Questions A Guy Wants You To Ask On A First Date

1. Ask him, “If you could be doing anything humanly possible right now, what would it be?” It’s always good to have a few icebreaker questions on standby. Go for original, absurd and goofy, or thought-provoking. If he says, “I’d still rather be here with you!” dump his cheesy ass.

2. Ask him where he sees himself in five years. All too often, first dates are about the “now.” What do you do for a living? Where do you live? Instead, ask him where he wants to be. Most Millennials aren’t working their dream job or even working in the field they’ll end up in for most of their life, anyway.

3. Ask anything that lets him show off. Please, just … throw him a bone. Anytime he says something that sounds like a humblebrag, follow up on it. That’s what he wants. By no means let him dominate the conversation, but, when it’s his turn to talk, if he’s giving you very clear hints about things he’s proud of, do the man a favor and ask him about it.

4. Ask, “What’s your perfect date?” Secretly, he’s dying inside for you to ask this, so he can tell you. That way, you’ve got a great second date idea, and he doesn’t have to plan it.

5. Ask for major turn-offs and pet peeves. This is a question that’s potentially frightening to ask and could score you some offensive answers. But if you both share your ultimate deal breakers off the top, it could save you some time. Some of those don’t rear their heads until it’s way too late.

6. Ask him if he’s as nervous as you are. First dates are nerve-wracking for a lot of people. Unless you’re incredibly confident or a sociopath (is there a difference?), you’re probably a little freaked out. Plus, this is 2016 … there’s a good chance this is your first time even meeting your date in person. Acknowledging that can help put both of you at ease.

7. Ask if he wants to have sex. So you know what you are in for. Being honest about this will go a long way even before the relationship starts.

8. Ask him to tell his favorite joke. This is incredibly telling. Even if he doesn’t have a favorite joke, that says a lot. Maybe it’s corny or pun-based or it’s an anti-joke, but you’ll know if you’ve got similar senses of humor. And if you have to push him to tell it because he’s embarrassed, you know it’s going to be good.

9. Ask if he wants to split the check. No, chivalry isn’t dead, but who doesn’t really want to split the check deep down? What does paying for the whole meal really show? If you’ve asked him every awkward question on this list, he’s probably earned it.

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7 Questions You Should Ask on a First Date

1. What are some of your hobbies?

This will help you see what things your date finds fun and interesting. Your date may spend a lot of time on these hobbies, and if you get serious, may want to involve you in these activities.

2. How did you choose your career?

Most people have interesting stories to tell about how they landed on their chosen career path. A discussion about careers may help you learn more about their motivations and work ethic.

3. What are you most passionate about?

Your date’s passion will be where much of his or her time and energy is spent.

4. What are some of the goals on your bucket list?

This can provide some insight into areas of your date’s life that have yet to be explored.

5. How long ago was your last serious relationship?

The timing may show you whether your date is ready to begin another relationship. If it was very recent, you may want to explore why he or she is dating so soon.

6. What was the reason your last relationship didn’t work out?

Also ask who initiated the break-up and why. This may give you some insight into how he or she handles conflict and what they find important in a relationship. In addition, how was the news delivered? If your future partner says it was via text, email, or worse — social media — you may want to proceed with caution. Someone that insensitive will likely treat you the same.

7. What’s your biggest relationship regret?

Did he or she wish they spent more time with their ex? Did they fight all the time? Ask what your date would have done differently.


See What Kim Kardashian & Kanye West Did On Thier First Date

Long before the arrival of North and Saint West, their parents Kim Kardashian and Kanye West were just two people testing out some feelings on a date. On Apr. 5, 2012, Kim and Kanye embarked on their very first date, which involved a large entourage and what appears to be all the paparazzi in New York City that day.

Their day included a nice lunch at upscale Italian eatery Serafina, shopping, and a trip to FAO Schwarz, the iconic and giant toy store that sadly closed its doors last year. Now, thanks to Kim’sapp, you can now relive part of this magnificent date. Here are Kim and Kanye playing around on the giant piano dance mat, otherwise known as the piano from the Tom Hanks film Big. Note Kanye’s impeccable timing, and just how happy this activity made him that day. See video on link below

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6 Things You Should Not Do On A First Date

1. Be late

Whatever you do, don’t be late. Punctuality is always important, especially on the first date. If you show up late, it will send the message that you just don’t care. Reduce your chances of a late arrival by departing earlier than usual.

“Unfortunately, I’ve seen lots of bad advice about turning up late on dates to show how much in demand you are. All that this will communicate is how inconsiderate you are and that you’re unable to manage your time properly. What else are you unable to manage properly if you can’t be in a certain place at a certain time?” said Charlie Valentino in First Date Tips for Men: The Complete Dating Psychology.

2. Talk about your ex

The first date is not an appropriate time to talk incessantly about past loves. Keep a lid on it unless it is relevant to the conversation. And even then, don’t stay on the topic longer than necessary. It’s best to steer clear of a discussion about your exes until the time is right. If you just can’t help yourself, and your ex is all you talk about, you’re clearly not over the relationship. You may need a break from dating so you can deal with your issues. Don’t date on the rebound, as these relationships rarely turn out well. Heal your heart first and then jump back in the dating pool when you’re ready.

 3. Don’t listen

If there was ever a time to focus, it’s now. The first date is when you’ll learn a lot of new things about your partner. Take the time to really listen to what he or she is saying. The first couple of dates will help you decide whether to continue with the relationship or move on to someone more compatible. Your date shouldn’t have to repeat herself several times.

“Actually listen. I’ve been guilty of half-listening to my girlfriend. And that means you give half-assed responses. That is not good. Put down what you’re doing–or at least tell your significant other to give you a second if you are in the middle of something dangerous–then give your full attention,” said Ella Ceron in How to Date Better: Finding, Friending, Hooking Up, Breaking Up, and Falling in Love in the 21st Century.

4. Look sloppy

Pay attention to how you look. If you show up looking a mess, it shows that you don’t take pride in how you look and don’t really care about the outcome of your meeting. If you really could care less, just cancel the date and stay home. Don’t ask someone out just to pass the time or because you’re lonely.

5. Tell your whole life story

Keep the conversation fun and light. If you reveal your entire life story from childhood until now, you’ll not only bore your date but also make yourself less of a challenge. And you’ll also appear a little unbalanced (OK, a lot unbalanced). In addition, your date will think that if you’re ready to share everything upfront that you do that with everyone you meet.

6. Spill the beans

Don’t get into explicit detail about what you like in bed and how you want the job done. Leave something to the imagination. There will be plenty of time for that later.

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