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EFCC Seizes N860m Mansion From Ex-Air Force Chief

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The Economic and Financial Crimes Commission has sealed off a mansion allegedly belonging to a former Chief of Air Staff, Air Marshal Mohammed Umar (retd).

Reports provides that the house located on 1853 Deng Xiano Ping Street, off Mahathir Mohammed Street, Asokoro Extension, Abuja, had stickers bearing the EFCC logo pasted on the gate.

According to the EFCC, the house is worth about N860m.

The EFCC had alleged before an Abuja Federal High Court that, “while being the Chief of Air Staff, Nigerian Air Force, between March and April 2012, in Abuja, within the jurisdiction of the court did the accused (Umar) use the United States dollars equivalent of the sum of N860,000,000 (Eight hundred and sixty million naira) removed from the accounts of the Nigerian Air Force to purchase for yourself a property lying and situate at plot 1853 Deng Xiano Ping Street, off Mahathir Mohammed street, Asokoro extension Abuja.”

The anti-graft agency had also alleged that Umar removed another N700m from the accounts of the NAF to purchase a property at 14, Vistula Close, off Panama Street, Maitama, Abuja, while N500m was removed from the accounts of the NAF to purchase a property comprising a four-bedroomed duplex at Road 3B, Street 2, Mabushi Ministers Hill, Abuja.

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Jonathan’s Ex Top Aide Arrested At Lagos Airport

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Nigerian security operatives have arrested a former Special Assistant to President Goodluck Jonathan on Domestic Matters, Waripamowei Dudafa, while attempting to travel out of the country through the Murtala Mohammed International Airport, Lagos.

A source at the Economic and Financial Crimes Commission said that Mr. Dudafa was on the anti-graft agency’s wanted list for his alleged involvement in the sharing of N10billion to delegates during the December 2014 presidential primaries of the then ruling Peoples Democratic Party.

Mr. Dudafa allegedly converted the money into US dollars, amounting to $47million, and distributed to delegates from the 36 states and the Federal Capital Territory.

Investigators say they believe the fund was part of the alleged $2.1billion meant for the purchase of arms but which authorities said was shared as slush funds to politicians through the office of a former National Security Adviser, Sambo Dasuki.

Sources at the EFCC said that Mr. Dudafa was arrested and quizzed by the operatives of the State Security Service, SSS, before he was handed over to the EFCC on Monday.

“He has been on our wanted list for a long time and he evaded arrest on several occasions,” a top EFCC official, who asked not to be named, said.

Contacted, the spokesperson of the EFCC, Wilson Uwujaren, declined comment on the matter.

The anti-graft agency had recently arrested Mr. Jonathan’s Aide de Camp, Ojogbane Adegbe, allegedly on the directive of the Nigerian Army and later his ally, Jide Omokore, over a series of multi-billion dollar petrol import and crude export deals.

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4 Signs You Are Still Not Over Your Ex

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. Almost everything reminds you of your ex

If you’re constantly triggered by reminders of your partner, this is an indication you haven’t moved on. Every little reminder should not reduce you to tears and fill you with longing. One way to remedy this dilemma is to do a little house cleaning.

Relationship expert Eddie Corbano said,

I always recommend cleaning up your house and getting rid of everything that reminds you of your ex. Nothing should remind you about the past at home. And remember what is most important: do not torture yourself with unnecessary memories! There is this curious affinity to suffering. Something forces us to rethink, to evaluate, and to relive the moments of the break-up again and again, as if we will gain something very important from it. In fact, the exact opposite is the case: we suffer and move deeper and deeper into the vicious circle of negative emotions.

2. You’re constantly checking his or her social media pages

A little curiosity about what your ex is up to is normal, but checking the person’s every move on social media is unhealthy. This behavior will only serve to slow down the healing process and feed your urge to obsess about the relationship. Take a break from all social media if you have to. Turn off all message alerts, and if you’re still tempted to check your news feeds, keep yourself busy with a good book or just spend time with a group of supportive friends. Better yet, remove your ex from your social media network. A study that appeared in the journal Cyberpsychology, Behavior, and Social Networking further proves that cyber stalking (particularly on Facebook) can be a stumbling block.

According to lead researcher Tara C. Marshall,

Facebook surveillance was associated with greater current distress over the breakup, more negative feelings, sexual desire, and longing for the ex-partner, and lower personal growth. Participants who remained Facebook friends with the ex-partner, relative to those who did not remain Facebook friends, reported less negative feelings, sexual desire, and longing for the former partner, but lower personal growth … Overall, these findings suggest that exposure to an ex-partner through Facebook may obstruct the process of healing and moving on from a past relationship.

 3. You’re hoping to get back together

If it’s been months or years, and you’re still hoping for a reunion, it’s time to accept that it most likely won’t happen. Holding on to false hope may keep you from meeting someone who may be a better fit for you. So stop hoping, wishing, and praying, and just come to terms with your new reality. Take some time to be alone and rebuild your self-esteem.

“You can’t depend on somebody to ‘complete you.’ Jerry Maguire was full of [it] in that sense. You have to complete yourself, through building self-love, confidence, and developing your own unique awesomeness,” said Matt Shumate in From Broken Up to Bro 2.0: The Definitive Guide to Getting Over Your Ex and Leading a Life of Epic Awesomeness.

4. You’re reluctant to start dating again

If you’re not ready to jump back into the dating pool because you’re still hoping to get back with your ex, you’re definitely not over the relationship. Get back out there and meet new people. You can start out slowly by just meeting for coffee or lunch.

“Now it is time to move on. That doesn’t necessarily mean forgetting that person. It just means moving on to what’s next, and it seems best to choose to do so in a powerful way … Your life is now about you. For whatever reason you are not together anymore. This is now your life to live. It’s no longer about the other person and it’s not about what your family or friends think. It’s about you living happy, healed, and fulfilled.”

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How Facebook Can Help You Get Over Your Ex

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Facebook has made breakups way more complicated than they need to be. First you have to deal with the actual breakup, then you have to change your relationship status, and then you have to keep seeing your ex’s name and face everywhere — at least if you’re trying to take the high road and not unfriend him or her. But after years of agonizing awkwardness, Facebook has finally decided to do something about it.

On Thursday, the website announced it’s testing a new way to avoid your ex in your news feed. It’s currently only rolling out for mobile users in the United States, but it will spread elsewhere if user feedback is good. You can do nearly all of it manually already.

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4 Questions To Ask Yourself If Your New Boyfriend Doesn’t Seem Over His Ex

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1. How Does He Talk About His Ex?
If he can’t get her name out without his eyes getting a little misty, it’s clear you have a problem on your hands. But there are also more subtle conversational clues that can hint as to how healed his heart is. “If you hear idealization or fondness when he talks about her, that can be an important indicator that there’s still an emotional attachment,” says Bobby. Another tell is if he often blames himself for the breakup in a way that seems like he’d change the past if he could. “If he alludes to that, he may feel like if he had just been better, they could have continued being together,” says Bobby.

That level of wistfulness or what-if thinking can stand in the way of a budding relationship, even if you two would normally be Disney-movie perfect together. “When people are addicted to an ex, they still feel like their ex is their person,” says Bobby. “Even if they’re out in the world talking to other people or going on dates, they’re not available emotionally.” The thing is that having residual feelings for an ex is completely normal, so how do you know if he’s emotionally available or not?

One good sign is if he can talk about his ex in a pretty objective way without assigning blame, getting worked up, or sounding regretful. While there’s always a chance he could be putting on a show, it’s also possible he’s well-adjusted and ready for something serious. He should also be showcasing genuine interest in you, making it clear that he wants to spend time with you and be sensitive to your feelings and needs, says Bobby.

2. Is Everything Moving Too Quickly?
It’s easy to get caught up in a whirlwind romance. Going from singledom to hanging out with someone 24/7 can be pretty thrilling, especially if you throw in things like last-minute getaways and meeting each other’s friends. Unfortunately, it’s an unfair truth of the universe that, when relationships burn so bright in the beginning, they can often fizzle out faster than you’d like. That’s especially true if he’s fresh out of a relationship. “People who are feeling more vulnerable do tend to rush in very quickly,” says Bobby. “If he’s trying to do that with you, he may still have an attachment to another person and be attempting to recreate that experience.” That’s not exactly ideal—neither is him eventually having a lightbulb moment that he’s not over his ex, which is sometimes what happens in this scenario.

3. Was He the Dumper or the Dumpee?
Even if he dumped his ex recently, he could be further along in the recovery process than another guy who got dumped by his ex a while ago. “It’s possible to process grief and make peace with a relationship ending before it actually ends, and many times that happens for the person who’s breaking up with the other,” says Bobby. “In that context, it’s much easier for someone to truly connect with a new person.” If you don’t already know details about what went down with his ex, ask. Talking about how they ended will probably give you some insight about whether you two are beginning in a good place.

4. Can You Give Him Space?
If you know for a fact he’s not over his ex but you still think you two could have something real, you have one main course of action that will help things to eventually work out: “Give him time and space,” says Bobby. “The biggest mistake you can make is trying to force it.” As hard as it may be, focus on filling your life in ways beyond him. See other people if you’re not exclusive, spend time with your friends, work on your runninghabit, and generally don’t hang your romantic hopes on him. You can keep him in your life, but don’t get hooked on someone who’s emotionally unavailable, says Bobby. If he eventually makes some headway and is ready to date seriously, chances are he’ll let you know.

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Kim K’s Ex, Ray J, Is Engaged

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Kim Kardashian West’s ex-boyfriend Ray J is engaged.

The 34-year-old singer and his on-again off-again girlfriend Princess Love are set to tie the knot just eight months after the model was arrested for allegedly assaulting him.

When Princess was asked by entertainment blog The Shade Room if they were thinking of getting hitched, she hinted: “I’m going to let him tell you. I’m going to let him tell you [but] I actually forgot to put my ring on today.”

The engagement rumours will no doubt come as a surprise to some fans as the brunette stunner was reportedly charged with domestic abuse and battery after she allegedly went “ballistic” at the singer before leaving him with several cracked ribs, a split lip, and a torn ligament in his knee following his visit to a strip club back in February this year.

An insider staying at the W French Quarter Hotel in New Orleans, where the incident took place, claimed they heard Princess scream at Ray, “I’m gonna kill you” at the time.

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