the boy picked the bills for the girl’s education, but that the girl later abandoned the boy and opted to marry another man.

“We have even heard that the marriage has been fixed before the boyfriend struck.”

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Halle Berry & Husband Divorcing After Two Years Of Marriage

Halle Berry has filed for divorce from her husband, Olivier Martinez, after two years of marriage. The couple announced their split in a joint statement on Tuesday, Oct. 27.

“It is with a heavy heart that we have come to the decision to divorce,” they told TMZ. “We move forward with love and respect for one another and the shared focus for what is best for our son. We wish each other nothing but happiness in life, and we hope that you respect our, and most importantly our children’s privacy, as we go through this difficult period.”

According to TMZ, the Oscar-winning actress cited irreconcilable differences in her divorce documents.

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Four Ways My Selfishness Healed My Marriage

1. I got a hobby.

And when I say, I got a hobby, I don’t mean I just went out there and started taking knitting classes. I took some time to reflect on the parts of myself that I had neglected for so long. As the nature caretakers that women are, we naturally seek to take care of others often at the expense of our own well being and health. So I took stock over my life, and although I loved being a wife and mother, there was a part of me that I needed to bring back to life. I felt like something was missing and I needed to go out there and find out what that was. In the process, I rekindled my love of writing. I am now a blogger and just published my first book.

2. Just say NO!

I made the conscious choice to stop perpetuating the Black Superwoman Syndrome. I can’t be everything to everyone all the time, and when it came down to it, I didn’t want to! Acquiescing to everyone’s needs can really begin to create a sense of resentment and unappreciation in your life, and that’s no way to live. There’s nothing wrong with saying no to additional responsibilities at work or saying no to cooking dinner every now and then. You’ve got to carve out time for yourself and it’s never going to happen if you’re constantly chasing after others. Make sure you take time to fill yourself back up so you can continue to pour into others.

3. Become a health nut.

LOL, I don’t mean those annoying kind, I mean someone who consciously takes account for what you put in your body and what you do with your body. So make changes in your diet and what you feed your family. I know it can be hard to introduce new and healthy foods to young kids and a husband, but take it one step at a time. Also, make exercise a priority in whatever form works best and you’re most comfortable performing. Looking good and feeling good is a great recipe for a thriving marriage so get to work! Also, surround yourself with healthy thoughts and people. Health extends beyond our physical appearance and what you think and listen to has more power over you than you could imagine. So take stock of your mindset and make sure that the things you want in your life are also the things you speak out of your mouth.

4. Get away.

My husband and I are very serious about spending time away from each other. We both plan trips away with friends and the time apart keeps us stronger. Not ready to take a long getaway from your spouse? Then plan girl’s nights out once a month or so. It’s so important to cultivate relationships outside of your primary one which adds a new layer of depth to you. Spending time away from your spouse and experiencing new things without them also serves as lessons to bring back to your marriage. And finally, we’ve all heard the phrase, “absence makes the heart grow fonder”, and it really does. My husband and I miss each other while we’re away, we give each other space to have a good time without the other, and when we come home, we’re that much more excited to re-engage and re-connect.

Of course all this comes down to communication, a cornerstone to marriage, and when I started to communicate my needs to my husband more openly and unapologetically, he got on board and our relationship grew in deeper intimacy. So now it’s your turn, how can you be more selfish in your marriage?

‘Ruggedman Did Not Sleep With Toni Payne, But I Haven’t Forgiven Him’- 9ice

Once upon a time, controversial rapper and clothing line owner, Ruggedman and 9ice were very close friends. In fact, some people started to know about 9ice when the rapper featured him in one of his songs back then entitled ‘Ruggeddy Baba.’

But that is ancient history as today, the two don’t see eye to eye.

When 9ice released his controversial single, ‘Once Bitten’, tongues wagged and the rumour mill claimed 9ice sang about his marriage in the song. Many were quick to say 9ice was referring to
Ruggedman as the man he said he caught sleeping with his lover.

What made the issue to look credible was that it was almost after the release of the controversial song that 9ice ended his marriage with Toni Payne.

Though some of 9ice’s friends were expecting him to speak with the media that he was not referring to Ruggedman and Toni Payne in the song, but this did not quickly come, which made some of them to conclude that 9ice was happy with the controversies surrounding the song, which was boosting its rating on the charts then.

Speaking on a TVC programme, ‘Entertainment Splash’, Nigeriafilms reports that 9ice explained that he is yet to forgive Ruggedman.

According to him, he cannot forgive the rapper because what caused the ‘malice’ between them was yet to be settled.

He said, “I can’t forgive Ruggedman if he does not apologise to me.” When asked the offence the rapper committed, the singer, who is now a Special Assistant to the Oyo State governor, Abiola Ajimobi, said, “He interfered in another man’s matter.”
He further revealed that, “Ruggedman did not sleep with Toni Payne, he dares not do that,” saying in Yoruba language that ‘Iyawo ole ni won ma ngba’, which loosely means ‘it is only a lazy man’s wife that can be snatched.’

7 Ways To Keep Your Marriage Exciting

1. Learn something new

There is nothing as intimidating and enlivening as learning something new. It can be daunting to put yourself in a situation where you don’t know what to expect. But this is exactly why you should do it. When you do something unknown and uncomfortable, you’ll rely on your partner. You’ll laugh at yourself and each other, and be partners in embarrassment. There is something wonderful about being vulnerable and open. Learning something new will get you there. Take an acro yoga class, join a kickball team, take knitting lessons, or learn to salsa dance.

2. Take interest

We all have interests that we don’t have in common with our significant others. Your spouse may take Pilates three times a week, while you have no idea what Pilates really is. It’s OK to have your own hobbies, but it’s also important that you take interest in each other’s passions. Join your partner for a Pilates class. Have him or her show you around the studio, meet their Pilates friends, and watch your spouse navigate a part of their life that you knew nothing about. Seeing your significant other thrive in a way you were unfamiliar with will leave you impressed and interested.

3. Notice your spouse

Chances are you see your partner everyday but rarely really see him or her. You ask questions, plan the day’s logistics, and kiss goodbye before you head out the door, but did you truly look at your spouse? Take a moment to really notice the love of your life. When you think your spouse looks hot, let them know. Not only will you begin to see your spouse as the beautiful person you married but your sex life will skyrocket.

4. Plan time to relax

Taking care of the electric bill and organizing soccer practice will come naturally. Uninterrupted time together away from the to-do list won’t. Take time every day to be alone together, relax, and talk about your day (no business allowed). Put your phones away and keep the kids at bay. This is your time to re-hash and relax together. Whether it’s first thing in the morning or right before bed, this should be a routine part of your day to preserve your connection and salvage your sanity.

5. Plan time for business

It is rare that two people are in the same mindset at the same time. You may be ready to discuss your plan to sell the house or your interest in going back to school, but your spouse may be coming off a stressful day and need time to relax before jumping into a life-changing discussion. If there’s a big topic you need to discuss, mention it briefly and set a time to discuss it. Big topics are always stressful and often lead to disagreements, so setting a time when you’re both prepared will help keep any disagreements or frustrations in check.

6. Prioritize each other

Your marriage should come first in every scenario. Put your spouse before your kids, your job, and your friends. This can be difficult, especially when it comes to your kids. But if you don’t maintain a good relationship with your spouse, your kids will grow up with a skewed sense of importance and a poor example of marriage and love.

7. Take time alone

Being together all the time doesn’t equal a happy marriage. Take time to pursue your own interests and spend time with friends separately. Not only will being apart provide you with some much-needed alone time, but you will be more excited to see each other after being apart. There is nothing as reinvigorating as stepping back and returning to the situation with a fresh perspective.


11 Small Things You Can Do In A Marriage That Can Make A Big Difference

1. A good, long hug makes all the difference.
“At least once a day, especially after work, we just stand and give each other a long hug. No words or kissing or moving. I stand with my arms up and he stands with his arms out, then we fall into our hug. It’s a nice quiet moment in which we can decompress with each other.” –Michelle Gold

2. Go out of your way to do something silly and sweet to make your partner smile. 
“I hide things like his favorite snacks or a reminder of something fun we did recently in his shoes, pockets or cup holders in his car with little notes full of stupid puns to make him laugh.” – Lacey Marie

3. Never stop saying “thank you” — even for the simplest of tasks. 
“Even after 12 years, my guy always says to me after dinner, ‘Thank you for a great dinner’ — even if it’s a TV dinner. Makes me feel appreciated.” – Debbie Wagner

4. Create a quirky nighttime ritual that’s just about the two of you. 
“We snack in bed — a late-night ice cream or a chocolate bar that the kids know nothing about!” – Humi K. 

5. Don’t just say “I love you.” Tell each other why specifically. 
“Every night before we go to sleep we say to each other, ‘I love you today because…’ We do this no matter what happened that day. We even make sure to call or text it to each other when we are apart.” – Jae Russell

6. Kiss each other goodbye no matter what.
“Every morning when I leave for work, he’s still in bed. And every day I say ‘I’m leaving’ and even in a dead sleep, he kisses me.” – Steffanie Anne

7. Inside jokes are a must. 
“My husband and I quote movies all the time, and even recently during sex.
Me: ‘You keep moving my hands.’
Him: ‘I don’t know what to do with my hands, quoting Ricky Bobby.
Instant humor.” – Lindsey Lipp

8. Think about how you can make your partner’s day easier, and then do that. 
“My husband warms my car up for me and scrapes the ice and snow off of it in the winter time, even though I go to work way earlier than him and am fully capable of warming up my own car. It really means a lot that he gets up early and freezes just so I don’t have to.” – Wendy Griffith

9. Spending some time apart can strengthen your bond.
“It’s going to seem backwards but it’s important in my relationship for my husband and I to have our own interests and do our own thing. I’ll go to yoga or dinner with friends and he will play cards. The time apart gives us the opportunity to miss each other and gives us more stories to share.” – Sarah Goodier

10. Don’t underestimate the importance of touch.
“We always sleep naked and touch in bed, even if it’s just a toe against a leg or a hand on a thigh.” – Lauren East

11. Even when you’re busy, let your partner know that he or she is always top of mind. 
“I program ‘events’ in my husband’s phone calendar to alert him throughout the year. Sweet things like ‘Thinking of you xoxo’ and memories like the day we met.” – Kasey Christine St.


Emir Sanusi Responds To Those Opposed To His Marriage Of An 18-Year-Old

The marriage of the Emir of Kano, Sanusi Lamido to an 18-year-old Adamawa princess has been the subject of several articles, feminist ire and social media chatter.

In the piece that follows, the former Central Bank of Nigeria Governor explains why his choice of spouse shouldn’t really be anyone’s cup of tea.

I am sure NC members all have their views and have kept quiet out of (appropriate) deference to our right to make our individual choice. Obviously I do not need to explain anything to anyone in a purely personal matter but a few points are worthy of note:

The lady in question is 18 and therefore legally of age to marry under all laws and certainly under Muslim law.

She is proceeding for her undergraduate education in the UK in January. She had an A in computer science in her O levels and plans to get a degree in computer science.

Each and every one of my wives is a university graduate and some have worked and then stopped and in each case the choice was purely theirs.

It is a tradition in Kano that emirs and princes in choosing wives consider issues beyond the individual. The family is in every sense a social unit. My predecessor was married to princesses from Ilorin, Katsina and Sokoto.

The relationship between the late Lamido of Adamawa Aliyu Musdafa the father of the current Lamido is well known. Lamido Aliyu was the first emir turbaned after emir Sanusi I and they remained close until Sanusi’s death.

My own relationship with the current Lamido dates back to 1981 when he was Ciroma and commissioner for works. By the way the Lamido and I are not illiterates we know what we are doing and he does have a PhD in Engineering.

My own mother was married in Adamawa and lived there for more than two decades and I have eight younger brothers and sisters from there.

It is therefore natural that if I choose to marry from another kingdom Adamawa would be the first choice for me and I am extremely happy to strengthen these long historical bonds.

The young lady in question gave her free consent and even after the contract the wedding will not happen for a few years. By then she may be 21. If she freely consents to this I do not know on what moral grounds anyone has a grouse. She is an adult, she gave her consent, and her education is not being in anyway interrupted.

The real issue is that people do not accept cultural difference. And you can see it in the approach to these issues. I am supposed to be urbane and western educated. Yes but I am not European. I am a northern Nigerian Fulani Muslim brought up in a setting exactly like the one my children are being brought up in.

If you read this and it improves your understanding of this issue that is fine. If it does not just remember it is not your life, it is not your daughter and you are not my wife therefore it is not your business.

I obviously cannot stoop to the level of responding publicly to these kinds of articles. I have always been an advocate of girls marrying after maturing. I personally like the minimum age of 18 even though I understand those who say 16 is fine and indeed this is the law in most so called advanced countries.

Is this something that I expect a European or western trained or feminist mind to appreciate or endorse? Not at all. But has any American been bothered about my views on men marrying men or women marrying women who frankly I find primitive and bestial? No and my views do not matter. These are cultural issues.

Even in Nigeria I have heard all this stuff as in Pius article about “north” and northerners.

Again it is a failure to respect difference. There are parts of this country where parents expect their daughters to live with their boyfriends for years and actually get pregnant before they marry. It has become culture. We do not have that in the north and if your daughter gets pregnant before marriage she brings nothing but shame to the name. But we do not issue condemnations. We agree that this is how they choose to live. And I can give many other examples.

When people use the term libido they do themselves injustice. First of all it shows how they view women and marriage. Women are nothing but the object of sexual desire. Marriage is nothing but sexual gratification. Well I am sorry but in my tradition it is not. Beauty and attraction rank third after religion and lineage in the choice of a wife.

They see an 18 year old young lady. I see a princess of noble birth whose mother is also a princess, and who has been brought up in a good Muslim home. This is the kind of woman that is prepared for giving birth to princes and bringing them up for the role expected of them in society.

Marriage is both social and political. Expanding the links of Kano which have already been established by my predecessors through inter-marriage with Katsina, Sokoto, Ilorin, Katagum, Ningi, Bauchi etc to Adamawa is an important and significant step and this is obvious to anyone with a sense of how royal families work and Ibn Khaldun’s sociological concept of Asabiyyah.

When the Emir of Kano marries it has to be something beyond what he personally desires to what is appropriate for that position and the expectations of the people he represents. You don’t just pick up any girl on the street. And by the way, for those who shout libido, sex is cheap and available everywhere in all shapes and sizes and all colours if that is what they want. And all ages too. Marriage is a very different proposition. The mother of your children has to be something other than, not at least much more than a mere object of sexual fantasy. But if you do not know that you need to buy yourself a brain.

I have daughters. And they know they can only marry from certain backgrounds. I always prefer family. When my daughter wanted to marry Mouftah Baba Ahmed’s son and she asked me, knowing my views on family, I told her Mouftah is family. And this is not about me and Mouftah or me an Hakeem or Nafiu. No. It goes back to Baba Ahmed and Emirs Sanusi and Bayero. And the same rule applies to my sons. And it applied to me as well.

It is, I am sure, very strange that I should even bother to comment on this. But it would be hypocritical for me to just keep quiet so long as these things are being posted and commented upon explicitly or in a snide manner. There was no secrecy in the marriage fatiha. The date was fixed and it was to be done in the central mosque after Friday prayers.

The day before we had a tragedy in Saudi Arabia and decided the fatiha must be very low key as a mark of respect for the dead. All traditional rulers in Adamawa were there, as were governors and commissioners, members of my own emirate council and Adamawa people. There is nothing here to hide or be apologetic about.

The emirs of Adamawa have shown love to my parents and grandparents and it is a sign of my appreciation of their love that I marry their daughter. This is the highest statement of friendship and loyalty on both sides.

Again if you understand this, this is fine. If you do not, buy yourself a brain, A la Pius.

In any event this is my one and final and only comment on this. And I am making it out of respect for NC members.


Arsene Wenger and wife split, Couple file for divorce

Arsenal manager Arsene Wenger and wife Annie have reportedly separated after their marriage collapsed.


According to The Sun, Arsene and Annie filed separation papers at a family court in Paris, France.


Rumors of a split had been swirling around the couple, who have been married since 2010.


Arsene and Annie have an 18-year old daughter, Leah, and filed for “separation of bodies” judgement, meaning they are free to see other people.


A French legal expert told The Sun: “This is a legal separation, which means that the couple are not legally obliged to live together, and they can have separate lives, and no longer had intimate relations.


“He will have to still keep his responsibilities to look after the family.


“If the judgment is not overturned within two years, a divorce will be automatically granted.


“This is something which is not often done anymore, often Catholic families use this, as they are reluctant to get a divorce, but legally there is little difference.”


In 2008, Wenger had previously spoken about how being manager of a top European club took a stress on his marriage.

‘In my job I travel, but the problem is not so much the quantity of time you spend with your family, it is the quality,’ admitted Wenger.


‘That’s where this job is more damaging. You do not always give them the quality they deserve when you are at home because you are thinking of the next game.’

No Matter How Successful You Are, You Need a Husband – Charly Boy

The area father is of the opinion that societal compliance demands that women no matter how independent and successful they are should get married in other to become whole.

See what he wrote below…

“More women are career orientated and because of this, marriage somehow takes the back burner, however, no matter how successful a woman is in our society, irrespective of what she achieves in her career, or how financially independent she becomes, society still looks at it as incomplete. It is always expected that she crowns it all with a husband attached to her and where she fails to get married, her success is always tagged with a clause. Marriage is a Nobel institution even though we don’t think it’s meant for everybody. So what so you think, does marriage validate a woman, and do parental and societal pressure create this need for validation…… Share your thoughts.”

Caitlyn Jenner Changes Her Opinion On Gay Marriage

?Caitlyn Jenner clarified her stance on same-sex marriage in a new blog post on Monday, revealing that her interactions with new friends and acquaintances have helped her learn that people who should have the right to marry who they choose. After receiving some backlash over comment made during a recent interview with Ellen DeGeneres, Caitlyn  some time to re-think her position.

During a recent episode of ?The Ellen DeGeneres Show, ?Caitlyn was asked about same-sex marriage. While she did say she was “on board” with the idea, to many viewers watching she seemed rather unsupportive in the wake of the supreme court’s decision to legalize same-sex marriage.

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Kim Davis Resumes Work, Still Refuses To Authorize Same-Sex Marriage Licenses

Kentucky clerk Kim Davis has been released from jail and has returned to work, but she wants her name and title removed from all marriage licenses. 

“Effective immediately, and until an accommodation is provided, by those with the authority to provide it, any marriage license issued by my office will not be issued or authorized by me,” Davis told a crowd gathered at the Rowan County Judicial Center on Monday.

“I love my deputy clerks and I hate that they have been caught in the middle. If any of them feels that they must issue an unauthorized license to avoid being thrown in jail, I understand their tough choice and I will take no action against them,” Davis said. “Any unauthorized license that they issue will not have my name, my title or my authority on it. Instead, the license will state that they are issued pursuant to a federal court order.” 


6 Reasons Your Marriage Is Falling Apart

#1. You rely on our spouse to fulfill all of your needs.

It is unfair to think that our spouse will meet all of our needs. Being a guy who is trying to align his life with the Bible, I tend to go back to the story about Adam and Eve. When Adam and Eve ate the forbidden fruit, they were kicked out of paradise where all their needs were met. They were then cursed to work hard for everything they needed.

Whether you believe that story or not, the truth remains that it takes a lot of work and more than one person to fill all the needs in our lives. We long for all of our needs to be met by one person, but that just isn’t going to happen; your spouse is human, not divine. Your spouse may be great but you can’t expect them to be your Eden.

#2. You think it’s all about yourself.

To quote from Rick Warren’s book “The Purpose Driven Life,” “it’s not about you.”

But we do make our marriages all about us. When it comes to relationships, we think only of ourselves and our needs. I admit I am REALLY selfish: I want my Beautiful Wife™ to take care of all of my wants and needs. But what if I shifted my perspective a bit and focused on serving her and actually asked questions about what she desires? When it comes to serving my wife, I am often inconsiderate, and that causes problems. I have to remember that my marriage is not all about me.

#3. You make the other person the center of your life.

We all love a good romantic movie. (I’m a sucker for “The American President” with Michael Douglas and Annette Bening.) But life and marriage don’t work like they do in the movies. You can’t just run around always thinking about that special someone.

I believe that marriage is the most important relationship we can have on this planet; however, if you make your mate the one and only center of your universe, your life is gonna be screwy. I said earlier that marriage is not all about you, but guess what? Marriage is not all about your spouse either.

You can’t be around your spouse every waking minute. That’s just creepy. Give your spouse the space to grow and be who they are.

#4. You make being happy the most important thing in your life.

I think married couples should be happy. If they aren’t happy, they should be workingon being happy. But happiness isn’t the most important thing in a marriage. Dr. Corey Allan said it well on his blog “Marriage is about growing us up.” And guess what? Growing pains hurt.

Our culture gives us so many messages about how this’thing or that thing will make us happy and fulfilled. Yet, if we approach our marriage with an attitude that asks, “What are you going to do for me to make me happy?”, your marriage is going to be a tough road. Marriage is about growing and learning to be a better person. Its not about being happy all the time.

#5. You compare your marriage to others.

“Oh, the Phillips family down the street has the greatest, most happy marriage that I have ever seen!” Sure, but what about the stuff you don’t see? When we start comparing our marriage to other marriages, we set our relationships up for failure.

When we compare, we are taking what we know about our relationship and comparing it to what we DON’T know about someone else’s. This can cause bitterness and dissatisfaction, which breeds contempt. No marriage needs that.

#6. You make your marriage about romantic feelings.

Passion eventually fades. To make your marriage last, you have to be committed to your spouse no matter how you feel. The romantic feelings may come and go, but your feelings of togetherness and bondedness don’t have to quit.

Become a student of your spouse; learn everything you can about them. It will keep you interested in — and interesting to — the one you love.

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Femi Kuti Speaks About Ex-Wife, Funke, And The Downside Of Marriage

Popular Nollywood Afrobeat musician, Femi Kuti spoke to The Nation about his marriage to his ex-wife, Funke, and disclosing why he married her despite his disbelief in marriage.
Femi said:

I never believed in marriage. I loved my wife, and got carried away. I am happy about the experience. We got married for a number of reasons;  she left home, and many people said she had made the greatest mistake of her life; she got pregnant; and for us to have a certain status for our child; documentation and so on. There were so many reasons to get married.

Now we are great friends, but probably if we had not gotten married, we probably would have still been together. When you get married, if it breaks up, you get into a very bitter street, that makes it is very difficult for people to make up afterwards. Everything goes bitter around you, and hatred comes in. And when hatred comes, you find that many couples can no longer stand each other.

Bishop Oyedepo Says Ladies Attitude Today Is Why Marriages Are Failing Much

Founder of the Living Faith Church (Winners Chapel), Bishop David Oyedepo, says that the high rate of divorce cases in the world is due to the belief in women liberation.

Oyedepo who presided over the third service of his church in Ota, Ogun State on Sunday, noted that the increasing call and approval of equality between women and men have spilled into their marital lives.

Adding that, such women now equate themselves with their husbands against the biblical doctrine that advises women to be submissive to their husbands and that men should love their wives.

He said cases of divorce were most in the western world because people in such places have thrown
the dictates of God away and have instead started imbibing self-made laws that confer on them near-absolute freedom.

This, he said, was partly the reason behind the laws approving homosexuality in such countries. He noted how he once mentioned that soon, it would no longer be news to find men and women marrying animals.

“Very soon, you would see a male President and the First Lady would be a man,” he said comically, but with some seriousness in his tone.

He lamented what the world, especially the west, was now turning into saying nowadays, “they take churches to court for refusing to marry men. That is how the world has turned.”

He told the congregation that women must be submissive to their husbands and that if they follow such with prayers, even if such men are wayward, God would return them to the family.

He concluded that men should avoid being blown away by the things of the world as they must learn to love their wives as the Bible had warned.

Bride To Be Dumped An Hour Before Taking The Vows Just Because She Wanted Kids From The Marriage

Lol some weird stories we read on A bride-to-be whose partner dumped her as she stood in her veil an hour before their wedding has written a letter detailing her heartbreak. Cyndi Maisonneuve says she was “blindsided” when her fiancée broke things off as the wedding guests waited on a beach in Hawaii where the ceremony was due to take place.

In her letter to the Guardian, Cyndi says:

“He came into the room and said we needed to talk alone. He was crying. I assumed he was letting the emotion of the day get to him. Then he said it.

‘I don’t think I can do this.’

I stood there – with the veil already in my hair. This man who was supposed to be the love of my life was telling me he was calling off the wedding less than an hour before we were due on the beach. I didn’t even ask why. I told him to leave.

In her letter, she speaks about how she was about to marry a man that was her best friend, who she’d met two years earlier at a baseball game.

She describes them as besotted and said when he proposed after six months on a beach at sunrise, it didn’t feel too soon.

Cyndi writes: “I was 23 and it felt as if life was coming together.

“People would say how good we were as a match.”

But somehow everything went wrong.

“I had to watch from the window as my sister went to the beach and let everyone know,” she told.

“While I’d been out that morning, he had taken all his clothes and passport.

“He’d actually left me.

“I was heartbroken.”

Cyndi had to stay at the holiday resort for a week, bumping into her ex-fiancée who also stayed on the island.

She describes how she tried to pack her days with activities to stop her thinking about things, and to try and tire herself out so she would fall asleep at night.

The devastated woman ends the letter with: “The reason he gave for calling it off was that he didn’t want children and I did.

“He never said why that became an irresolvable issue only on the day itself.

“Eventually we lost touch.

“Now, six years on, I’ve started dating again.

“What happened is far enough in the past now not to hurt so much.

“I can even laugh about it.”


Pastor Seeks Divorce After 15 Years Of Marriage Over Nagging

A pastor, Tunde Adekunle, on Monday urged an Akure Customary Court to dissolve his 15 year-old marriage to his wife, Agbeke for alleged frequent nagging.

Adekunle, founder of Christ Living Church, Owo, Ondo State, said that his wife was hell-bent in making life unbearable for him.

The cleric also told the court that some of the scars on his body were caused by the constant fisticuffs between them, adding that there was no more affection existing in the marriage.

He said that the respondent was a “disgrace to his pastoral calling’’, noting that she had once torn his cloth in front of his congregation when he was preaching.

Agbeke, in her response, denied the allegations, but said that she was ready to part with the petitioner.

He said that the union had produced four children.

She accused her husband of being promiscuous, night crawling, failure to carrying out marital responsibilities of providing for the house and the upkeep and education of the children.

The President of the court, Mrs Olayinka Falodun, in her ruling urged the petitioner to take care of the welfare of the children.

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How To Know A Marriage Is Headed Towards Divorce (MUST READ)

1. The bride had pre-wedding jitters.

If the future Mrs. has cold feet, the couple’s risk of divorce more than doubles, according to a study published in the Journal of Family Psychology. The good news? A groom with “I do” doubts has almost no impact on the future of the marriage.

2. The couple got married young — or after age 32.

Sure, conventional wisdom holds that getting married too early isn’t the best bet for a lasting union. “I often see couples in their 40s in counseling who got married too young and didn’t have experience with other partners or want different things now,” says Rachel Sussman, a licensed psychotherapist and relationship expert. “Because there’s a very good chance that in 10 or 15 years, you’re going to be a very different person—and you should be.”

But a new study says that after age 32, a couple’s risk of divorce increases by 5% each year they wait to wed. Sussman attributes this to entrenched independence and a need for space.

3. A family has two daughters. 

Sadly, it ups your chances to 43%. And even just having one daughter makes you 5% more likely to split, according to Columbia University economist Kristin Mammen. Parents with two sons, in contrast, face a nearly 37% risk.  “We think it happens because fathers get more invested in family life when they have boys,” Stephanie Coontz, author of Marriage, a History and director of research for the Council on Contemporary Families, told The Daily Beast.

4. Divorce runs in the family, so to speak.

If your parents divorced, you’re at least 40% more likely to do the same. But if they got remarried, you have a staggering 91% likelihood of getting divorced.

5. A challenging child challenges a marriage.

Parents who deal with a child’s ADHD diagnosis are nearly 23% more likely to divorce before the child turns 8.

6. Debt.

Money woes are an obvious marital stressor. Not only do many divorce risk factors correlate to poverty, but marital happiness dramatically decreases as couples don’t pay off their debts or take on new ones. And when one person is the big spender, according to one study, divorce can be 45% more likely. (Only extramarital affairs and substance abuse were stronger predictors!)

“There can be a problem when one partner works or just has a significantly bigger salary, and the other spends an exorbitant amount of money. Fighting over the Amex bill every month is just a dumb fight to have. They’ve got to be on the same page, and I think setting a budget is key,” explains Sussman.

7.  The groom frowned in his childhood snapshots.

In two separate studies, psychologists evaluated peoples’ childhood and yearbook photos and then evaluated their current marital health. Their findings? People who frown in photos are five times more likely to divorce than people who smile. (Yes, this one’s especially, well, far-fetched.)

8. One partner smokes—but the other doesn’t. 

When only one person in a relationship smokes, they’re 75% to 91% more likely to split than smokers who are married to another smoker. Why? “Different values and lifestyles can be problematic,” says Sussman.

9. The family’s first child was born less than 8 months after the wedding.

So, a shotgun ceremony is intuitively not the best way to start your union. But did you know it makes you 24% more likely to call it quits?

10. The couple shacked up before marriage.

Sure, cohabitation has been credited for decreasing the number of divorces overall. (One theory is that because couples who might otherwise divorce test the waters and fizzle beforehand, the couples who domarry are more committed.). But it’s still not necessarily helpful once you do wed: Multiple studies say living together pre-nuptials gives couples about a 12% higher probability that their marriage will fail.

11. One partner is a nurse.

Yes, certain occupations have higher divorce rates—and not just police and military personnel. Dancers and choreographers have a 43% divorce rate, according to a 2009 study in the Journal of Police and Criminal Psychology. Bartenders split from a spouse 38% of the time, while nursing, psychiatric, and home health aides face an almost 29% divorce rate.

12. You live in Nevada. Or Maine.

While much has been made of “red states” vs. “blue states” and marital trends, it’s not so simple. Some states have younger ages of marriage, lower incomes, and other demographic factors that contribute to divorce risk. But Nevada residents can probably just thank Las Vegas for their 14.6% rate of divorced people. Maine is second with 14.2%; Oklahoma trails at 13.5%. New York, in contrast, may only have 8.8% divorced residents, but it also has one of the lowest number of married residents. To explain, some researchers say that you’re more likely to get divorced in most “red states”—but only because you’re alsomore likely to get married there.

13. The wife makes more money than the husband.

Marriages where spouses earn roughly the same amount are more at prone to divorce than those where the wife earns less, according to a Swiss study of U.S. couples. And if the wife makes 60% or more of the family income, the risk of divorce is double that of couples where she doesn’t work at all.

14. Or she’s older than him.

Unfortunately, women who are one to three years older than their husbands are 53% more likely to end their marriage. According to the Australian paper, age disparities either way are associated with higher risk, especially if the man is younger. The study suggests it may be “due to differences in values
associated with birth control, or marital strain caused by power imbalances within the union.”

15. Someone thinks they’re always right.

Think you’re smarter than your spouse? By far, the biggest predictors of divorce are found in couples’ attitudes to each other. Famed researcher John Gottman claims to be able to predict a couple’s chances with 93% accuracy, based on four key traits which include being defensive and constant criticism. But he says the “kiss of death,” is contempt and seeing your partner as beneath you.

“It’s constant anger and disgust, passive-aggressive digs, eye-rolling, and yelling at your partner,” says Sussman. “When couples do that in a session, I say the research shows that if you keep doing that, there’s a really good chance you’re going to get divorced.”


Dating Your Co- Worker? Can It Lead To Marriage? Read This

We didn’t meet on the job — we were dating for almost four years before we started working together (which, by the way, wasn’t planned … long story). But for about 11 months, we sat three cubes apart from one another and kept our relationship under wraps.

That’s right: Nobody knew we were a couple. “Nobody knew?!” “Wasn’t it hard to hide?” “Isn’t that illegal?”

Those are questions I’m frequently asked when I tell people the story of my office romance.

My answer to all three: “Nope — because we followed the rules.”

1. Take it slow.

My situation was unique because we were already a couple before we started working together — but generally that isn’t the case, and Lynn Taylor, a national workplace expert and the author of “Tame Your Terrible Office Tyrant: How to Manage Childish Boss Behavior and Thrive in Your Job,” suggests you try being friends in-and-outside the office before you make any moves.

People sometimes act differently at work than they do in their personal life. Before you risk hurting your reputation at work, find out if this person is someone you’d want to spend weekends with.

2. Keep things quiet early on.

No need to send a blast email with “the news” of you and your cube-mate’s new relationship. People either don’t care, will think it’s obnoxious or inappropriate, or will get jealous.

“Be discreet about the news,” Taylor suggests. Once you have a sense that this might have a future, talk to your partner and decide how and when you want to disclose your relationships to your colleagues.

If the rumor mill goes into high gear, that might be the right time. If nobody seems to notice, there’s no reason to share.

3. Get on the same page.

You and your new partner need to agree on some ground rules and come up with a plan for how you will keep it professional and stay within written or unwritten rules. “What will be your plan ‘B’ if the heat is on from a supervisor, from gossip, or if things go awry?” Taylor asks.

4. Stay professional at all times.

“You may have the burden of overcompensating with professionalism and keeping an artificial distance, which can be an awkward strain,” says Taylor. “Better to overcompensate than to constantly test the limits of workplace etiquette while hoping for the best.”

5. Be sensitive and respectful to others.

Focus on work and do your job — especially if you want to mitigate gossip.

“No one wants to hear about how deeply you’re in love with each other or where you went last weekend or the fight you had in the car this morning,” she explains. “Save it for your family or friends outside work.”

Talking about the relationship can be distracting or make colleagues feel uncomfortable, so don’t do it.

6. Keep love quarrels out of the work fray.

Again — nobody wants or needs to know about what’s happening with your love life.

“It’s hard enough today to concentrate with open office spaces, a plethora of technology devices, frantic deadlines, multiple bosses, and so on,” says Taylor. “Add to that two lovers fighting over doing dishes in the next cube and you have one unhappy coworker, who you may catch sauntering to HR.”

Also, it’s entirely unprofessional to complain about your personal relationships at work, whether you’re dating a colleague or not.

7. Don’t let disagreements affect your work.

This may be one of the hardest rules to follow.

What happens at home or in your personal life (no matter who you’re dating) almost always affects your attitudes, which impacts your work — it’s just a fact of life.

But try your hardest not to let your disagreements with your partner affect the decisions you make or how your treat others at work.

8. Remain focused on your work.

“Spend your time as if you are not dating this person,” advises Taylor. Don’t get caught up in long conversations, two-hour lunches, IMing, or emailing with your partner when you should be working on projects or preparing for meetings.

9. Know the formal policy.

Check the company handbook to find out if there are any policies related to interoffice relationships.

Even if there are no explicit policies against it, find out how upper management feels about office romances. If they’re common and happen in your workplace all the time, great. If not, maybe that’s something to consider.

10. Know the potential legal pitfalls.

“Employees are generally encouraged to report incidents of sexual harassment or events that create a hostile work environment,” says Taylor. “Since the sensitivities of the workforce are varied and subjective, there’s always a risk of offending someone. One complaint to HR for PDA, showing preferential treatment, or using words of endearment in public will at the very least trigger an investigation.”

11. Go easy on flirtatious texts and emails.

“Be careful what you text or email to each other, not just because Steve in accounting might fall off his chair when he mistakenly receives it — but also because it could ultimately be used as evidence in a legal case in termination or sexual harassment,” she warns.

12. Consider what you’d want to do if things do work out.

As a relationship becomes more serious, oftentimes one person will decide to leave the employer completely, because the more involved you are, the greater likelihood of the relationship interfering with your job. “That’s why so many companies have policies against nepotism, which applies to married couples and relatives,” says Taylor. This is something to think about early on and to keep in mind as you move forward in the relationship.

“The bottom line is, you need to tread carefully,” she adds. “If, however, love happens to strike at work, don’t make a concerted effort to fight it at any cost. Just know the risks.”

Your decision not only affects you, but other person, both your careers, and those around you. “A word to the wise: If you take the leap, go into it with your eyes wide open,” Taylor concludes.


Man Quits Job To Nurse GF For 2 Months, You Won’t Believe What She Did To Him After Recovering

After Fu Jun fell into a 70-day vegetative state following a car accident, her boyfriend refused to leave her bedside until she woke up. So, people were shocked when she refused a marriage proposal from him.

Chen Ben quit his job so that he could sit by her bedside, singing to her and telling her stories as she lay unconscious. When she finally woke, Chen Ben and his mother were wild with joy.

“It was really a surprise to me that she restored consciousness and spoke to me,” said Chen Ben as he oddly groomed his girlfriend during an interview on Wednesday.


However, Chen was surprised by Fu’s lack of joy when she initially woke. He recalled that she pummeled her head and legs, crying out, “why did you save me?”

“He and his parents treat me so well. I remember the kindness they extend but have never thought of marriage because I’m afraid I would bring much trouble to their lives.” she told a journalist from

Credit: CCTVNews

Quality Husbands Will Be Scarce In Nigeria In The Near Future – Catholic Women’s Group Leader Says

According to the National President of the Council of Catholic Women Organisation of Nigeria,Chief Felicia Onyeabo, there will be a scarcity of quality husbands in Nigeria in the near future following the increasing number of male dropouts from schools in the last 10 years. Mrs Onyeabo said this at a press briefing to herald the inauguration of a catholic school in Abuja last week

“The future of this country is going to be very bleak for the male-child. How many girls do you see hawking clothes? Go to Onitsha, they are all men. We have looked round and have come to see that there is a neglect of boys in education. Who are the armed robbers on the streets? They are mostly the boys. Let us concentrate on training boys.
The NCCWO feels that a vacuum is being created, and very soon, we shall be faced with a situation where our educated girl-child will not find a corresponding suitable boy-child to marry. This is because more boys drop out of school, apparently because the high rate of unemployed youth discourages our young boys from appreciating the need to be educated. The NCCWO also considers the fact that in the near future, quality husbands will become extremely scarce, with too many highly educated women looking for husbands, and settling for anyhow husbands, just to get married. The result of this type of situation is better imagined and will not augur well for Nigerians.”she said.

Girl Refuses Marriage Proposal From Her Boyfriend Who Showed Up In A 20 Car Convoy

A lover boy went out of his way to plan a great proposal to the woman he loves. He arrived with a fleet of 20 sports cars and a bouquet of flowers, His mission was to propose to TV dating show contestant Peng Yang, 27, in Shenzhen, southern China.

However,  Peng walked off in embarrassment leaving him posing on one knee. The embarrassment was epic.

The man hired the fleet of cars, which included a Ferrari and a Mercedes-Benz, in a bid to sweep the beauty off her feet….

He attracted lots of attention when he came out from one of the luxurious vehicles with a bunch of flowers and knelt down ready to propose.

Peng, who features on a popular dating show every week, appeared shocked and embarrassed by the incident.The reality star looked uncomfortable and was seen burying her face in her palms several times, before saying:

‘Why do you have to do that?’I beg of you, please stand up! There are so many people looking!’

Peng, then strutted off, leaving her rejected friend on the floor.

Love Gone Sour: Police Arraigns Man For Deceitfully Promising GF Marriage

The Police on Tuesday arraigned a hotel attendant, Danladi Sule, 31, in a Mararaba Upper Area Court, Nasarawa State, for allegedly deceiving his girl friend that he would marry her.

The prosecutor, Insp. Joseph Ahua told the court that Rabiat Tijani, a girl friend to the accused, reported the matter at the ‘A’ Division Police Station, Mararaba on July 1. Ahua said that sometimes in 2005, the accused approached the complainant for marriage, to which she consented.

He alleged that the accused deceived the complainant to come and live with him as a wife. “ They have been living together since 2005, the accused impregnated her, of which she had two children for him,’’ the prosecutor alleged.

He said that the accused abandoned the complainant and the children in the village, came to Mararaba and married another woman. The prosecutor alleged that the accused is currently living with the woman at Kabayi Mararaba, Nasarawa State.

He said that the offence of deceitful marriage and cruelty to children committed by the accused contravened sections 238 and 383 of the Penal Code.

Section 383 prescribes a three-year jail term as penalty for offenders. Sule, however, denied committing the offence. The accused counsel, Mr Prince Nwagbokwu, prayed the court to grant his client bail, stressing that he will not jump bail.

Ahua objected to the bail application made by the accused counsel.

The Presiding Judge, Vincent Gwehemba rejected the objection of the prosecutor, adding that the accused has a pending case of divorce in the same court. “Mr Nwagbokwu find out from the two parties what really happened, see if there will be a way to sort out things before the next adjourned date,” Gwehemba said.

He granted bail to the accused in the sum of N50, 000 with one surety in like sum and adjourned the case till July 14 for further hearing.


Why Are Nigerians Terrified Of Same-Sex Marriage In America?- Adaobi Tricia Nwaubani

Late in 2014 when my friend, Zachary, invited me to his wedding taking place in The Berkshires this September, I was less concerned about having to travel all the way from Abuja to Massachusetts. Zachary is gay. “What if lightning comes and strikes the building?” I asked. He replied that there had so far been under 100, 000 gay marriages in the U.S. — and no bolts. “Of course, my partner and I could be the last straw,” he added.

That exchange may have been facetious, but many Nigerians are genuinely terrified of gay marriage. And they are distraught over the U.S. Supreme Court’s recent decision to legalize gay marriage in America.

They express sadness and pity for what is supposedly God’s Own Country. They predict America’s inevitable decline. But the emotion most potent in their words is fear. The kind you might expect from news of an impending tsunami. Many Nigerians appear terrified that, having finally won the victory on home soil, America will now set its sights on imposing similar legislature in countries like Nigeria. “We must resist this wave,” I have heard people say.

Rumors of America’s plan of action have already started making the rounds. Over the past few days, a number of articles in local newspapers have revealed what some Nigerians believe to be the secret agenda behind President Obama’s invitation to Nigeria’s new president, Muhammadu Buhari. Allegedly, the meeting, scheduled to take place in the White House on July 20, is aimed at persuading President Buhari to repeal Nigeria’s infamous Same Sex Prohibition Law signed by the previous Goodluck Jonathan administration. “Beware of Obama’s Invitation,” read a headline in one of Nigeria’s dailies.

A June 2015 survey conducted by Nigeria’s NOI Polls (which works in collaboration with Gallup) shows that 90% of Nigerians believe their country would be a better place without homosexuals. In addition, 81% do not agree that gay people should have the same rights as other Nigerians. Only 30% of Nigerians were shown to believe that gay people deserved equal access to public services such as healthcare, housing and education.

Despite these hair-raising data, I would be surprised if the anti-gay bill were the only reason why President Obama has extended this warm invitation to Nigeria’s president, what with issues like Boko Haram currently siphoning global attention. But if indeed he has the welfare of gay Nigerians in mind, President Obama must proceed with caution.


Gbese !!! Pastor Disgraced After Women Storm His Wedding Claiming To Be Married To Him

Drama ensued at the NPC Church in Valley Road in Kenya recently after some women stormed the church while the wedding ceremony of a pastor in the church, Pastor John Waituha was ongoing. According to reports, the women claimed they were legally married to the Pastor and even showed children which they said they had for the pastor. Pastor John broke down in tears while the women were shouting at the church. The police was called in to bring the situation under control.

The wedding however went on after the women left the church saying there mission to expose the pastor was accomplished. More photos below…

Rings In Burgers, Getting Down On One knee In Public Toilets: The Worst Proposals Of All Time Revealed

It’s a moment in your life that theoretically should only happen once – the marriage proposal.

But while some men (and women) go all out when asking for their beloved’s hand in marriage, others take the laissez faire approach.

For every boat trip down the Seine or fireworks display, there is a ring nestled in a takeaway burger or a proposal hastily scrawled on the lid of a fast food container.

Fast love: This romantic popped the question by hiding an engagement ring in a takeaway burger 

Fast love: This romantic popped the question by hiding an engagement ring in a takeaway burger

There is no denying that the sentiment is always good – the request to be tied in holy matrimony forever.

But whether these couples will be as happy to recall the moment they say ‘Yes’ once the excitement died died remains to be seen.

From  graffiti on a cow to an inventive use of a home WiFi connection, the following proposals all get top marks for thinking outside the box, even if the romance was lacking.

Read on to discover some of the strangest attempts at popping the question ever…

Hard to miss: This proposal on the outside of someone's home might not have hit the right spot 

Hard to miss: This proposal on the outside of someone’s home might not have hit the right spot

This scrawl on the side of a cow made for a moo-ving proposal 

Traditionally seen as the domain of vandals or Banksy-style artists, spray paint is also a favourite of those popping the question.

Whether it’s the side of a beloved’s house or even a piece of livestock, surface is off limits when it comes to asking for someone’ hand in marriage these days.

That’s what you call a happy meal! Proposal at McDonalds

What is there to loos-e? This man decided public toilets were the best place to pop the question 

What is there to loos-e? This man decided public toilets were the best place to pop the question

Kirsty Allsopp and Phil Spencer are all about location, location, location… and so is this guy apparently.

The young man chose public toilets as his venue for popping the question, complete with questionaire on the cubicle door.

The napkin under the bended knee is a nice touch though.

Nearly there: Roses are red, violets are blue, next time you propose, take a dictionary with you 

Nearly there: Roses are red, violets are blue, next time you propose, take a dictionary with you

This romantic had the right idea when it came to proposing – the rose petals on the bed is a tried and tested route to the heart.

It’s just a shame they didn’t have a dictionary handy when spelling out the words.

Some might consider this proposal a little cheesy 

Some might consider this proposal a little cheesy

How would you know if she was crying because of the onion or the engagement ring?

How would you know if she was crying because of the onion or the engagement ring?

When Billy Ocean sang ‘Hungry For Love,’ we’re not quite sure this is what he meant.

While many see fast food joints as a place to speedily fix pangs of hunger, it seems others treat it as as the perfect proposal destination.

Will you be my WiFi(ey)?

Will you be my WiFi(ey)?

It’s hard not to be impressed by the ingenuity of this proposal, customising the name of a home WiFi network to pop the question.

Whether she became a WiFi(ey) is unknown though.

Nothing says 'I love you' like a mountain of Pepsi cans 

Nothing says ‘I love you’ like a mountain of Pepsi cans

This effort would have taken some serious time to complete… and unlimited Pepsi.

Hopefully she’s isn’t a Coca Cola fan.

Tatt's love: This young man got his proposal inked onto his back 

Tatt’s love: This young man got his proposal inked onto his back

Love hurts – especially when you get a shoulder-width tattoo to pop the question.

It’d would be even more painful if she said no though.

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Men Besiege Kano Radio Station After A Girl On Air Promised To Buy A Car & House For Whoever Marries Her

According to the Kano-based OAP who shared the story, this incident happened in Kano today. A girl who came to Freedom FM Kano as a guest in Keke Napep, jokingly said she’ll give a car and a house to any man who marries her.

Men took her seriously because not long after she said this, they trooped to the radio station, saying they want to marry her. The men even wrote down their name so she can interview them on first come first serve basis. The police had to be called in to disperse the men after they refused to leave. Lol. Can you imagine this?

Ramsey Nouah Reveals His Secret For Keeping His Marriage Intact

Legendary Nollywood actor Ramsey Nouah has spoken up about what holds his marriage together.

Nouah who has been married for 14 years, in a rare interview that the secret of his marriage’s success can be attributed to him avoiding the media.

“It is the Press! I might just say hello to a girl and the next thing is, Ramsey Nouah is toasting one girl. The media almost destroyed my marriage. But thank God they failed and my marriage is 14 years now blessed with four children” he said.

Nouah, 44 revealed that he told his wife Emelia Phillips-Nouah to avoid the press also. “I told my wife to keep away from the press, let me handle them. If they don’t see you, there will be nothing to
say about you. Because of that, I have stopped appearing at public functions with my family” he stated.

It is alleged that Nouah and Emelia never got married officially

British Woman Starts Online Petition To Stop Her Nigerian Husband From Being Deported From The UK

According to a report by UK Mirror, a heavily pregnant British woman named Robyn Daodu has started an online petition to stop her Nigerian Olympic boxer husband from being deported from the UK after he was turned down by the British Army.

Adedayo Victor Daodu came to the UK for the London 2012 Games as a member of the Nigerian boxing squad and decided to stay. The 25-year-old was locked up last week at Dungavel immigration removal centre in South Lanarkshire, Scotland, and told he faces being returned to Lagos.

Before the 2012 Olympics, Victor signed up for the British Army. After returning to his homeland, he was sent a letter inviting him to return to the UK for recruitment.

After claiming to have passed written and physical tests, he applied to extend his visa so he could stay in Britain before enlisting. The couple moved to Salford in July 2013.

But Victor was soon told that due to new guidelines, his application to join the Army had been refused.

Robyn and Victor applied for asylum in a bid to stay together and claim they were told by the Home Office they could get married pending the application.
They assumed Victor’s UK residency would not be a problem.

After marrying in April last year, his asylum claim was refused in three months later.
The couple say the Home Office, in a letter to their solicitors, have told them they should move to Nigeria.
Robyn says they have spent £4,000 in legal fees after a number of failed appeals. Victor was most recently refused leave to stay in March.
In April, he spent two weeks in the immigration centre, but was released after an appeal.

Oldham East and Saddleworth MP, Debbie Abrahams, was able to help get Victor released from the centre last Thursday.
The couple are now awaiting a reply to another appeal.
Immigration rules mean that anyone applying for a visa as the spouse of a British citizen had to have the legal right to be here for at least the next six months when they got married.
They also have to be able to prove they can support themselves financially.
Robyn, 27, who lives with Victor in Oldham, said: “It took the army a year to tell him he couldn’t join.
“The Home Office should have told him he couldn’t stay a long time ago if that’s what was always going to happen.
“I don’t understand why they’ve only started detaining him now after we’ve set up a life, got married and I’ve become pregnant.
“The communication just hasn’t been there.
“The stress is unbearable. None of this would have happened if not for the army’s slowness in letting Victor know about the change in the acceptance rules.
“I need him and his unborn child needs him.”
Victor said: “I just want to stay here and do what’s right for my baby and Robyn.”
The Home Office said it did not comment on individual cases.

Source: UK Mirror 

Former NFA Boss, Kojo Williams Remarries Five Years After Divorcing His Wife

Former Nigerian Football Association chairman (now NFF) and popular businessman Kojo Williams has remarried five years after he divorced his 1st wife and mother of his four children, Dr Remilekun Williams. Kojo, 56, on May 21st married 35 year old ex-US marine expert, Isidora Adewunmi, who is the daughter of Oba Michael Adeniyi Sonariwo, the Akarigbo of Remo Land, Ogun state. The very private wedding held at his home in Victoria Island. Congrats to them.

Kenyan Lawyer Offers Obama 50 Cows, 70 Sheep, 30 Goats to Marry Daughter Malia

A Kenyan lawyer named Kiprono Matagei has made public his special request to US President Barack Obama.

One of Kiprono’s dream is to marry Barack’s first daughter Malia so he has announced that he is ready to pay 50 cows, 70 sheep, and 30 goats as bride price. And he is ready to meet Obama to discuss the matter when Obama visits in July.

Kenya Digest reports that Kiprono said:

“I got interested in her in 2008. As a matter of fact, I haven’t dated anyone since and promise to be faithful to her. I have shared this with my family and they are willing to
help me raise the bride price”

The young lawyer claims his love for Malia is real, not infatuation.

People might say I am after the family’s money but that is not the case. My love is real. I am currently drafting a letter to Obama asking him to please have Malia accompany him for this trip. I hope the embassy will hand the letter to him. I will hand it over to the US Ambassador with whom we have interacted several times.

What is disturbing here is that as at 2008 when Kiprono says he fell in love with Malia, she was just 10 years old.

Kiprono also added that should Obama accept his request, his engagement to the ‘love of his life’ will be a unique one.

“If my request is granted, I will not resort to the cliché of popping champagne. Instead, I will surprise her with mursik , the traditional Kalenjin sour milk, as an indication that she is my queen. I will propose to her on a popular hill in Bureti near my father’s land where leaders and warriors are usually crowned. Ours will be a simple life. I will teach Malia how to milk a cow, cook ugali and prepare mursik like any other Kalenjin woman”

Malia Obama is 16, set to turn 17 on July 4.

It’s True..I’m Getting Married This Year – Denrele Reveals

Denrele Edun has been talking about his plans to get married for quite a while now.But,in a One ON One  Interview with Saturday Beats, he says the married is taking place this year

“It is true that I am about to get married but it is not now. I would get married later this year. It was meant to be a secret but I don’t know how everybody has heard. I just hope ‘bad bele’ people would not jinx the marriage for me and make the girl that wants to marry me change her mind. She is the same girl I spoke about with you during our last interview. I cannot explain how the girl captured my heart but everyone would find out on the D-Day. I don’t want to share the identity of my wife now. When the time comes, people would know who she is.

MUST READ: How I Escaped Marrying a Boko Haram Fighter

Boko Haram entered Sabon Gari village about 7 p.m. We heard gunshots. The shots sounded like thunder, so the children were jumping and smiling and singing, “Let the rain come, let the rain come.” But I realized it was not thunder.

Boko Haram fighters were everywhere. We saw them on the motorbikes shooting and burning houses. All night, the sound of guns shooting was in the air. They left in the morning. I was so scared, but I didn’t have anywhere else to go, so I stayed.

After the fourth attack, I decided to leave Sabon Gari because I know Boko Haram likes to kidnap girls. I went to Gulak to live with my great-aunt. Later I learned that Boko Haram attacked Sabon Gari a fifth time.

Then in September, Boko Haram came to Gulak. As soon as I heard the gunshots, I told my great aunt that I am leaving Gulak. The old woman became sad, and she asked me to stay with her because she is old and did not want to be left by herself. I told her that I cannot stay because Boko Haram kidnaps girls my age. She understood, so I fled. I ran, joined by a Muslim woman who was a distant relative. As we were running, we saw a soldier behind us. At first, we were alarmed. We thought it was a Boko Haram member wearing a soldier uniform. But the soldier told us not to worry, that he is also running away from Boko Haram.

The woman and I fled into the bush and spent about a week sleeping and eating there. It was uncomfortable, and I suffered.

I hated staying in the bush, especially when it rained. I decided it was better to leave the bush, even if Boko Haram killed me. So the woman and I ran to a mountain. At night, it was cold. And after a few days living there, Boko Haram came very close to where we were staying. We escaped and went to a house we saw in another village.

We stayed with a Muslim family there for some days, but then we heard Boko Haram fighters. They were coming fast, so we all ran away. The family told us they were going to Gulak. They told me to join them there, but I told them that Boko Haram fighters are inside Gulak. They told me that they would protect me because they are Muslims with good knowledge of the Quran, so Boko Haram will not harm them. I decided to follow them, but Boko Haram was still shooting in the street, and I somehow lost the Muslim family. I kept running, looking for them, but I could not find them. So I joined some women on the street who were also running toward Gulak.

In Gulak I found the Muslim family who had taken care of me. They told me I need to leave because Boko Haram is going around, killing people who are not Muslims.

So I left. I didn’t know where to go, but I knew I just had to run. In my confusion, I bumped into some young Christian girls. We went to hide in the mountains and heard many gunshots. We could not detect where the gunshots were coming from because the mountains made the sound of gunshots echo. I was so confused. We ran down the mountain, and we got lost. And that’s how we ended back up in Gulak. Right away, a Boko Haram member saw me and told me to stop running. He threatened to shoot my legs, but the other Boko Haram member with him said it is not good to shoot women.

I asked them where are they taking me to. They told me they are taking me to a place where I will worship Allah. In Gulak they drove to a big house that was surrounded by a barbed wire fence. When I entered the house, I saw many other girls who were close to my age. They, too, had been abducted. I saw some of the Christian girls I met in the mountains.

Boko Haram members asked if we will convert to Islam, and we said no. There were some girls who did agree to convert, so the insurgents separated those who agreed to convert and those who did not. They held a big knife up to my neck and asked me, “You do not want to convert to Islam? We will kill you along with this retired soldier we captured over there who also refuses to convert.” So I finally said, “Yes, I will convert.” I begged them not to kill me.

They brought out one man who they said they had captured from a neighboring village. They put him on the ground. The man begged for his life. Then the insurgents set their flag behind the man and slaughtered him right in front of us girls.

There were many Boko Haram fighters in that house. They had long hair, which they brush down and pack it into three long braids. They were very dirty. Some of them wore turbans on their heads. They were speaking many languages — Kanuri, Arabic, Hausa and Fulani.

I stayed in that house from October until January. Every day, we had to pray five times and read our Quranic studies, but I would often forget to do so. Whenever they found me not praying or studying the Quran, they would beat me and the other girls, 10 lashes each. If we did not wake up early enough in the morning to pray, they poured cold water on us. One day, they dragged out one girl who refused to pray, pulling her in front of us so we could see them shout at her. They said they will take her to Madagali town, to a place that they call their prison. The girl disappeared, and for six days we never saw her. When they returned, she had changed. She did her prayers and Quranic studies without complaint.

I was suffering so much. We saw the women that the Boko Haram members use as cooks in another part of the house. Sometimes the women would pity us and sneak us extra food.

Every day, more girls arrived in the house from other towns that Boko Haram had attacked. They kept kidnapping women and girls. The number of girls I shared a bedroom with kept growing, from 10 to 20 to 30. It’s a very big house.

As for the prayers, I just didn’t want to do it. I would lie and tell them I am menstruating, so I cannot pray. But the Boko Haram leaders knew I was lying so they would beat me. One day, the boy who teaches us the Quran — his name was Adamu Yusuf — beat me so bad that I had bloody bruises all over my legs. I was crying. The Boko Haram leader of the house heard me crying, and he called me by the new name they had given me, Fatima. He asked, “Fatima why are you crying?” I told him that Adamu Yusuf had beat me. The leader scolded Adamu and said he should not beat women and girls. He said they are to do the work of God and beating people like this is not good.

But Adamu Yusuf liked to beat us. He even beat a pregnant woman. The Boko Haram leader was so angry, and he shouted at Adamu that pregnant women should not be maltreated. He said, “Pregnant women are our mothers. If you beat them, God will surely punish you, because we are to do the work of God.”

That’s how they kept us there in that house. I think there were about 200 women and girls there. They kept us under heavy guard, especially the younger girls like me.

Then one day in December, they told us we will soon be getting married. We cried and pleaded. The Boko Haram fighters became angry and asked us why are we crying. They said we are still behaving like infidels who refuse to marry their strong fighters. They told us, “Who do you think you are? Are you too good to get married to us? We are doing the work of God.”

They called us into a room one afternoon and introduced us one by one to some of the Boko Haram fighters. They introduced me to a guy they call “One Arab,” because he looked like an Arab man. His hair was long, and he had light skin. My other friends Zeinab — who was born with the name Sarah — Katturah and Maryam were also led to meet some of the men there. Maryam was to be married to Maman. Katturah was supposed to marry Mallam Ramat. And Zeinab was given to Direban Sambisa. We called him Sambisa because he was always driving back and forth to the Sambisa Forest. Sambisa is where Boko Haram has their main camp.

The Boko Haram fighters asked me, “Do you see this man, ‘One Arab’?” I said yes. They said, “You will marry him in a few weeks’ time. We will marry all of you off.” We fell down and starting crying and pleaded to them. We told them we are not ready to get married. They started shouting at us. They leader came and told us it is final, we will get married, and we should stop crying because we are not better than them. He asked us, “Do you think you are better than those Chibok girls that we kidnapped?” He said the Chibok girls are enjoying their matrimonial homes. He said the Chibok girls have accepted the message of Boko Haram and have turned against their parents. He said the Chibok girls are ready to slit their parents’ throats if they ever see them again. He told us we must accept true Islam because even the Chibok girls have accepted the religion. Then he told us to stop crying or they will kill us.

He said, “Fatima, wherever you go, even if you run all the way to Yola, we will run after you and kill you.” He said I can never escape. Then he started talking about President [Goodluck] Jonathan, and he said Jonathan is an infidel and that they will slit his throat.

By that time, my friends and I were planning our escape. Many other girls had tried to escape, but they were always caught at the gate.

They would not let us go anywhere. We tried to ask them if we can go out into the bush to look for vegetables to cook soup, but they refused. They said girls from our tribe have long legs and we run fast so they will not be able to catch us if we escape.

One day, some of the girls made food. I was in the bedroom when I heard the Boko Haram guards ask for some. They said girls from our tribe are good cooks. So the girls gave food to the guards, and the guards fell asleep. As they slept, the girls went to get a blanket to throw over the barbed wire fence. They climbed up a ladder and jumped over the fence.

That’s how they escaped.

But the guards woke up and realized what happened. The guards were so angry. They asked us what did the girls put in the food that made them fall asleep. I said I didn’t know.

They went outside the compound looking for the girls, and they returned with the pregnant one. She told me she could not run fast enough because of her pregnancy, so she asked a woman in a village down the road to shelter her. Boko Haram went to the house and asked the woman if she is hiding anyone there. The woman said yes, and Boko Haram grabbed her.

The Boko Haram men told her she cannot go anywhere and the child she is carrying in her womb belongs to them.

When the pregnant woman returned to the house, she became so obedient and would always follow Boko Haram’s instructions. They were very pleased with her behavior and her excellence in studying the Quran. So they gave her some money and took her out of the compound. I never saw her again.

There was one day, I was not feeling well. My body was aching, and I became ill. The Boko Haram people brought their doctor, and the doctor connected me to a drip and gave me four injections. I started to feel better. I decided it was my time to escape. It was getting nearer to the wedding day, and I wanted to leave the house.

Me, a girl named Janet, another girl named Hassana and another named Hadja went to the well to fetch water. We told the other girls in the house that we want to wash our clothes. Then we wore a full veil, the one that only exposes the eyes — the niqab. We wanted to try to look like Boko Haram’s wives, because they wear a niqab. We took our clothes and tied some of them around our bodies so we can have a change of clothes. We disguised these clothes under the niqab to make it appear as if we were carrying babies on our backs.

The guards were not around, so we quickly threw a blanket over the barbed wire, climbed up the fence and jumped. We were finally outside the compound!

We walked out and saw some Boko Haram members standing by the roadside. They greeted us with “Assalamu alaikum.” We responded with “Wa alaikum assalam.” They asked, “Who are you?” We told them, “We are the wives of the rijale” — the strong men, because that is how the Boko Haram refer to themselves. So they allowed us to pass.

As we walked along, one of the girls became worried and said we will get caught and get killed. She pleaded for us to go back to the house. We said no. We told her the Boko Haram members will not remove our veils to check our faces. So we continued trekking.

We saw an old man, and we asked him how to get to Cameroon. He showed us the way.

As we walked, we saw so many destroyed villages, burned-down houses, rotting corpses. We even saw cracked tombstones at graveyards and overturned coffins. We saw another set of old people. They asked us where are we going. We told them we are looking for the road to Cameroon. The old people pointed to the road to Cameroon, and they told us not to remove our niqab until we reach a village called Palam. They said once we reach Palam, we must take off our niqab because the villagers there will kill us because they will suspect we are from Boko Haram.

They advised us to avoid the main road and go through the guinea cornfields.

So we walked through farm fields, and the sun was burning. We were sweating in the niqab, and the prickly grasses kept getting caught on our fabric. We were too tired. Then we saw a Boko Haram man driving toward us on a motorbike. He was carrying a machete. We ran so fast but he was after us, yelling, “I will kill you. You are the type of people who will report us in Yola.”

The man’s motorbike skidded off the road, and he tumbled off but started running after us. Hassana, the oldest of us, shouted to keep running and not look back. I couldn’t keep up, so I stopped to hide under some leaves. I dropped the clothes I had placed on my back, my Christian baptismal card and my photographs. The Boko Haram man who was chasing us couldn’t find us, and we heard him stop. We were lucky he did not have a gun, or else he would have just shot us.

We saw some women sitting by the roadside in Palam, and we asked them to show us how to get to Cameroon. They asked us where were we coming from. We lied and told them we were living in the mountains and ran out of food. We asked the women if we can remove our niqab. They told us not to remove it because some Muslims living in the area will notice and will alert Boko Haram.

We left the women, and after some time, I removed the niqab, but my friends kept theirs on. We saw a Christian woman roasting groundnuts, and she asked, “Who are you?” We told her that we had escaped from those people. She pointed at the road to Cameroon, and we continued. The niqab became too heavy for my friends, so they took off their niqab and handed it over to some old women we saw standing by a tree. It was nighttime.

We reached a village called Palam B and saw so many burned houses and a burned church.

My friends and I decided to sleep in Palam B. We entered a compound and saw a Muslim family praying. We decided not to stay with a Muslim family, so we left. We saw a Christian woman, and we asked if we can stay with her. She refused. We asked her if there is anyone around from Gulak. She told us to go farther down the road and we will see a woman from Gulak.

We soon saw a woman from Gulak, and she gave us a room to sleep in. She said villagers in Palam B have been anxious because new Boko Haram recruits in the village had delivered a letter from Boko Haram threatening to kill them.

We stayed with her for two days, until she told us we had to leave because she learned that Boko Haram knew we were in the town because of the niqab that we had given to the women on the street.

She told us to run straight to Cameroon and not to pass through a village called Sina, because villagers there will kill us once they realize we had lived with Boko Haram.

We left, and on our way, we met a man who asked us if we had cellphones. I was the only one. But Boko Haram had deleted everything that had been in my phone, including all the Christian songs I had saved. They put in their own war chants and messages.

The man advised me to throw away the phone. He warned us that farther down the road, we might meet some people who will strip us naked and search us. If they find anything on us that looks like it came from Boko Haram, they will kill us.

Moving toward the Cameroonian border, we did not see a single person. We were all alone, surrounded by more burned houses and churches.

Then we saw a Muslim woman resting under a tree with her children. She told us that she fled from Michika and is on her way to Cameroon but will return to Nigeria to join her husband in the city of Jos. My friends and I accompanied the woman and her children to Cameroon. We arrived at the border on a Tuesday, and there some teenage boys harassed us, saying we cannot enter until we give them money. We explained to them that we are running for our lives and we don’t have money. The boys blocked our way and said if we don’t give them money, they will report us to the Cameroonian soldiers. The Muslim woman gave money to the boys, and we were allowed to enter Cameroon. We slept in the street because the people were not friendly and they did not want to help.

When we woke up, we decided to leave Cameroon, but Zeinab was still suffering from a leg injury she got when we jumped over the fence from the Boko Haram house in Gulak. Her leg was swollen, and we had to leave her. We told the Muslim woman that we are leaving. She blessed us, bought food for us to eat and then gave us 500 naira. She helped us to try to get a ride to Mubi, but none of the drivers were willing to take us there. So we told her goodbye, and we walked several kilometers to Mubi.

In the market there I met a girl I used to know from Sabon Gari. She was so happy to see me. I told her my story, and she gave me money for my friends and me to pay for transportation. Later we heard that Boko Haram is on its way to Mubi. Everyone in the town began to panic. We searched for a ride, but there was no room in anyone’s car. So we gathered along with other people who were walking, and we walked until we reached a town called Maiha. I went to a parking lot to look for a vehicle to take us to Yola and heard someone call me by my native name.

I looked and saw a man I used to know in Sabon Gari. He asked me why I looked so dirty and tired. I told him everything that happened, and he took my friends and me to his home to meet his wife and children. They took care of us. They, too, had been displaced by Boko Haram.

He gave me money for transportation, and on Jan. 18, my friends and I were in a car on the way to Yola.

My friends and I sat on the road once we arrived in Yola. We were not used to the city, and we were confused. I saw a girl who I know from home, and she was excited to see me. She told me that I have an uncle who is staying at St. Theresa’s Catholic Church. I went to the church, and now I am safe.

Apagu has since relocated out of the northeast out of fear that Boko Haram members will come after her.

Woman For Free: Buy This Lovely House And Get A Free Wife

A woman is not and cannot be equal with a man. If you still think that their must be equality between man and woman, the joke is on you. A forty years old man can marry a 25 years old girl and it is cool but a woman of forty can’t go and marry a 25 years old boy. If you do, be ready to face the society.

This woman just realized that. Now, she is ready to offer herself as a wife to any mature man who can buy the house her late husband left behind for her. She doesn’t just want to be sleeping around with small boys, but be a decent woman with a husband. Read her story below…

An advert for a house in Indonesia has gone viral online after the woman selling it offered to throw in an unusual extra feature for free — her hand in marriage.

The Internet ad reads for the most part like a regular house listing, saying that the single-storey property has two bedrooms, two bathrooms, a parking space and a fish pond.

But it also proposes to buyers a “rare offer” — “when you buy this house, you can ask the owner to marry you”, alongside a picture of Wina Lia, a 40-year-old widow and beauty salon owner, leaning against a car in front of the house.

The ad said that terms and conditions apply, and notes the offer is “for serious buyers and non-negotiable”. The house in Sleman, on the island of Java, is on the market for 999 million rupiah (about $75,000).

News of the offer quickly spread among Internet users in social media-crazy Indonesia.

A user on popular online forum said Wina Lia is “quite smart — even though the house will be sold, she will remain the owner.”

But the mother of two explained that she had asked a friend who was a property agent to help her find a buyer — and in the process a husband — but she had expected him to pass on the news to a limited number of people, not put an ad online.

“I told a friend of mine who also works as property agent that if there is a buyer who is a single man or a widower who wants to buy a house, and at the same time look for a wife, he can let me know as I’m also a widow,” she said.

She added that a potential buyer had visited on Wednesday, but refused to give further details about him.

Folorunsho Alakija, World’s Richest Black Woman Discusses Marriage

Aside being the world’s richest black woman, Mrs Folorunsho Alakija is also an author and a minister. In describing why she wrote the book “The University Of Marriage” she said;

The Lord led me, through different revelations within a year and a half, to write a book on marriage and He also gave me the title of the book.

With 36 years of marital experience I now preach in churches and other circular gatherings through God’s leading and because of His obvious concern for the high rate of divorces worldwide. 



Important Facts About Marriage (Must Read)

These are facts regarding marriage posted by a facebook user:

1. The next worst thing outside death is a bad marriage.
2. The choice of whom you marry determines the course of your life.
3. A wedding cake is the only cake that can give you indigestion the rest of your life.
4. They say, ”Love is blind,” but marriage will open your eyes. Then you will know whether he snores heavily or she salivates in her sleep.
5. A successful marriage consists of God at the top, the man and woman answer to Him.
6. After the wedding, it is too late for regret.
7. Don’t tell me his wallet is fat; don’t say she greets my mum on her two knees……. Get God’s opinion first and make it your pillar.
8. Marriage is not for boys and girls.
9. Marriage is a lifetime contract; DO NOT RUSH.
10. It is better for people to laugh at you for marrying late than to be unable to laugh after your marriage. DEY NO DEY CANE OR PUNISH LATE COMER O.
11. The choice of whom you marry determines the totality of you.

Why Marriages Are No Longer Working In Nigeria’ ,Seun Kuti Talks Us Through

In a new interview with Encomium magazine, afrobeat singer, songwriter and saxophonist Seun Kuti, who has said many times that he doesn’t believe in marriage, said one of the reasons marriages no longer last in Nigeria is because women are no longer submissive. Read below & tell us if you agree

“I don’t believe in marriage. The truth is, the marriage institution in Nigeria has collapsed. Nobody is getting married for long anymore. On the average, it’s within a year. Although they still marry, they separate. The thing responsible for it is that people get married for the wrong reasons. As a matter of fact, the institution of marriage is fading away in the traditional sense of marriage – for love; for better or worse; and all sort. It’s fading because women are no longer submissive.

For you to live together with someone for life, someone must be submissive. That is easier when women are not working, and they depend on their husband. But now, its becoming difficult because they are working; making more money even more than the men. The situation is terrible. Even if you as a man is not looking outside, your wife will look.

I’ve made a decision and my partner already agreed. In fact there was a wedding we went attended in Ibadan, the couple broke up at the reception. Because of picture, the bride’s father wanted to take first, the groom’s father said No and they started quarreling. The couple broke up at the reception. How about that?

About my father marrying 27 wives, if you look deep, you will discover that in 1986 my father divorced all his wives. People seem to forget this fact. It also goes to buttress my point that says marriage is becoming a fading institution. Fela was the epitome of marriage. First, he married one woman, then he married 26 at once. He has experienced both, and later he came out to say marriage is bad. What about that?” He said

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Dear compatriots, let me wish you a Happy Independence Anniversary all the same, even though I have never had a more watery Independence Anniversary celebration in my existence as a Nigerian. I would not want to be disinterested in this nation and her politics, as I have come to find out that that is exactly the goal of these political louts that call themselves Nigerian politicians. They are perpetuating a psychological disenfranchisement where the enlightened ones amongst us will develop apathy to politics due to the mishandling of the nation and eventually leave the country, so that the politicians will have a leeway to act indiscriminately without any check. But I have promised myself  not to dance to their evil drumbeats, and I urge you to join me by registering, participating, and voting right in the next elections, not forgetting to protect your votes.

Kindly enjoy the following excerpt from A Feminist and Her Son , Societal Fragments.

The officiating Reverend was the antithesis of some sorts. He had preached that,

“A man will leave his father and mother, and cleave unto his wife and they both will be one flesh.”

That was the popular ‘Genesis Chapter Two, verse Twenty Four’ sermon for a normal wedding ceremony. But his records show that he is currently facing a divorce  proceedings from his third marriage.

He is a good friend of the President.  He denied any political interest, even though the blindest of the blind knew otherwise. Some even referred to him as the spiritual lord of the President. His wife had caught him pants down many times with other women, married and single, in the name of deliverance, prayer, and counseling; hence, his lack of success at marriage.  His current spouse was seeking a divorce as fast as possible.

“I wonder how some women can be so daft” this critic continued, “How can someone tell you to go nude in order to be delivered from spiritual attack!”

The ludicrous notion of that thought was: How can one explain the role of a man of God who is at the center of a free-for-all fight by some women who are laying proprietary claim to his love?

“He is mine!” one of his women had shouted.

“I brought you to this church for deliverance and now you are sleeping with him!” Another of his worshippers had bellowed.

None of these women is his wife. Then what should the wife do if they own his love?  Yes, she was doing exactly that; seeking divorce.

Even so, many people trooped to his church for his self-acclaimed vast knowledge of the Bible and his grandiloquence in teaching the word of God. He was a powerful dresser, always dangling a necklace of outlandish amounts of gold karats made into a crucifix reaching his torso. That adornment might have sat well with a rappa’ too. Lately, some youth called him, Jigga.

A crucifix around his and many other necks had become objects of mere adornment, not remotely an insignia of piety anymore.

Anyway, the couple was admonished to be steadfast in love, and true to one another just as Adam and Eve, who were naked in the Garden of Eden and were not ashamed of one another. This was a message coming from a Reverend who also was the head of the cult of the Knights. An oxymoron perhaps?!

Poverty is such a menace but shameless display of appurtenances, especially ill-gotten wealth by public office holders and ‘spiritual leaders,’ should be discouraged.


I learnt about Beowulf in a robust Literature class from a colossus in Arts Lecture Theatre in OAU. The last time I saw him was on television where he spoke as a Director for one of the institutes for Black Heritage and Studies. The last thing I heard about him was that he has passed.

May the soul of Prof. Wole Ogundele find peace in his ethereal journey.


Adebayo Coker is the author of Societal Fragments and A Man Like Me: Noteography Of A Father To His Son (both are available on, OR order directly by calling 09096991619). He blogs via and tweets @adebay_c


#Pausibility runs on every Frida.

Ini Edo’s Marriage Allegedly Crashes, Husband Returns Bride Price

New reports surfacing online allege that actress Ini Edo’s marriage has crashed.

Ini Edo, who got married to her American based business man, Phillip in 2008, allegedly walked out of the marriage weeks ago following accusations of domestic violence and cheating.

“I am sorry to break your hearts but what must be told must be told. This report is authentic and you can take it to the Bank.

“A close friend of the actress squealed that the marriage broke down due to very strong al legations of ‘serial cheating with evidence’ but that the couple who are pretending to still be in talking terms might cite irreconcilable differences.

“The source alleged that Phillips Ehiagwina demanded to have back the bride price he paid to marry Ini Edo and his wishes were granted by her people”, Celebrity Blogger Stella Dimokokorkus reported.

The actress is currently in Makurdi, Benue State shooting a movie.

#INSIGHTWITHLARIGOLD: It’s Sex Time by Yinka Akoleowo

Yinka shares some values I endorse about sex, hear her personal perspective to sex and marriage. Kindly do well to drop your comments too, whether you agree with her or not. Enjoy!

Right from childhood, I’ve always carried the knowing that I am unique, and that I need no one to affirm it. My thinking has always been far above average even among my peers. I seem to always have an idea about many things, if not the full picture, at least far more than half of it. Early enough, I told myself “no to premarital sex” as soon as my mum told me I was capable of bringing forth a child. Mum explained that “Having a family is no child’s play; no matter how old or prepared you are, there is always an element of surprise at each turn”.

Up until now, premarital sex didn’t use to be a celebrated thing in many Nigerian cultures, not among teenagers! As a teenager, I didn’t want to make community headlines, dragging my family name into the mud, by being the next teenage mother. So I made up my mind to do the right thing.  This is what I told myself; the only man that will know how good, bad or ugly I am in bed will be the man that has taken me to the altar. Not that I will run off with any man I see, but he must be approved by my parent, my parent necessarily don’t have to choose for me but he must be the man I love, and above all, he must love Christ, ‘cos I believe that a man who loves Christ can’t be struggling to love his wife, he should know how to love her right, give her the respect she deserves and help her in every way he can without being a tyrant. Simply because amidst so much love, respect, honour & humility is abides.

When a woman loves, it’s with all her heart. Nothing is left.

My stands on premarital sex and marriage might sound like a childhood fantasy, but believe me, it has helped me bottle up well. Not one of the above lines can be skipped; it must be truly followed to get the expected result. It is true that we live in a world where everything wrong now seems right, essentially because we erroneously choose to believe that everyone is doing it. Please snap out of it! Yeah it might seem as if everyone is losing their ability to discern from what is actually good or bad, yet, it’s important to note that it’s only in mathematics that negative * negative = positive. Our society might be losing its didactic values but we must pause in a while and then whisper some sensible truth to ourselves! Many things in life are worth waiting for, and to every single/unmarried person reading this; sex is part of it. How do you feel after doing it? So many adults are now in abusive relationship because they put the last thing first. Premarital sex can be likened to a man who wants to build a house & the first thing he buys is the paint far before getting the land. Even if you are doing it or you’re struggling with it, it’s never too late to put things right. Believe me no one says it’s going to be easy, but it’s worth the effort.

Our parents are the angels sent to guide us; they have lived long enough to know where the tree a child is cutting will fall. Never despise their warnings or frown at their rebukes because that which they see while laying you probably won’t see even when you climb the top of the tallest mountain.

The role of God cannot be over emphasized, always put God first in all you do then you will be great in life. Marriage is a sacred thing, where you do it with God’s blessing then you have the license to have sex in its full package. Old habits die hard but with God all things are possible including abstinence.

Yinka Akoleowo


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