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No. 1 Reason For NOT Finding a Love Relationship (& What You Can Do About It)

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“How the hell is it possible that a fabulous person like me, who is very serious about finding a committed relationship – hasn’t found one, yet?”

How could this be? It makes no sense. Has the world gone crazy? Is there no God? Does someone need to channel Albert Einstein for an answer? If he can explain thetheory of relativity, maybe he can explain his theory on why you have no honey!

If you’ve been saying to yourself (and your friends, family, street people and anyone within listening range), “I’m tired of being single – when am I going to meet Mr. Right (Miss Right),” the planet Saturn may be trying to contact you with an urgent message.

And…it’s good news! When the planet Saturn transits the 7th House of Relationshipsin your horoscope, it may provide you with the answer to the perplexing question about why you are single and not in a relationship that would rival Romeo and Juliet. (See the end of this article to find out where transiting Saturn is in your birth chart.)

Saturn is affecting you if you’re feeling lonely, with a real “hole in your heart,” because you don’t have a happy love relationship in your life. Its planetary energies can make you depressed about being alone. (Even if you’re in a relationship you may feel like you’re alone, if your needs are not being met by your partner.)

If this is the case, the influences of Saturn can put you in touch with the limitations and restrictions that may be prohibiting you from finding the right relationship. In your attempts to find the right one, something maybe wrong in the way you’ve gone about it; so now is the time to ask yourself what it might be.

Saturn’s presence in your life at this time is to help you re-evaluate changes you might make that would bring you a love relationship. If you spend too much time by yourself (or at work), perhaps it’s time to get out and socialize with others. Why not join a social or professional organization where you can make new connections?

If you’re so critical that no one seems interesting, maybe it’s time a meet different people or reevaluate your standards. Or, maybe it’s time to come to terms with whether you actually want a romantic partner in your life. Saturn is there to encourage some change that will help you get what you want.

If you’ve been dating someone exclusively, seeking a long-term relationship, this can be a serious and intense time of deciding to have a committed love relationship in the form of marriage or living together. Or, it maybe time to be realistic and recognize that you are not in a relationship that will lead to the long-run commitment you want. Saturn’s message: review and re-evaluate your relationships (or lack of).

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6 Steps To Finding Love

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1. Recognize those people who you have not forgiven, and forgive them.Especially the ones you do not want to forgive. Release your resentment, your anger. Consider this – what is the reason for holding on to this pain/hurt/anger? For me, I sort of wanted them to suffer. But did they? Did the fact I was angry with them for years keep them up at night? No. They went on living their lives. The only one you are hurting by holding on to this anger is yourself. Why should you continue to suffer? Call them and tell them that you have held resentment (or whichever emotion) for x years, and you are ready to release it. Disclaimer: this is terrifying. Remember that one of two things could happen — they are nice about it, or they are not. If you can release your attachment to the outcome, you do not have to let it affect you adversely, and therefore it loses scariness.

2. Recognize your negative thought patterns. Pay attention in your quiet moments — what are the voices in your head saying? They may show up as, “I wish…,” “I don’t want to…,” or some similarly negative-Nancy type of thing.

3. Interrupt your negative thoughts. Say something nice instead. I 100 percent understand that it will sound crazy when you are in this state of mind. Say it anyway. I find that it is most effective to say the opposite of the negative thought. So where you were saying, “I wish I had love in my life,” say “I have a ton of love in my life.” This is particularly helpful to do if/when you meditate when your mind is quiet and less likely to refute everything nice you say.

4. Do something (or a bunch of things) outside of your comfort zone. This will do two things: (a) you can learn / experience something new that you wouldn’t have previously and (b) you will learn that the earth will not disintegrate if you do something that is uncomfortable. What WILL happen, is that you will feel uncomfortable for a finite amount of time and probably realize that doing new things is not as scary as you thought.

5. Recognize your negative behavioral patterns. This will take some seriously honest introspection. Do you keep pursuing unavailable men? Do you keep shying away from things because you do not think you are good enough? Often, our mind hides these patterns from us, so that we either think that they are not patterns (but rather stuff that happens TO us) or we think that we have chosen them logically. No. They are negative behavioral patterns that need to change.

6. Break them. Warning: This will lead to some wild emotions. Maybe don’t go hog wild and try to break all of them in one week. When I started noticing and breaking patterns, it hurt. It felt like slamming into a brick wall of honesty. But once the hours of sobbing were over, all I had was calm. I could move forward. These first patterns were painful to break, but others were just scary. For example, in the beginning of my relationship with my husband, I threw caution to the wind and invited him to meet my parents (a 3 hour flight away) 3 weeks into the relationship.

Again, this will not be easy. You will want to quit when it gets hard. Commit to yourself that you will try to get through all of these steps. The result may even be something you did not expect, something that is better than your wildest dreams.

Remember that you are a beautiful human being and you deserve everything you want in life. Try out my six steps and let me know in the comments — did they work for you?

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Chris Brown Calls Police After Finding Naked Woman In His Bed

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Chris Brown called the police after finding a naked intruder in his bed.

The 26-year-old singer returned to his home in Agoura Hills, California, after several days away in Las Vegas – where he’d celebrated his recent birthday – to find a unknown woman in his bed and the words “I LOVE YOU” spray painted on the kitchen counter.

Chris and his security team subsequently called the police, who cuffed the woman and she was later booked for felony burglary and felony vandalism, according to TMZ.

The police believe the 21-year-old woman had been in Chris’ apartment for a lengthy period of time, as dishes were found in the sink and food was also lying about the property.

The gossip website also reports the woman had vandalised Chris’ silver Rolls-Royce and his black Range Rover by spray painting them with the words “MRS. BROWN”.

The Ayo singer also took to his Instagram account to name and shame his intruder.

Along with a picture of the woman he said: “I get home and find this crazy individual in my house. She had broken the hinges off the doors. She Found time to cook her several meAls. She Wrote “I love you” on the walls. She threw out my daughters clothing as well as my dogs stuff. Then had all these crazy voodoo things around my crib. goes to show you how crazy people are crazy! And she painted her name on my cars!!!! I love my fans but this is some on some real real crazy shit! I pray she will get help (sic).”

Meanwhile, it’s been confirmed Chris will not be charged for allegedly attacking a man during his time in Las Vegas.

The Loyal hitmaker was accused of punching a man during a basketball game in the early hours of Monday morning, but law enforcement have now dropped the battery case after the man withdrew his complaint.

A police statement said: “The victim alleging that he was battered by recording artist Chris Brown has told LVMPD detectives that he no longer wants to go forward with criminal charges.”

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