Facebook Finally Gets Serious About Fighting Fake News

Facebook is taking new measures to curb the spread of fake news on its huge and influential social network, focusing on the “worst of the worst” offenders.

The online behemoth is going into partnership with outside fact-checkers to sort honest news reports from made-up stories that play to people’s passions and preconceived notions.

Fake news stories touch on a broad range of subjects, from unproven cancer cures to celebrity hoaxes and backyard Bigfoot sightings. But fake political stories have drawn attention because of the possibility they influenced public perceptions and could have swayed the US presidential election.

There have been other dangerous real-world consequences.

A fake story about a child sex ring at a Washington DC pizza joint prompted a man to fire an assault rifle inside the restaurant, Comet Ping Pong.

“We do believe that we have an obligation to combat the spread of fake news,” said John Hegeman, Facebook’s vice president of product management on news feed, in an interview.

But he added Facebook also takes its role to provide people with an open platform seriously, and it is not the company’s place to decide what is true or false.

To start, Facebook is making it easier for users to report fake news when they see it, which they can now do in two steps. If enough people report a story as fake, Facebook will pass it to third-party, fact-checking organisations that are part of the nonprofit Poynter Institute’s International Fact-Checking Network.

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FG Worried About Allegations Of Sexual Harassment In Institutions- Minister

Alhaji Abubakar Malami, the Attorney -General of the Federation and Minister of Justice, says the Federal Government is worried and deeply concerned about allegations of sexual harassment of students in institutions of learning.

Malami made the statement at the 5th National Conference of Academic Staff Union of Polytechnics (ASUP) in Umaru Waziri Polytechnic, Birnin Kebbi, on Tuesday.

“Government is worried and deeply concerned about allegations of sexual harassment of students, the monetisation of marks and degrees and absence of due process in the award of contracts by Polytechnic Governing Councils, provosts and other administrators ,among other allegations,”  he said.

Malami, who was represented by Dr Muhammad Isah of the Faculty of Law, Bayero University, Kano, urged ASUP to take a leading role in addressing the issues through positive actions and advocacy.

“Addressing these issues will in no doubt retain the relevance of ASUP within the educational sector,” he said.

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Truths You Should Know About Porn Addiction

1. The digital age allows a crazy amount of access to porn. In this way, access might contribute to addiction. “I think the dawn of the internet age of porn has definitely increased our access — it’s everywhere,” Drucker says. “You could literally be looking at porn now 24 hours a day if you were so inclined, when that hasn’t always been the case.” Anderson agrees, equating porn addiction to alcohol addiction: “Because of this easy way to access everything and this kind of technological age, we have so much access. So we have to just think about it because it’s rampant .

2. In order to understand porn addiction, we must first define addiction. There is some controversy over whether porn addiction actually exists. But recovering addicts are adamant about the legitimacy of their addiction. “I think it’s the act of disconnection from your world and not wanting to be present,” Lauren says. “And I think for me, that defines addiction, and if that’s taking you away from your career, your responsibilities, from your love life, then it’s an addiction. So if I’m going off that philosophy, then 100 percent porn is an addiction.” Still, sex addiction has been repeatedly rejected by the American Psychiatric Association. “I really think it’s important to differentiate between experience and what the data says. If you have a specific experience and you believe it, then it’s perfectly valid. But you don’t want to generalize that to everybody else. That’s why we have experts who are combing through the data,” O’Reilly says.

3. The stereotype that porn addiction is some guy with a gallon of lube in his mother’s basement is unfairly taking women out of the equation. “When I sought recovery, talking about females dealing with porn addiction was rare,” Lauren says. “And I ended up in sex addiction anonymous and was one of the four women in the state of Alabama seeking help, and, on top of it, I was the only one under the age of 30. So today, I’m so grateful to see that there’s programs popping up for women specifically because they are a part of this demographic dealing with porn and sex addiction.”

4. Porn addicts say the aftermath of the addiction is a disconnection from actual sexual intimacy, or “sexual anorexia.” Schmuley believes that as the addiction grows, porn no longer stimulates sexual intimacy. “It actually becomes the substitute,” he says. Lauren says when combatting that, you can end up going on the other end of the spectrum. “Something I learned right when I entered therapy is when people are in there for porn and sex addiction, they go from having a compulsive behavior to completely turning it off and losing all sex drive. And I was stuck in this — they call it sexual anorexia — for five years. I could not get out of it worth the life of me.”

5. Porn addiction may not be the main problem; it may be a symptom of something else. “I think for me, it was the act of disconnecting from the world that I lived in,” Lauren says. “I grew up in a very toxic Christian environment where it was very black-and-white thinking, where women’s value was in their sexual purity … So I grew up in a world where sex is so taboo, and for me, masturbation and pornography really disconnected me from reality, and it was something that helped me run away from stress and insecurities.”

6. A huge part of the recovery process is reshaping what sexuality means to you. Lauren’s therapist has pushed her to reframe sex positively instead of associating it with guilt. “I think the beautiful thing that I found in recovery is I know that sexuality is a beautiful part of being human and a part of a way of connecting with people. I’ve had to work really hard in reshaping my beliefs around that, which has been a huge crux of the last eight years … I personally do not watch porn, but it’s funny. My therapist has challenged me to watch it and test out those boundaries.”

7. Sexual intimacy and openness can be regained after recovering from porn addiction. Lauren says that her recovery has made it a possibility to using porn in future relationships. “There was dormant years of me avoiding intimacy at all costs. I just didn’t want to be apart of it. I was so upset. I felt broken. But today, I feel like I have this clean, beautiful slate that I’ve worked so hard for. I’ve worked so hard to reframe my belief system around sexuality, and so if that was something my partner and I wanted to do 100 percent, I would be open to it. One hundred percent.”

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About Jailing Hillary Clinton, Donald Trump Breaks His Post-election Silence

President-elect Donald Trump has backtracked on the suggestion he would jail his Democrat rival Hillary Clinton if elected, now saying he has more important things to focus on.

Throughout his election campaign, the Republican hit out at Clinton over the investigation into her use of a private email server during her role as secretary of state, suggesting he would launch a fresh investigation if he won the White House.

However, he has now said pursuing a prosecution of his former rival is low down on his list of priorities, telling the Wall Street Journal: “It’s not something I’ve given a lot of thought, because I want to solve health care, jobs, border control, tax reform.”

During the second presidential debate, Trump stepped up his previous suggestions he would investigate Clinton, saying she would be in jail if he were president.

“I’ll tell you what. I didn’t think I’d say this, but I’m going to say it, and I hate to say it. But if I win, I am going to instruct my attorney general to get a special prosecutor to look into your situation, because there has never been so many lies, so much deception. There has never been anything like it, and we’re going to have a special prosecutor,” Trump said.

“It’s just awfully good that someone with the temperament of Donald Trump is not in charge of the law in our country,” Clinton responded.

“Because you’d be in jail,” Trump shot back.

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Cameroon Military Court Jails Men Who Joked About Boko Haram

Amnesty International has condemned the 10 years imprisonment  imposed by a Military Court in Cameroon  on three young men,  Fomusoh Ivo Feh, and his friends Afuh Nivelle Nfor and Azah Levis Gob – who were convicted of ‘non-denunciation of terrorist acts’ following a  trial in Yaoundé.

Samira Daoud, Amnesty International Deputy Regional Director for West and Central Africa said Fomusoh Ivo and his two friends should never have been arrested in the first place, as they were simply exercising their right to freedom of expression.

“Instead of being in school like their friends, these three young men will now spend years of their lives in prison for a simple joke.

“This ruling is clear evidence that Cameroonian military courts should not have jurisdiction to try civilians. The Cameroonian authorities must quash their conviction and sentence and immediately and unconditionally release all three of them,” Daoud stated.

Ivo, 27, whom Amnesty International considers to be a prisoner of conscience, was arrested on 13 December 2014 after forwarding his friends a sarcastic SMS referring to Boko Haram. He was held in police custody in Douala before being transferred to Yaoundé Prison in January 2015.


Cameroon Military court jails men who joked about Boko Haram

Read About The Women Who Love & Miss Their Boko Haram Husbands

 A few dozen women sit on mats in the shadow of a neem tree. Their giggles rise with the hot dusty air as they sketch elaborate designs on their hands with henna.

Some of the women wear abayas; others wear short-sleeved blouses with long skirts and hijabs. They talk about their children, their hair, what they will cook that evening after breaking their Ramadan fast.

After a while, the conversation turns to their husbands.

“Oh, my husband, I love him so much,” says Aisha the Amira.

The flamboyant 25-year-old flings her head back as she laughs. In a flowing gown and a tall, majestic head wrap, she radiates the nobility of her title, Amira, or princess. A reddish-orange stone sparkles on her left hand.

“My husband gave me this ring,” she says, wiggling her shoulders. “My husband, he’s an Arab. So handsome and he always gave me money.”

The women look at her in silent admiration.

Then Hauwa speaks up. “He loved me and I loved him. We loved each other.” The blushing 14-year-old smiles and twists the hem of her skirt. She has been married for a year and a half.

Fifteen-year-old Iyeza-Kawu looks at the ground as she talks. She’s wearing a navy hijab with the logo of the United Nations Population Fund stitched on it. She describes her two-year marriage as a happy one and explains how her husband gave her a dowry of 25,000 naira (about $80).

There is another Aisha, a 27-year-old from Cameroon, who loved her married boyfriend so much that she agreed to elope with him. Her sister and brother didn’t approve, so Aisha married him in secret, crossing the border into Nigeria. Her printed blouse hugs her pregnant belly.

Tall and with a chiselled face, Zainab describes her husband as good-looking, quiet and of medium height. “He treated me very well and I loved him very much,” she says.

Little Umi, Zainab’s 11-year-old daughter, chimes in. “My husband was kind. He would always give my parents money.” Umi’s cheeks are framed in a dark purple hijab. Her black eyeliner is smudged. When she looks up, the sun lights up her eyes in dazzling shades of brown. She was her husband’s third wife.

Esther, 19, knew her husband well before they married. The professional nail cutter used to walk around the neighbourhood reciting verses from the Quran, she says.

All of the women speak in a flurry of Hausa and Kanuri, pausing to gaze at the henna on their hands, swatting flies from their sleeping children and turning around to check on their other children as they swing on a tyre that hangs from a tree.

But there is a sense of sadness and uncertainty to this otherwise typical scene. These women have not seen their husbands in weeks.

Aisha the Amira, Hauwa, Iyeza-Kawu, Aisha, Zainab, Umi, Esther and the others gathered here were all married to members of Boko Haram, the armed group that has been engaged in a seven-year uprising against the Nigerian government that has left more than 20,000 people dead and forced millions to flee their homes.

The women had lived with their husbands in Walasa, a town near the Nigeria-Cameroon border. But in May, Nigerian soldiers reclaimed the area. Most of the Boko Haram fighters fled, leaving their wives and children behind. Iyeza- Kawu’s husband was killed in the skirmish.

“My husband was not a terrorist,” she says. “The soldiers killed him.”

She and 33 other women were rounded up with their children, packed into vehicles and taken to a safe house in Maiduguri where they are now receiving psychosocial treatment designed to rehabilitate them back into society, away from their husbands.

“We will eventually reunite the women with their families and relations here in Maiduguri,” explains the state’s governor, Kashim Shettima.

But the pregnant ones among them say they fear that their children will never meet their fathers. And some say they have fond memories of their husbands.

The Amira says she met her husband one day as she was running away from a battle between Boko Haram fighters and government soldiers. As she was running, a man stopped her, she says.

“He asked me, ‘You get married?'”

She says she intrigued him because she was bold and intelligent. “It’s because I’m an educated girl. The other girls don’t go to school, so they are shy.”

Even though Boko Haram is opposed to boko, or Western education, she says her husband desired her because she was educated in Western schools. She is the only one in the group who can speak some English.

When he eventually asked to marry her, she deliberated for a month. When she agreed it was because she believed he was wealthy. He paid her dowry in naira and euros, she says.

“My husband is a Boko Haram commander. He’s an Amir, that’s why I’m an Amira,” she explains. “He had three wives. He divorced all of them when he married me, because he loves me very much and I’m like his baby.”

She lived a privileged life as an Amira.

She joined her husband in the Sambisa forest, from which Boko Haram allegedly operates its largest camp, and lived there for almost three years. The forest stretches for nearly 40,000 square miles in the southern part of the northeastern state of Borno, which has born the brunt of Boko Haram’s insurgency. Once upon a time, elephants and leopards roamed Sambisa. Now, it is Boko Haram members and their families who live among the scatterings of acacia, baobab, tamarind and neem trees.

In Sambisa, she says, she met some of the kidnapped Chibok girls, Boko Haram’s most well-known abductees, snatched two years ago from their secondary school in the town of Chibok in northeastern Nigeria. Recently, Boko Haram released a video featuring about 50 of the missing girls.

She says she also met the leader of Boko Haram, Abubakar Shekau.

Her lips curl into a grin as she remembers her husband. He gave her money every week, she says, and showered her with jewellery, makeup and new clothes.

For her, life in Sambisa was pleasant, she says. If anyone was sick, there were doctors to treat them. She was well fed with a full stock of rice, yams, coconuts, beans, juice and fruits.

As the Amira, she was responsible for helping to take care of the other wives. She distributed food to them, befriended them and taught them how to be good Muslim wives, she says.

All of the women attended near daily Quran classes.

Amira says she helped her husband “do jihad”.

“My husband has a gun. If my husband is coming back from traveling, he’ll call me on my phone and say , ‘Sweety, I’m coming home.’ So I’ll go put on makeup, body spray and I’ll cook food. When he comes home, I’ll collect his gun, magazine, bombs,” she says.

He taught her how to assemble and disassemble his guns, but there were so many pieces she says she would sometimes get confused.

When her husband went out on operations, she would occupy herself with her phone, she says. Many of the wives of Boko Haram members were not allowed to have one, but the Amira had one when she lived in Sambisa and she used it to browse online.

“I was using Facebook. And even now, if you look for my name on Facebook, you’ll see me there at the top. I’m the first one there,” she says.

Her phone was seized when she arrived at the safe house, but she had already memorised not only her husband’s phone numbers, but the numbers of many Boko Haram members who she says will answer her call at any time.

The other Aisha does not have such pleasant memories of life with the man she secretly married when she was a lovestruck 23-year-old. Before he joined Boko Haram, she says he was caring and allowed her to work. But afterwards, he forbade her from working and withdrew emotionally. He also became secretive, disappearing for days without telling her where he had been, she says.

“That’s how I knew he was with Boko Haram,” Aisha adds.

She says her husband forced her to cut off contact with her family. After the marriage, she left her parents behind in Cameroon and moved with him from village to village in northeastern Nigeria as Boko Haram took over territory there.

Although her husband became wealthier after joining Boko Haram, she says he was not a high-ranking member. So the life she lived did not resemble the Amira’s. She felt like a captive, she says, although she did find comfort in the other wives.

At 11, Umi is the youngest wife in the group. Her mother, Zainab, is with her at the safe house. Initially, her mother thought she was too young to marry, but Umi’s father insisted and gave her away to a Boko Haram member who lived in a nearby compound with his two wives.

She was married in Walasa, but the next day soldiers came and carried her away. Although she was only with him for a day, she says she is still in love with her husband.

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Trying To Get Pregnant, Here’s What You Need to Know About Stress

Trying to get pregnant can be stressful, and it doesn’t help that there’s no pause button on life when you’re ready to procreate.

Now a new study published in the journal Annals of Epidemiology finds that all your aggravations and anxieties can make it even more difficult to conceive. When 400 women reported their daily stress levels on a scale from 1 to 4 while recording additional data like how often they had sex throughout the course of 20 cycles or until they got pregnant, researchers found that women who reported the most stress around ovulation — the only time of month when you can actually get pregnant — were 40 percent less likely to conceive than they were during less stressful months.

Another pattern emerged among the 139 women who got pregnant during the study: Right after ovulation, their stress levels skyrocketed, likely due to hormonal changes. Pregnancy stress is real even before you know you’re pregnant.

While experts are still figuring out exactly how stress affects fertility, the worst thing you can do is let these new findings freak you out or confuse you. Being stressed AF is not an effective birth control method or a telltale sign that you’re pregnant.

The best thing you can do is heed warnings from the study’s authors, who urge everyone to take emotional and psychological factors more seriously when it comes to getting pregnant. As for women who are especially anxious about conceiving: Be sure to exercise, meditate, talk to a mental health pro, or do whatever it is you do to keep stress to a minimum until you pass that pregnancy test.

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15 Things Men Don’t Understand About Women

1. Why it feels so good to take off your bra at the end of the day. This is why they should make little bras for testicles so they can keep them in this weird sweaty thing that you have to keep adjusting, and sometimes one of them falls out of it, and it also itches and pinches in a weird way. Then when they take it off after 10 hours, they too shall dance the dance of kings.

2. Why you’ll say something is fine when it’s not fine. I wish all women could be direct all the time, but we’re socialized from birth to be nice and polite and not get upset or be “bitchy,” which unfortunately can result in the occasional “I’m fine” while smoke comes out of our ears like a cartoon in the 1960s. Just accept this about us and also pay more attention to when we’re not fine, so you don’t have to ask that question.

3. Why catcalling is never cute or complimentary. No, a gross, sweaty, weird dude telling me I have a nice ass when I’m just trying to go home after a long day is not a really nice compliment, and no, it’s not the same as a hot girl telling you you’re hot. It’s just not. Guys cannot understand this and trying to explain it to them will always make you want to throw yourself into the sea.

4. Why bras cost so much. We don’t understand it either, so if you could pick up dinner tonight, that’d be great. We just had to buy two bras and now we can’t eat for four weeks.

5. Why buying jeans is like stepping into hell and all of the jeans were made by the devil. I have often fantasized about what it must be like to waltz into a store and be like, “My waist is a size 27!” and they bring you a bunch of jeans that fit like a glove, but that is not a thing for women. Instead, we’re faced with a pile of jeans on the floor of the dressing room and breathing into a paper bag because who are we anymore if the pair of jeans that usually fits doesn’t fit our calves for some reason. What is this life?!

6. Why we have so many pillows on our couch/bed. I’m sorry but I love being cozy. Why do you not like being cozy? Are you OK?

7. Why we need another shirt/dress/pair of shoes when we already have one that looks exactly like it. I’ll admit this is a little silly but if we have a favorite striped shirt and then we wear it and we want to wear a striped shirt a few days later, we can’t because it’s in the laundry basket. Hence, my closet full of nothing but striped shirts. That actually doesn’t make any sense, but still.

8. Why it takes so long to do eye makeup. I want you to try to take a tiny pencil and draw straight lines on it very close to the lash line and then get both eyes to look exactly the same with no variation, and then you can ask me why.

9. When you ask them to take a picture of you, you mean “upwards of 10.” Because the odds that you’re Diane Arbus behind the camera are pretty slim, so we’re going to need options (followed by an extensive period of filtering and adjustments because it’s an art, thanks).

10. That period pain is very serious and real and no freaking joke. Unfortunately, evendoctors have been found to ignore women’s menstrual cramps, which can make women less likely to speak up when something could actually be really wrong.  Can’t you guys just assume it’s like a pain you’ll never experience ever and then go get us chocolate?

11. Why we ask if we look fat in something. I guess it’s because the pressure to be thin is all-consuming sometimes and because our self-esteem can fluctuate and also because we’re human beings who sometimes need emotional support? IDK.

12. Why we think romantic comedies are seriously life-giving. Actually, some dudes totally get this and they are gold among men, but the ones who don’t, dudes, I don’t know what to tell you, other than you should get some new feelings. Feelings are great.

13. Why we have 400 products in our bathroom and the weight of all of it practically buries us every time we open our medicine cabinet. We didn’t make the rules, but yes we do “need” foundation, concealer, eyeliner (so much eyeliner, in all colors), multiple eye shadow palettes, lip liner, lip gloss, lipstick, lip balm, and also 90 waxing products. I’m not even counting things like toothpaste and deodorant, and I could list another 20 things if I felt like it, but even listing these is making me tired.

14. Girl drama. I don’t have time to explain to you what patriarchy is and why it wants us all to hate each other, but let me tell you, we hate it and most of us just want to be friends with every woman on earth because every woman on earth is mostly great. Plus, it’s fun to have access to other women’s closets, TBH.

15. The difference between leggings, pantyhose, and tights. Nothing makes me laugh more than a guy calling leggings “tights.” Nothing.

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Forget About Re-run, Wike Tells Peterside

Rivers State Governor, Chief Nyesom Wike, has told the governorship candidate of the All Progressives Congress in the 2015 governorship election, Dr. Dakuku Peterside, not to delude himself on the possibility of a rerun of the poll in the state.

Wike, who said Peterside embarked on an illegal campaign on Saturday, explained that the APC leader’s action could heat up the polity.

The governor, who spoke on Tuesday through his Media Assistant, Mr. Simeon Nwakaudu, disclosed that his lawyers were concluding the appeal process to challenge the ruling of the Justice Suleiman Ambrosa-led Rivers State Governorship Election Petitions Tribunal.

He noted that the ruling, which was premised on card reader accreditation and hearsay testimonies, had already been expunged from the tribunal’s records by the Court of Appeal.

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12 Things Guys Will Never Understand About Bras

The pure relief you feel at the end of the day when you take them off.I’ve had this described to me on multiple occasions through a variety of different expressive mediums, and it sounds way better than how just taking off your underwear feels. If I had to draw a male parallel, it’d probably be the moment your balls touch the water as you jump in a pool on a hot summer’s day. And that requires a pool. You can get that sensation just from a single unclasping of some fabric. Every day.

What it’s like to own bras for different situations, like fancy underwear. Sure, we can go out and buy underwear that makes us feel fancy. But we could be wearing our 9-year-old lucky boxers under our wedding tux and no one would know.

Going braless. We can go commando, sure, but that’s not quite as uh … sanitary. Going braless brings all the freedom and gentle breeziness novelty going commando affords, without all the junk and butt sweat. It’s all positives.

Color-coordinating your bra with your outfit. Most of the time, our underwear won’t even be visible (and if it is, we’re probably wearing jeans, and everything goes with jeans). We don’t have to carefully budget out our underwear or think about what boxer briefs we’re going to wear when. We reach in a drawer and throw on whatever. We could not handle making sure we have a bra to match our spaghetti straps. I’d probably just only buy white bras and make things easy. 

How the fuuuck those sizes work.Unless we’re buying a suit, we just deal with S, M, L, XL. With bras, there are way too many dimensions involved. 

Having it “cut into your skin.”Why would an item of clothing ever do this to you? This sounds horrible.

Having a piece of clothing betray you via underwire. Nothing we wear can just spring pain on you seemingly out of nowhere. Sure, we can get into some excruciatingly painful situations via the flies on our pants, but at least we’re actively involved in that. We’re not just walking down the street and suddenly our shorts are stabbing us.

Boob sweat. We won’t understand this, but frankly, we have ball sweat, which I can assure you is worse.

Actually paying for them. Why are they so much money?

How quickly they seem to wear out. Apparently, bras aren’t even good for a full year. You know how long guys’ underwear lasts? Until our partner finds them in the laundry and throws them out without us knowing. And that can be decades.

Those weird band ones. You know the ones I’m talking about? How do they stay on? [Ed. note: I think he’s talking about strapless bras?]

Choosing the right bra for a situation. When we’re choosing our underwear in the morning, we have to ask ourselves, “Am I going running?” If the answer is no, then anything goes (otherwise we’re throwing on some athletic underwear). Women seem to have a deep bra stable designed for a variety of tactical situations, like they’re boob secret agents.

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Break-Up Alert: 5 Signs You Are About To Be Dumped

1. Phone calls become less frequent

Gone are the days when you used to fall asleep on the phone while whispering sweet nothings. Fast forward to a few months (or years) into the relationship, and you’re either rushed off the phone or sent straight to voicemail. Or, you used to get a response to your phone call or text messages right away, but now, you either don’t get a response at all, or it takes hours or days before you hear back. Nothing is wrong with your phone, you’re just lower on the priority list. In fact, you’re so low, you’re about to be dropped off the list altogether.

 2. Conversations are like pulling teeth
Do you dread having a simple conversation? If communication has all but come to a standstill, it’s time to be worried. This is especially true when it comes to arguments. If you do or say something that would normally make your partner explode, but you’re met with silence, it could be that he or she just doesn’t care anymore. Your days are numbered. Over time, you may start to notice your partner becoming physically and emotionally distant. The frequency of sex and intimate gestures such as handholding and sharing deep feelings may start to decline. A feeling of emotional coldness will slowly start to settle in the relationship. If this is happening, he or she probably wants out but doesn’t quite know how to break the news.

4. Your partner asks for space
Sometimes distance doesn’t gradually happen. There are times when your partner may come out and ask you for some breathing room. This is often a signal that your relationship is slowly going downhill. Someone who is in love will want to be with you more, not less. Requesting space likely means that your partner is either contemplating the next step in the relationship or is trying to let you down easy and plans to eventually disappear.

5. You have that sinking feeling
Sometimes you just know. You may be in denial, ignoring glaringly obvious signs, but often your gut will tell you that it’s just not going to work out. No matter how much you try to rationalize your honey’s behavior, it’s often best to just face reality, cut your losses, and move on. So hit the club or bar and drink up.


The One Thing Every Couple Fights About

We’ve all been there: those brutal fights with your partner or spouse that lead to skyrocketing blood pressure and slammed doors. But before things get completely out of hand, there’s actually one key question you both should ask: Are we both really fighting about the same thing?

This question, both obvious and not—when you’re in the thick of an argument, anyway—is a pretty simple exercise that could save couples plenty of heartache and takes only about two minutes, says psychologist Guy Winch, Ph.D, author of Emotional First Aid:Practical Strategies for Healing Rejection, Guilt, Failure and Other Everyday Hurts.

We’re going to guess your gut reaction is something like this: Of course we’re fighting about the same issue—that’s why we’re fighting!The trouble is, though, there’s a really good chance that you and your partner are neither discussing the same topic nor recognizing the discrepancy. And this kind of miscommunication is a common, but avoidable, source of relationship trouble.

According to Dr. Winch, many couples’ arguments are either about two entirely separate issues or involve one or both partners trying to read the mind of the other. (Unsuccessfully, because no one has ESP. Yet, at least.) Think about it: How many times have you jumped the gun and gotten defensive before any insults have actually been hurled? Couples often wind up waging arguments against their own wrong interpretation—rather than what’s really being said.

But those same defensive instincts are biological. “Arguments often trigger the ‘fight or flight’ response, which makes blood rush to our limbs but away from our heads—which is what we use to perceive the other person’s point of view and articulate things correctly,” says Winch. “Thus, our brains are functioning inefficiently—at least as far as rational arguing goes—which in turn contributes to miscommunication being more the norm than the exception.”

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