Woman Turns Down Boyfriend’s Marriage Proposal For Most Unbelievable Reason

Getting married because you love someone is so last year, this year it’s all about the size of the diamond.

That’s according to this young woman anyway, who turned down her boyfriend’s marriage proposal because the diamond on the ring was too small.

The poor guy had gone to some effort to put a ring on it as well, getting down on one knee while a troop of hired dancers performed an elaborate display for the lucky lady.

She initially appeared to be overcome by the moment, starting to cry as he made his move, but this emotion soon switched to anger as she was confronted by the size of the diamond.

One eyewitness to the event in Chengdu, China, told local TV: “Her eyes went wide as she put her hand over her mouth, and then she turned around and walked away without saying anything.”

Ice cold. And a screenshot of a conversation she had with a mate afterwards has been leaked, with her allegedly saying:

” But he agreed to buy me a diamond ring as large as one carat.

Why was this one so small?

Is he so careless or has he ever cared about me?”

Before the friend replies:

“Don’t worry.

Perhaps the bigger one will be waiting for you later or he hasn’t prepared it for this time.”

Wonders upon wonders

Can APC really bring change? – Ayisha Osori

 

I know. It is easier to criticize than to create. I can hear the comments already but I can’t lie…the All Progressive Congress (APC) make it so easy to pick them apart.

First, as a supporter of change I have been miffed by how unprogressive they are. Progressive in any language means to want change, to reform, to want to buck the trend and what better way to do that in Nigerian politics than with (1) new faces and (2) more women and young people? We took the flaccid manifesto and party constitution and the mainly lackluster interim leadership and crossed our fingers for more. Here and there since the merger last year there have been a few flashes of inspiration to keep the torch of change alive. That is, beyond the symbolism of several parties taking the step to present a united front to present a viable opposition to PDP. But, if we are honest there have been disappointments and worry about the conduct of the party’s member registration, the acrimony around the ward and state congresses and now the APC National Convention that has ushered in a new national executive council.

At the convention last Friday, many of the party leaders spoke to the delegates, party members and Nigerians. I was struck by Bola Tinubu’s speech titled “the Great Change Arrives”. The words and sentiments expressed were noble and rousing but we cannot accept them at face value because at this time of Nigeria’s trajectory, it is critical for citizens to stop accepting platitudes and start being more discerning. Actions do speak louder than words; and the actions around the Convention as well as the results of the APC Convention could easily turn these words to cold ash blowing into the wind.

“Our country needs a new beginning.”

We would love to wipe the slate clean and start all over. However, to do that, we must identify and accept the mistakes that we have made and resolve not to repeat them. While the top hierarchy of party officials and politicians today, cut their teeth in national politics as young as 30, today these 70 year olds refuse to mentor and provide a more conducive environment for young people. Would a party that yearns for a new beginning select a 40+ year old as the National Youth Leader? Nigeria has so many engaging young men and women with the ‘bright ideas’ Tinubu also mentioned in his speech so why not let them come up with their representative or help them pick a worthy one? As for the decision to ‘zone’ the positions when juxtaposed with ‘new beginning’, the irony is too great to get into.

“Nigerian needs men and women who can be the change that we want so badly.”

Okay. So where are the women? Starting from the sub committees to prepare for the convention, APC made poor use of its women. With over 400 positions across 12 sub-committees, only 44 were women were appointed and about 30 of them were in the entertainment committee. And now that the Convention is over, not a single woman holds a position outside ‘nation woman leader’ or zonal women leader’. Is that the great change?

“We are not about violence, but about equity, justice and fairness.”

The case of Zuwaira Sani Bakori, a dedicated party member from Kaduna who secured the highest number of votes at her ward to become a delegate to the national Convention puts complete lie to this statement. This is a woman who was prepared. Who took the time to understand the process and followed it. She had her eyes on the Deputy National Organizing Secretary which had been zoned to her state. Despite the difficulties, she secured the nomination form, paid the fees and was screened for the position. She expected to be unopposed or at the very least to have a fair contest. Instead, the name of Sulaiman Hunkuyi who was chilling in China was announced at the convention ground as the ‘consensus candidate’. How is this just or fair?

 

It might be news to APC but Nigerians are asking harder questions and focusing more on separating the wheat from the chaff. We are making progress in identifying hollow words because when actions do not match rhetoric, the hole threatening to swallow us all gets wider. And despite the attempts of politicians to convince us that there is only one way to play politics…we’ll know change when we see it.

 

Politics of party defection and opportunities for conscious Nigerian youths

In Nigeria, interpretation and understanding of political terms and concepts are no longer the prerequisite of scholars of politics or prerogative of students of political science or other professionals in related disciplines. Just by simple observation of our politicians – particularly ahead of elections, most of these concepts are replicated although most blatantly. And if by now you are still wondering what is party defection and the growing trend among politicians, googling these words will amount to some extra work but here is the clue; do you remember Prof. Charles Soludo before Anambra State Governorship election in 2013? He moved from Peoples Democratic Party (PDP) to All Progressive Grand Alliance (APGA). How about the recent case of the notorious Five People’s Democratic Party (PDP) Governors that decamped to All Progressive Congress (APC)? And if you still cannot remember any of these, well some of the members of House of Representative zeroed in with their state governors frustrated of continued membership of PDP and decamped to APC thereby giving the newly formed APC a simple majority of House members. Can you see the broader picture of things taking shape ahead of election? I am thinking yes, however you are still unable to fully understand yet. Notice also that two popular supposedly opposition leader and founding members of the APC, Former Governors of Mallam Attahiru Bafarawa and Mallam Ibrahim Shekarau just joined the PDP in their respective states of Sokoto and Kano. And in the coming days or weeks as waiting for months will be rather too long, some of our PDP Senators will surely decamp to APC.

But why do politician change party? It is simple, and one do not need to query history. Consider yourself playing the game of chess, your opponent’s single move on the board determines your counter move. If you are not a lover of chess, atleast you watch football; the single most popular sport in Nigeria. In football when your opponent is holding the ball and approaching your goal post; you position to defend with the intent to stop and prevent conceding a goal. At the end, it takes a combination of your strong defensiveness and your opponent attacking skills to determine the outcome. It’s either you win or lose, and in rare situation the outcome is however balanced. Basically, politician change political party to be better positioned to benefit from certain conceived interests. Unfortunately, these interests are more personalized and since most political parties in Nigeria today are formed without some clear ideological divide; every defecting politician or groups of politicians are able to fit into his new welcoming party. No doubt or shame expected, the people will always understand? In Nigeria, political parties are formed by amalgamations of power fisted and out of favour individuals from the ruling government as an umbrella primarily to contest for elective positions and win power. Therefore, the current wave of change of political party or party defections is geared towards certain imagined or real outcome.

However, there is nothing wrong to plan ahead as failing to plan is failure in itself, so Nigerian politicians are just strategizing ahead of the coming elections and post 2015 general elections. And as things continue to develop, more party defection is expected. Moreso one thing is certain, the politicians making moves and counter moves of today will have a chance to either win or lose tomorrow. Individuals or groups failure to plan amount to taking up a disadvantaged position, no opportunity is created without action. And in practice, the politicians look to be in charge and the Nigerian youth do not seem to be catching up yet. The young population do not need to join the bandwagon of party defection; the youth needs an organised plan of action to avoid being compromised.

 

How can Nigerian youths benefit from politician regular party defection? First, the young population must realise and debunk the notion that they will form the leadership tomorrow. The political space is still dominated by the same politicians or their protégée for more than thirty years. They do not look to be retiring and will not leave without some form of contest. Second, the entire ideas that politics is a dirty game need be jettisoned. These are preconceived notions to scare and limit political participation; the youth must get involved, support each other and contest in elective positions.

There is need in Nigeria among the youth to have an affirmative action for young people to form a certain percentage in public office. The youth can learn clue from the affirmative action for women. To achieve that, our young population need to leverage opportunity as created by Genvoicesto aggregate and articulate their interests and form them into whole. Young people around the world are drivers of changes in their countries, with the combine use of technology and social media the young population can determine and shape governance in Nigeria. Nigeria may have internal problems of with religion, tribes and regions, but in reality these are never the core of the problems in Nigeria only that the politicians have exploited and benefited from the use thereof without strong opposition of certain level of awareness from the youth. If only the young generation in Nigeria decide to stand up and act today, that way the youths are able to tap into the opportunities as created by growing party defection and only a conscious young generation can step out at a time like this.

IK Oguejiofor

Finland.

Twitter: @IKOguejiofor

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