The Gift Called ‘My Mother’ – Yomi Balogun

Too many get along with life forgetting one huge force that helped them get into it in the first place – the mother. Yes, we were created by God but someone kept us safe in their own body, carrying us along for some 9 months, that is a lot of sacrifice to start with. Imagine the weight especially for those of us that came already bearing so much weight. Our mothers deserve our love, not because of the fact that it is often the cool thing to do but mostly because they earned it right from our conception. I appreciate the fathers and all but come on, in most cases, our mothers are the ones stepping out for us when push comes to shove. Spare a thought for your mum’s sacrifices over the years. I personally remember how my mum will go, “Yomi, whatever you do, never forget your source.” And just when I thought she meant herself, she said, “God is your source. I was only a vessel”.  I love my mum. I love my dad too. So, when last did you speak to your mum? Now is not a bad time to make that call. You can even call both of them. For those who have lost theirs, I pray their souls continue to rest in peace. God keep all that they left behind. It’s gonna be a better day. Cheers to our mothers.

Yomi Balogun

Abayomi Balogun wrote in from Lagos.

My Thoughts On Power – Yomi Balogun

Power, is such a broad word it is hard to define without stating its connotative and denotative essence. In its denotative essence, it would mean the ability to do something or act in a particular way. Beyond this denotation, it comes with other inferences. Electric power for instance. The Power as we were taught in elementary physics, the rate at which work is done also comes to mind. Work/Time = Power as we were thought then. The Power I am writing about now is the power invested in leadership. What is the essence of this power and why do so many people want so much of it? I will be sharing my thoughts on this and many more in the coming days.

Yomi Balogun

Abayomi Balogun wrote in from Lagos.

Before You Abuse Our Police And Soldiers – JJ, Omojuwa

We miss the point a lot. We expect police officers whose salaries can barely feed our own pets to be up and doing at dilapidated rat holes called police stations. When they leave their workplaces for the barracks, they stay in some of the most demeaning housing projects you’d see anywhere in the world. We want them to serve and protect with integrity but right from the point they are hired, we take their dignity away from them. We can pretend all we like, but the mess we see in our system is the mess we invested in it.

Channels Television got knocks from those who ought to praise it for bringing the state of the Police College Ikeja under public scrutiny. They said it was done to discredit the President, the same way anyone who points out the way to make our country better is said to do it to discredit the President. How can a President who hardly has anything going for his government continue to assume citizens who want the best for him as President would want to take away the little credit he has going for him?

The flies which perch around the sugar offered by power often forget that this is about our country first and foremost before it is about whoever is running it. Power comes and goes, countries remain for longer. WhatChannels Television showed of the Police College, Ikeja was not an outlier, it is the normal reality of filth, lack, hunger and penury that have bedevilled the force. It is even getting worse now!

Many of us want our soldiers to help #BringBackOurGirls now and alive, in reference to the abducted #ChibokGirls. While we make that much needed call, let us also spare a thought for these men of the armed forces. Think about it; they read newspapers, they listen to the radio and at times watch the news. They know all about the trillions budgeted for security every year and they also know all about the poverty that comes with doing what they do. They know that cronies of our rulers are feeding off their allocations. They are privy to the fact that children of their bosses will feed them and their fellow soldiers for years with wealth accrued from denying their rights as the defenders of the Nigerian people. They defend our country with their lives, this while the country hardly pays attention to ensuring each soldier lives a respectable life. Politicians steal from us for decades, die and have streets named after them; our soldiers die in battlefields like the falling of the branch of a small tree in the forest, we hardly notice. No glory in life, no glory in death yet, we expect them to chase glory for our country. Or, as in the case of the Chibok schoolgirls, rescue them fast and now! Let us at least face it; this is one difficult country to do good!

It is easier to see those serving today and imagine how tough things are in a country where “corruption is not stealing and stealing is not corruption” as long as you steal enough to donate to powerful people for elections. If they were abandoned and forgotten while they are serving, imagine what happens when age calls and they must be retired? Retired officers are some of the poorest of our country’s 54 per cent extremely poor population. We sing, “The labour of our heroes past shall never be in vain,” and some of us actually think that line of the national anthem only refers to the dead ones who fought for our Independence. We should know better. Most of our heroes and heroines are still living and the bulk of them are living in poverty and squalour. Their labour has been in vain not only for the nation they fought for and defended with their lives, that labour has been in vain even for their personal lives.

We rightly or wrongly like to compare our officers with their United Kingdom or United States counterparts. A new police constable in the UK receives about N5.8 million/year. This eventually rises to about N10 million/year. Apart from this basic, the officers receive a London weighting and allowances amounting to about N1.7m. Added to these monetary benefits are annual leave reaching 30 days and not less than 22 days depending on one’s length of service. This is apart from public holidays and the average two rest days per week. Other benefits include maternity, paternity and adoption leave, special leave with pay, special leave without pay, parental leave and career breaks of up to five years (See http://www.metpolicecareers.co.uk/newconstable/pay_and_benefits.html). When next you expect so much from our police officers, ask yourself, how much has our system given into their welfare and livelihood?

As the benefits of being a police officer in the UK are as far from that of being one in Nigeria, the same applies to other service units including the Army, Navy and Air Force.

In our country, a few men and women are feeding fat on the destinies and livelihoods of the majority yet our so-called leaders are always quick to spout tales of patriotism and dedication to service. Who wouldn’t be dedicated to service with the benefits listed above? Mind that those numbers apply to the most junior of officers.

It started from us. First, the military overthrew the irresponsible civilians, then the military took over power. Not willing to share the responsibilities of power with the police, the military crippled the police and treated them like scum. Today, the police are in a worse state than the scum left by the military. When civilians took over power in 1999, one of the first shots fired was at the military, some would argue rightly so, seeing as the military had got so used to having political power for so long. Out of fear of the military, successive civilian governments have found a way to allocate enough money to the top echelons of the military to get them fat and keep them fat while forgetting that the rank and file is the fulcrum of military might. By our own selves, we have hurt our pride and strength. A country that was once the saviour of Africa, an Army that was once the pride of West Africa, now needs the support of Ghana, to fight insurgents. We have come so far.

Ghana in 2013 allocated about N51.3bn to defence while Nigeria allocated about N348.9bn in the same year. Based on these numbers, Nigeria’s defence spending is about seven times that of Ghana. That in itself is to be expected, what is not to be expected is that we would be needing Ghana’s help to fight insurgents in our country. We have come so far.

A time comes in the history of a nation when it must look at itself and ask itself pertinent questions. At the moment, our country is like an old man with many grandchildren, many children poor and desolate yet this old man wakes every morning thinking all is well and he calls his rich and not so rich friends to come party with him. Our old man wants the world to see he is rich and great but those who live with the old man know that all his claims of transformation are lies fed to the most gullible of his offspring. You have to fear for this old man. God bless every soul serving this country, in the midst of plenty, yet, living on the crumbs from the table of Father Abraham, sorry Nigeria

Japheth J, Omojuwa tweets via @omojuwa. This article was first published in the Punch newspapers and is re-published here courtesy the author. Views expressed are solely the author’s. 

THE VOODOO OF INFLUENCE…IT WORKS 100% – Yomi Balogun


No man can succeed without being able to influence others. The greatest of men are those who use the psychology of influence to the max. The thing is, influence is inherently change. The essence of influence or influencing is to bring about change one way or the other. Some of us have made the psychology and science of influence a very useful tool in our quest for success and significance but the truth is, most of us can’t wield what they believe is exclusive to a select breed of men. Influence is indeed wieldy and it is a useful tool in every sphere of life. There is no magic or voodoo about it because you can learn it and use it to good effect in your dealings with men. Every man has the inherent ability to be influential. Influencing people is not the same as manipulating them. Manipulation makes it difficult for you to influence people the next time around and if what you are influencing people at is not benefiting them, then you most likely are manipulating them and I consider that unethical. I work with the universal principles of influence. The most important of these principles lies in the age old truth; you reap what you sow. If you can optimally put one or more of these to work, you will bring about change in men and institutions through the art, psychology and science of influence.

• Reciprocation : Tit for tat. People are always willing to pay you with the same coin with which you pay them. When you treat people right and show them that you care about them, you are putting them in a situation where you can influence them.
• Liking : People prefer to serve or be influenced by you to the level or depth at which they like you. This is very intuitive and understandable.
• Commitment : People are bound to comply with your request if it is consistent with what they have publicly committed themselves to in your presence.
• Authority : When you are seen to be credible and knowledgeable on the issue at hand, men will listen to and follow your directions.
• Consensus : Given the evidence that many like them have said yes to your request, most men will likely nod to same.
• Scarcity : If you offer people opportunities that are rare and not readily available, they often jump at them. They are influenced because they do not want to deny themselves.
If you are intelligent and ethical about the use of your skills of influence , you will always have men move for you. It even feels like magic or voodoo but it is not, it is just that men will always follow men who know and care enough to serve them in truth and in deed. Don’t just make a request, make the atmosphere conducive for your request. What did you do before your request? Well, it is far more important than your request. There is a lot more to learn about influence but I believe you will find the means of learning more. Have my best wishes as you lead your army of change agents. The world needs that. Just make sure it is for a good cause. I love you. Cheers

Yomi Balogun & Japheth Omojuwa ©