7 Feared Dead In Clash Between Hausa/Fulani & Imo Community

No fewer than seven persons were feared dead yesterday evening in Akokwa community in Ideato North council of Imo State, following a bloody clash between the Hausa/Fulani community and the indigenes.
It was gathered that trouble started when a member of the Hausa community whose name could not be ascertained as at press time had allegedly attacked and killed two of the indigenes and thereafter killed himself.
Angered by the dastardly act, the indigenes in a reprisal attacked the Hausa community, where four persons were killed as well as the destruction of several properties and houses.
According to the a source, “ an Hausa man who lives in Akokwa community had run amok, attacked and killed two indigenes and then killed himself, and angered by the terrible action of the Northerner who attacked an killed innocent indigenes of the community, and in the reprisal attack by the indigenes to avenge the deaths of their kinsmen, four other persons were killed with several properties and houses burnt down.
The source added, “ as I speak to you now many people have fled the community for fear of further attacks.”.
Confirming the incident, the spokesman of the Imo State Police Command Mr. Andrew Enwerem, said that only three persons were killed in the fracas.



7 Most Ignored Relationship Issues, According To Therapists

Couples often come into therapy complaining of communication problems, meddling in-laws, sex and money issues ? but those are just the most obvious problems counselors hear about.

Below, marriage therapists share seven of the most overlooked reasons couples come to therapy and how to avoid each in your own relationship.

1. They’re way too dependent on each other.

It’s humanly impossible for your S.O. to fulfill your every need. You can’t expect one woman or man to be your sounding board, your bestie, your lover, your personal accountant and everything else in between, said Kristin Zeising, a San Diego-based psychologist.

“It’s taxing on the relationship and a burden for your S.O. to play so many roles,” she said. “This dynamic can also can deaden your sexual desire for each other.”

To curb this kind of dependency, Zeising tells her clients to create some distance and focus on outside relationships.

“For the couples who do everything together, concentrate on spending time with friends separately, create separate hobbies and interests,” she said. “Becoming a more well-rounded, less dependent individual makes your relationship more fulfilling.”

2. They don’t realize what housework represents.

Many couples struggle with how to balance their careers and home life but few recognize the emotional charge behind housework, said Susan Pease Gadoua, a marriage therapist and the co-author of The New I Do, Reshaping Marriage for Skeptics, Realists and Rebel.

“For decades, women have been in charge of domestic responsibilities because the tasks were considered too ‘lowly’ for men,” she said. “Unfortunately, most of the housework still falls on modern women but men have stepped up and they are doing far more around the house these days.”

Couples struggling to split housework need to adopt a “we’re in this together” mentality, Pease Gadoua said. (And know that there’s research-backed benefits to divvying up the chores: A recent study found that couples who share housework report having better and more frequent sex.)

3. They underestimate the need for personal space.

In the early days, you spent every last waking hour together. That was intoxicating back then but chances are, it might be a little stifling for one of you as time goes on. The good news is, there’s nothing wrong with a little “me time” in a relationship, said Liz Higgins, a Dallas, Texas-based couples therapist who works primarily with millennials.

“People often ‘lose themselves’ in their relationship and forget to harness their independence,” she said. “When you’re in love, you just can’t give up on your hobbies or disengage from self-care activities; these things are actually incredibly important to maintaining your relationship.”

To avoid a codependent dynamic, couples must learn the balance of interdependence: “It’s about thriving together yet also separately,” Higgins said.

4. They don’t love themselves enough.

The old platitude is true: You can’t love anyone else unless you love yourself first. Going into a relationship with a low opinion of yourself “trickles down negatively to almost every aspect of marriage,” said Becky Whetstone, a marriage and family therapist in Little Rock, Arkansas.

“I’ve seen it lead to so much dysfunctional behavior, from adultery and addiction to being dependent, or a boundary-less control freak,” she said. “A person who is shame-filled cannot have a healthy relationship with another person. I really do believe that shame is the number-one cause of divorce.”

A more solid, healthy relationship starts with bringing your best, most positive self to the table, Whetstone said.

“Work to maintain that, find a mate who is dedicated to doing the same and you have a fighting chance at having a healthy relationship,” she said.

5. They’re vindictive during fights and rarely apologize.

In the heat of an argument, couples all too often go for the low blows. Unfortunately, they rarely apologize for the momentary lapse in judgement, Zeising said.

“We’re all human and have a dark side but if you don’t acknowledge it and own up to it, you can’t learn to control it and are more likely to keep acting it out,” she said. “When you can own these feelings, you can approach relationship issues from a place of integrity.”

6. They assume they know everything about each other.

To keep the love alive, you have to maintain a little mystery. When you think you have your spouse all figured out, you deny yourself the chance to discover new, loveable qualities about them, Higgins said.

“When couples have been together for a long time, they often lose sight of the fact that their partner is still an entire world of their own thoughts, feelings and experiences,” she said. “Desire and excitement thrive in the unknown; continuing to explore the otherness of your partner will actually deepen your connection.”

7. They’re closed off to their spouse’s feelings.

There’s little room for growth in a relationship when one partner overreacts and doesn’t want to hear feedback from the other, Zeising said.

“Instead of blaming the messenger or avoiding expressing your true feelings, it’s important to soothe your own anxieties,” she said. “You can’t guarantee that your partner won’t have challenging things to say to you but you can decide how you want to handle that information.”

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Avengers Issues ‘Last Warning’ To 7 Nigerian Governors

The Niger Delta Avengers has issued what it called “last warning’ to seven state governors to free pro-Biafran activists being held in police and military custodies in their states.

This is contained in a statement signed by the group’s spokesperson, Mudoch Agbinibo.

The new militant group, which has vowed to bring Nigeria’s oil production to zero, has given 72 hours to the governors to free Biafran agitators.

Some of the governors threatened by the group are Okezie Ikpeazu of Abia, Willie Obiano of Anambra, Seriake Dickson of Bayelsa and Ifeanyi Okowa of Delta.

Others are Dave Umahi of Ebonyi, Ifeanyi Ugwuanyi of Enugu, and Rochas Okorocha of Imo State.

“We request the immediate release of all pro-Biafrans activist held in your various Police/Military Custody, you are hereby given 72 hours to release them or risk your convoys, police station, military base and government offices being attacked,” the group stated.

“We are not negotiating with anybody and nobody is representing us.
In 48 hours we will release a video clip showing our arms and the targeted areas.

“All strike team already in position awaiting command.

We are ready for war and we have nothing to lose!!!”

Kylie Jenner’s New Year Resolutions Are Not What You Are Thinking

Kylie Jenner has revealed her plans for 2016 on her app this week, following the footsteps of her sisters. See her 2016 new year resolutions below:

1. Stay home most of the year. “I’m kind of a homebody. I decided for 2016 that I want to be home as much as I can. Actually, I want to go to Jamaica.”

2. Appreciate friends more. “In 2015, we all kind of got disconnected. I really didn’t appreciate my friends as much as I should and they keep me grounded, and if I didn’t have them, I feel like I really wouldn’t be myself. I see more of myself when I hang out with them.”

3. Create a successful makeup line. “What I want to accomplish in 2016 is a successful makeup line. I’m really feeling like this is my thing and I have more colors coming out, hopefully the end of January, beginning of February.

4. Don’t read the comments. “I feel like I’m happier when I don’t read comments and I’m not on Instagram and I’m not focusing on what other people think about me. It makes me happier. I just don’t want to be on my phone.”

5. Tone down the look. “I kind of want to tone it down. I feel like 2016, everybody’s on the natural wave. I just want to take my nails off. No hair. No makeup. It’s too much to maintain sometimes. It’s hard being a girl.”

6. Go red. “Every time I think of colors, I only think of hair colors, and I would say burgundy. I really want to do burgundy or, like, red hair. Red vibes.”

7. Feel the good vibes. “I feel like every year has a new energy. I feel like this year is really about the year of just realizing stuff and just coming into your own and finding yourself. I feel like al my friends around me and everyone around me are just realizing things. Things are coming to light. We just want to be good people and do good things and have fun and just have no stress.”

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7 Romantic Gestures That Women Love

1. Open the door for her

Yes, I realize this is a long-honored and commonly recognized act of respect. However, you might be surprised at just how overlooked this simple gesture has become. As a relationship progresses and you become more comfortable with a person, it’s easy to let little things like this slip. But trust us, your stepping ahead of her to open the door, rather than walking in first and simply holding the door behind you, will remind her that you really do respect her and want to make her feel special.

2. Pick up the tab

No matter how independent a girl is, this old-school tradition is always greatly appreciated. I’m not saying that you should always be expected to pay throughout the course of a relationship, but picking up the check – whether she offers to split it or not – will remind a girl that, not only can you take care of her, but you’re financially stable, which can be hard to come by these days. “I’m super attracted to men who never offer to pay for dinner and can barely afford to buy me a drink at the bar” said no girl, ever.

3. Offer to drive

4. Be aware of her actions and feelings in public

While this should go without saying, sometimes, especially after two people have become comfortable with one another, it might be too easy to put her feelings on the back burner. Don’t let yourself become lazy and think that, just because you’ve established yourselves as a couple, all romance and consideration go out the window. The reality is, we notice more than you probably realize. If you’re sitting with a group of friends and your girl gets stuck on the end bar stool next to a creepy guy, switch seats with her without making it a big deal. She will be grateful that you’ve picked up on her discomfort and made an effort to make her happy.

5. Remind her that you feel lucky to have her

As ugly as it is, jealousy is a real emotion that many people feel at some point in a relationship. Whether you and your girlfriend have always struggled with jealousy issues, or you’re dating the coolest, most laid-back girl ever, being conscious of this reality will help make for a more honest relationship. If you’re at a party and have struck up a great conversation with another girl, a simple gesture, like putting your arm around your girlfriend’s waist when she walks up to join you, goes an incredibly long way.

6. Do chores without being asked

Even if you don’t live together, but you spend time at your girlfriend’s house, simple chores to help out around her place will definitely not go unnoticed. Next time you go to toss something in the trash and it’s full, take it out when you leave. Notice that she has a light out that needs changing? Make use of that tall height of yours and do it for her. Though she’s fully capable of doing little things around the house herself, it speaks volumes that you care enough to help her out from time to time.

7. Make plans and follow through

This should be common sense, though plans fall through the cracks all the time. If you mention doing something with a girl, actually make it happen. The prospect of seeing you again will excite her, so don’t get her hopes up or put her in the position of always being the one to coordinate your plans together.

Hopefully, after having read this, you’re not thinking that we’re telling you to take on every traditional, manly role there is. But, what we are saying, is that some of these time-honored acts of respect have stood the test of many a relationship, and for good reason. We’re lucky enough to live in an age where women are equals, but that doesn’t mean that we don’t expect to be treated like ladies. After all, think back to some of our most primal instincts. Knowing that a man can take care of me, protect me, and make me feel safe is something I’ll always admire and look for in a guy.

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7 Powerful Fruits That Will Burn Your Belly Fat Instantly

#1. Avocado

Avocados top the list of fruits that have a high fat content, but they are on the top of the list of fat-buring fruits as well. Here is why, this fruit has high amounts of omega 9 fatty acids, which are monosaturated fats that are healthy for your body.

Avocados help to increase the rate at which fat is converted to energy, thus boosting your metabolism. They also help to increase certain hormones that are further aid weight loss in both men and women. Avocados inform your brain that your stomach is full, thus helping to prevent unhealthy food cravings.

#2. Apples

Talking about healthy fat-burning fruits, we cannot miss out on the wondrous apples. They are a big help when it comes to losing weight.

Apples are high in fibre and low in calories- this makes them a great snack. This is just what you require to make you feel full and stay away from binging. They are also rich in vitamins B and C, antioxidants and minerals that help to keep your body energised.

#3. Blueberries

All berries are good for your body, but blueberries are the best of the lot. Blueberries contain high amounts of antioxidants, which bless them with fat-fighting properties.

The nutrients in them help to boost your metabolism, and make your body more efficient in buring calories. They have a low glycaemic index; which means that they will satisfy your sweet tooth without adding extra sugar in your body. Even studies have shown that people who consumed blueberries daily had better shot at belly fat loss than those who did not.

#4. Grapefruit

According to some fitness experts, if you eat grapefruit daily, you can actually fasten your weight loss journey, without having to make too many changes in your diet.

The high water content in grapefruits helps to cleanse the system from within, and also keeps you hydrated and satiated. In addition, the fat burning enzymes in the fruit make it a super food for weight loss. Since it takes more energy to digest this fruit, it further helps you burn more calories.

#5. Coconut

This is a sweet and filing snack, which is perfect to satisfy your mid-meal cravings.

Coconut helps to keep you feel full, thereby helping you consume fewer calories. Being loaded with medium chain triglycerides (MCTs), coconuts provide a great boost (up to 30 per cent) to the rate of metabolism.

#6. Pomegranates

According to studies, the polyphenols antioxidant in this fruit help to boost your metabolism. They also enable the body to get rid of the toxins.

What’s more? Pomegranates help to lower your appetite. Which is why, you should drink a glass of pomegranate juice in breakfast or add it to your salad bowl before lunch. So, indulge in this sweet fruit to satisfy your sweet tooth and your untimely hunger pangs.

#7. Lemons

You already know what a great detoxifying fruit lemons are. Well, this and much more makes this tangy fruit a part of our list.

Renowned as liver detoxifiers, a healthy liver is essential in order to maintain the ability of the body to digest food and burn fat. Since they prevent fat accumulation in the body, lemons are amazing for weight loss.


INEC To Conduct Voter Registration In Kogi, Bayelsa On September 2 & 7

The Independent National Electoral Commission (INEC) has said it will commence Continuous Voter Registration in Kogi and Bayelsa States on September 2 through September 7, ahead of the governorship elections in both states.

According to the commission’s daily bulletin issued and obtained by the News Agency of Nigeria (NAN) monday in Abuja, the exercise will take place at the local government areas in the states from 8a.m. to 4p.m. daily.

It stated that the five-day exercise would afford opportunity for three groups of eligible persons to be registered.

The groups, the commission said, were those who were eligible but did not register before the 2015 general election and who were registered but their names were not in the voters’ register.

“The other is those who have attained the age of 18 since the last registration exercise,’’ it added.

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7 Daily Habits That Can Make You More Successful At Work

Here are seven daily habits that, if practiced regularly, can boost your success at work:

1. Focus on strengths, not weaknesses. Sometimes, in an effort to be perfect, we channel valuable time and energy into trying to get good at things that aren’t part of our natural aptitude. Charlotte Crivelli, co-founder of Klick Communications, believes this is a mistake. “At my company, we instill a culture that people should work on tasks that use their core strengths,” she says. “We don’t believe in wasting people’s time getting them to improve their weaknesses. Someone else will be strong where they are weak, and it’s my job to ensure everyone is working on what energizes them and not what depletes them.” To take this advice to heart, make a habit of prioritizing as many of your truest skill sets as possible on a daily basis.

2. Work how you work best. On a related note, not everyone works equally well in identical settings. While you may not have an option to work behind closed doors if your company favors an open floor plan, there are work habits you can develop to play to your strengths and improve your focus. A recent survey by office furniture company Turnstone found that 32 percent of 18- to 34-year-olds prefer working individually in a lounge setting over a traditional work environment.

If your company doesn’t provide your ideal space, think about simple changes you can make to your daily work environment. “Not everyone works the same way, so don’t feel restricted by the space that you’re in,” says Brian Shapland, general manager at Turnstone. “If you need to do head-down work, use headphones, or find a secluded area in the office to set up shop. If you need to be inspired, seek out a collaborative space so you can bounce ideas off of co-workers.”

3. Control your attitude. The mood you bring to work can affect not only your own morale and work performance, but also that of those around you. Therefore, another healthy habit to practice daily is taking control of your mental attitude. “An old saying goes: ‘The city of happiness is in the state of mind,'” says Karla Brandau, CEO of Workplace Power Institute. “To enjoy more satisfaction at work, it is important to regularly check your viewpoint, because negativity can dominate your life, which depresses not only your mind, spirit and body but your productivity level.”

An additional strategy for attitude adjustment is to practice being where you are at work rather than thinking about outside relationships and personal challenges. “If you are physically at work and are focusing on other life issues, then you aren’t mentally at work,” says Mike Rodriguez, professional speaker, training expert and author. “This means you cannot perform in an effective manner.”

4. Make better eating choices. How you fuel your body before, during and even after work can have significant repercussions on your ability to perform at your best.

Kristen Smith, a registered dietitian based in Atlanta, recommends that employees start by establishing a meal schedule and planning meals that will be eaten at work. “You may need to pack a meal or snack to ensure you do not go a substantial time without eating,” she says.

Here’s what else she recommends for optimal workplace nutrition: eating a meal within one hour of waking and continuing eating snacks or meals every three to four hours thereafter; including a low-calorie, protein-rich food in your first meal of the day, such as eggs or Greek yogurt; staying hydrated by drinking at least four to six cups of non-sugary beverages at work; and avoiding caffeine several hours prior to the end of your workday to allow for adequate sleep when you leave the office.

5. Do one good deed. While taking care of your own physical and mental needs at work, keep in mind that a habit of doing something nice for a colleague can make you feel even better. Studies have shown that a little altruism goes a long way. A 2012 study by Wall Street Journal (Europe) and iOpener Institute for People and Performance revealed that happier workers help their colleagues 33 percent more than their least happy colleagues.

“We’ve all experienced the boost that happens when we lend a helping hand to someone else, and this pay-it-forward principle holds true in the workplace,” says Melody Wilding, licensed therapist and workplace psychology expert. “Whether it’s taking on some simple tasks for an overwhelmed colleague or grabbing an extra coffee to give away in the morning, giving back to your team is a surefire happiness hack.”

6. Don’t dwell. Your after-work habits help set the tone for your next day in the office, so it’s important to get them right. When you have a bad day at work, you may find yourself replaying the events of the day over and over in your mind on your commute home.

Paula Thompson, founder of Foresight Coaching & Consulting, points out that mentally imagining conversations that did not go well activates the same biochemical and hormonal processes in your body as when the event originally occurred. “You are literally physically recreating the event in your body, keeping your stress hormones high,” she says. “If you find yourself dwelling, allow yourself 10 minutes to purposefully replay the event in your mind, identify what you can learn from the experience, and then close the flashback and move on.”

7. Establish an evening reflection ritual. A related habit that can help you kick the tendency to dwell on what didn’t go well is to establish an evening reflection ritual.

Before you pack up to leave the office each evening, Wilding recommends taking the time to review three things that went well during the day or that you feel grateful about. “This little ritual — no matter how tough the day was — can become something to look forward to and help you end each day on a positive note,” Wilding says. “Even better, this steers your brain toward habitual, positive, growth-oriented thinking. As you work to identify three things you’re grateful for — don’t cheat and settle for two! — you’re training your brain to see opportunity in challenging circumstances, rather than allowing it to get stuck in a pattern of negativity.”


7 New Babies Born At IDPs Camp

No fewer than seven new births have been recorded at the Mubi transit camp of Nigerian returnees from the Republic of Cameroon. This is just as the National Emergency Management Agency (NEMA) has transported 5,762 returnees to the Internally Displaced Persons (IDPs) camps in Yola, Adamawa State.

Health workers assisted in the safe delivery of seven pregnant women of four girls and three boys who are all in stable condition.

The Director General of NEMA, Alhaji Muhammad Sani Sidi, had earlier visited Mubi to officially receive the returnees and assured them of the Federal Government’s support. The Deputy Governor of Borno State, Alhaji Zanna Umar Mustapha, accompanied him apparently because most of the returnees, who had been displaced by insurgents before fleeing to the Republic of Cameroon, were from the state.

Meanwhile, NEMA’s Director of Search and Rescue, Air Commodore Charles Otegbade, who is coordinating the evacuation, has stated that 4,641 of the returnees were transported at the weekend, from the camps in Yola to Borno State.

He said: “We have moved the returnees from the Mubi reception centre and all those at the Nigerian/Cameroun border post in Sahuda, after clearance by the Nigerian Immigration Service and other security agencies, to the IDPs camps in Yola.”

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Seven PDP Governors to Join APC

No fewer than seven PDP governors are secretly holding meetings with APC prior to their joining the party.

Gov. of Imo State and Chairman of the APC Governors’ Forum, Rochas Okorocha, who disclosed this on Monday in Lagos, said the seven PDP governors are also strategizing in favour of his party for the polls. He, however,did not name the PDP governors involved.

Okorocha, who spoke at APC campaign rally in Amuwo-Odofin, said the governors decided to join the APC following signs that the APC presidential candidate, Muhammadu Buhari will win the March 28 presidential election.

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