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Why Being Single In Your 30s Is Actually An Incredible Opportunity

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Your initial reaction to the title of this article may have been some sort of combination of pity and sadness—it’s not your fault, our society conditions us to feel this way about single people (read: women) of a certain age! Hear us out, though. There are innumerable benefits to being unattached in your 30s, which are evident if you’re picturing the person in question as a man, but probably less so if you’re thinking of her as a woman. Here, all the reasons you should celebrate if you find yourself sans partner once you hit 30.

When you’re single in your 30s, you likely find yourself sans wingman a lot—many of your friends have married and started families, so if you’re not dating anyone, it can be hard to rope someone in to being your plus one to obligatory events like birthday parties, engagement parties, et cetera. So, you get used to going it alone, which is a good thing, because life is long and unpredictable, and though you will absolutely find a partner if you want one, there are inevitably times in which you have to fly solo.

If you’re single in your 30s, chances are you’ve watched quite a few friends get hitched and make babies. While initially these milestones may incite jealousy, eventually the rose-colored glasses come off and you get to see them for what they really are—trade-offs that require a lot of work. This isn’t to say they’re not worth the sacrifice, it just means that the longer you wait to make these moves, the more time you will have to think mindfully about which scenarios actually make you happiest. Maybe you always thought you wanted children, for example, but after seeing the reality of what that entails you’ve changed your mind. Maybe you figured you would be a stay-at-home mom, but then you heard firsthand from friends how challenging that can be and have decided to remain committed to some version of your career. Maybe, after watching friends struggle with money, you’ve decided financial stability is an important criteria for anyone you seriously consider as a life partner. Whatever the revelation may be, you probably wouldn’t have known it with such clarity had you not been able to bear witness to the trials and tribulations of your trailblazing friends.

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LOL! What Guys Actually Think Of As Their Bride Walks Down The Aisle

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The sweet:

“Look at that beautiful idiot. What a fool she is showing up here.” —Uhhnox

“I kept saying to myself ‘don’t cry, don’t cry, don’t cry’ right before my wife started walking down the [aisle]. As soon as I saw her I had to look at my groomsmen to avoid being an emotional mess, which made it worse because I made eye contact with my brother, who has been my best friend my entire life and my eyes watered up. Went back to looking at my wife but I couldn’t see how good she looked because of my tears. Thank God for pictures!” —Pokeyh4x

The heartfelt:

“Just got married in July. 72 hours before our wedding, my fiancee and I went to the doctor for the first ultrasound of our 12-week-old baby. There was no heartbeat. She was in surgery the next day for a D&E procedure. On the morning of our wedding, she spent three hours in the ER dealing with post-surgery complications, but she rallied and we got married as scheduled. As she walked down the aisle, none of our guests knew about her ordeal except for our family and best friends. We all teared up, knowing what she was going through. We got married on the beach in Cape Cod, so it was a long walk across the sand. As she approached, all I could think about was how fucking much I love her. What a strong, beautiful, and amazing woman.” —Velospeed

“30 years for me…I can still see her standing there…absolutely burned in my brain, along with the birth of our children. She was (and is) so beautiful…I felt (and feel) so lucky. It was like the whole world was gray, and as she walked toward me, the world became color in her path. I can’t even imagine the kind of man I would be without her.” —Mrmidhoratio

The tragic:

“‘I am making the worst mistake of my life.’ Divorced two and a half years later. Don’t get married young. Period.” —Mormonsarebrainwashd

“‘This is a mistake… This is a mistake…’ We separated in June and are in the initial steps of divorce.” —isthisoneinvalidtoo

“I was thinking: ‘Please let this be legit, I hope she does not bail when she gets her green card’. She bailed. I am currently putting in an annulment and have her arrested for immigration fraud.” —TeddyV

The tearjerker:

“I’ve been married multiple times. My last wife was pushed down the aisle in a wheelchair.
I was thinking ‘I wish this day could last forever.’ She passed away 17 days later.” -—FullNoodleFrontity

Since we can’t leave you on that note…the funny:

“I was thinking, ‘So this is it. I’ve finally did it. This beautiful woman is mine. Wait, fuck, she’s falling. Try not to laugh. Don’t laugh. Shit, I’m laughing.'” —TheMuffinguy

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What Actually Ruined Ciara & Monica’s Friendship

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At this point, it’s been established that Monica and Ciara’s friendship is a thing of the past. And while the source of their conflict remains a mystery, the singer is adamant that Ci’s ex-fiancé Future’s alleged infidelity is not what drove them apart.

“I read something that I didn’t tell her about somebody cheating, none of that stuff is true,” she told Streetz 94.5in Atlanta. “They say I was friends with somebody he was cheating with, none of that stuff is true. I am friends with one of the mothers of one of Future’s children, but it’s the mom that you never see, you never hear, that Ciara also has a good relationship with. So a lot of the stuff you read is very untrue. Nothing that happened with us had anything to do with him.”

Actually, the mom and wife refused to point to one particular issue as the cause of their broken 20-year friendship. She did, however, reveal that for years, they failed to properly address problems they had with one another. The singer explains.

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