Dear Single Ladies! Try This 30-Day Challenge

Day 1: Follow a hot friend of a friend on Instagram.

Day 2: Write down everything you want in a future partner.

Day 3: Write down everything you don’t want in a future partner.

Day 4: Get glammed up for a bangin’ shameless selfie.

Day 5: Go out for drinks at a place you’ve never been to before; don’t leave without meeting a potential prospect.

Day 6: Unabashedly make eyes with somebody (or everybody) you find attractive.

Day 7: Download a new online dating app and give it a shot for at least the day.

Day 8: Let a friend hook you up on a blind date.

Day 9: Give your number to somebody you’ve been eyeing.

Day 10: Spend a wild night out with only other single friends.

Day 11: Plan a night out and encourage your friends to invite people you don’t know.

Day 12: Reach out to someone you passed up on before when the timing wasn’t right.

Day 13: Invite someone you only really know via social media to hang out in person.

Day 14: Finally block or unfriend an ex who you aren’t on particularly healthy terms with.

Day 15: Start a conversation with a stranger.

Day 16: Go out with friends to a karaoke bar and sing a girl-power anthem.

Day 17: Spend an entire day not looking at social media.

Day 18: Go as long as you can without texting back your confusing friend with benefits.

Day 19: Throw out old mementos from past relationships.

Day 20: Do something daring with today’s look and spend the whole day thinking positively about yourself.

Day 21: Spend the evening dating yourself with a favorite film and a good dinner.

Day 22: Join or start some sort of new social group, like a book club or softball team!

Day 23: Buy a fierce new ‘fit and save it for a date you’re really, actually excited about.

Day 24: Go out for lunch with a friend; make a pact to not talk about your love lives even ONCE.

Day 25: Head out to do something by yourself, like hanging at the beach with your dog or reading at the park.

Day 26: Post a subtly flirty comment on a crush’s social media post.

Day 27: Create a new memory at a place with nostalgic ties to an ex.

Day 28: Light candles, turn on relaxing music, and take a bubble bath.

Day 29: Ask your parents or someone you look up to for love advice.

Day 30: Spend today trying to have as much fun as possible, and don’t worry about your relationship status!

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SINGLE JAPH AND THE SINGLE LADIES…

Okay I have only spent just about two weeks at work but it already feels like two months. It’s been fun and very challenging. I have taken an almost astronomical leap from where I started from with this global focusing firm – you know the story about whatever you do, do it really well? – yes it worked for me here big time. I didn’t pick up my pen (sorry my system – abeg no mind me o) to write about my bullish trailblazing corporate moves, I want to talk about the ladies.

They were the ones I looked out for when I decided to serve with the company amongst other considerations. My reason had nothing to do with what your mind is probably going through, it’s just that the fish likes to be inside water not necessary to drink it but to thrive in its ambience. Yes, I love the ambience of the opposite sex. I intentionally look out for the intelligent beautiful ones or is it beautiful intelligent ones? – You pick one. At the moment, I have gotten into the minds of two, playing around the heart of one and just watching another from afar. One thing stands them all out – they are intelligent and pleasant. It’s a good thing my mind is not open to a relationship at the moment because one or two of them are that special – plus I wouldn’t date someone I see some 40 or so hours every week and at work…Nba!

I’ve got a grace for attracting this unique specie though and I am learning stuffs no book has or may ever teach. When you learn to get into the mind of a woman, tread slowly and gently, move with the sly of a cat but not with the deceptive heart of a tortoise. Listen – really listen not keep quiet to take your I sabi talk sef turn – listen because they say more than the words you hear, you see it in their eyes – reason skyping without video is a waste of time for me. You’ve got to pay attention to the pitch, the decibel, the sighs, smiles, chuckles and all that from their mouth and on their face. I got a lot to write but today is Friday and I had a really topsy-turvy week so I have to stop here. Not to worry though, I have my specimens always available and trust me to share my moments with them – as long as you don’t tell. Their names are Tush, Kemi, Shola, Hope and Stilian. They offer a lot to think about but then I am paid to work not to flirt. Thank God I don’t. #okbye