Advice From A Wedding Planner: Think Well Before Hiring Family And Friends

It’s okay to patronise a business  owned by a family member or friend. When it comes to a wedding a lot of them give you their services at little or no cost which is a good thing. What you should have in mind is “can someone who is emotionally invested in your wedding judge professionally”?

Sometimes it doesn’t work out the way you want it then you become restrained from expressing your thoughts. I once planned a party for a client who said her cousin was going to handle finger foods. So I got talking with her on the phone and she seemed nice. I scheduled for a meeting for all my vendors but she couldn’t make it and didn’t even send representative but I  still called and updated her.

On the day of then event she was the last vendor to set up, came an hour after the event had started, most of guests had started eating and didn’t want finger food anymore. My client didn’t say a word to her but I could tell she regretted using her for that event. Some of us find it hard expressing our dissatisfaction from a vendor we don’t really know ,talkless of a family member or friend.

If you must use them, make it clear exactly what you want and how you want, put aside the fact that you know them personally and be very outspoken about the results you expect. That way if anything happens they won’t start sulking and you won’t feel guilty .

Contribution: Queen Ohamara
@QmaraViePlanners

How To Stay Married, Advice From A Divorced Woman

If something bothers you. Speak up. NOW.

Maybe your spouse says something that hurts your feelings. Undermines you. Is dismissive.

Whatever it is, you are hurt, but don’t want to bring it up and start a whole argument. It just doesn’t seem worth the hassle.

But trust yourself. Anything that is big enough to upset you, is worth arguing about. Because those feelings of hurt or anger you’ve got won’t go away.

They will just get buried. Which brings me to my next point.

Buried feelings don’t go away. They take root and grow.

All those hurts you haven’t brought up. All those slights you ignored don’t go away. They multiply.

They attach themselves to every single feeling you’ve got about your spouse.

The feelings will surface at some point. Usually when you are arguing about a totally different topic.

Say you’re arguing about who picks up the dog poop in the yard, suddenly all those buried feelings of anger you’ve been suppressing come exploding to the top.

You are now no longer arguing about dog poop you are now arguing about dog poop AND his Mother. Not a productive way to settle a disagreement.

Date Nights Don’t Work.

If date nights are the only time that you do things together as a couple, hate to break it to you, but one night a week is not going to save your marriage. Dinner and a movie do not a marriage make.

It’s a night out, not a miracle.

Yes, it’s a good idea to schedule time just for the two of you to go out; but if that’s the only time you spend time together as a couple, then you are already in trouble.

Don’t Put Off Counseling.

Too many couples put off marriage counseling until it’s way too late.

For many, the marriage is already beyond repair before they ever sit together on a therapist’s couch.

Counseling has a better chance of working if you go while there is still a marriage to save. If you think it might help your relationship, don’t wait. If your goal is to stay married, call a marriage counselor ASAP. Counseling seem too expensive?

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Buhari Doesn’t Need Your Advice, David-West To Okonjo-Iweala

Former Minister of Petroleum, Prof. Tam David-West, has rubbished the counsel by Minister of Finance, Dr Ngozi Okonjo-Iweala, on how president-elect, Gen Muhammadu Buhari can increase Nigeria’s revenue.

David-West on Friday told The Nation in Ibadan, the Oyo State capital, that Buhari is a highly experienced manager of the economy and thus, doesn’t need the advise of the former World Bank chief.

He said: “I read Okonjo-Iweala’s advice to Gen. Buhari on how to raise revenue with interest and amusement. I don’t think that Buhari needs any advice from her on the subject. He is not new on the terrain. He is a very knowledgeable person on how to move the economy forward. I don’t believe he needs advice from Okonjo-Iweala.

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