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Married or Not, Here’s Why Couples Therapy Is a Must

1. You nip issues in the bud . . . before it's too late. I'm an in-depth talker and my husband is a selective listener, yet we thought we had excellent communication skills. It's not like my husband and I didn't know how to resolve issues, but there were definitely many times where we both agreed to disagree and pushed issues under the rug in hopes that they would never came back. Unfortunately they come back in one form or another, and usually with a vengeance. With me, he says "I'm angry." Period. In counseling, he says "I'm angry because . . ." and with the word "because" we are able to make emotional...
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If Someone REALLY Loves You, They’ll Do These 6 Things

1. Drop by for a surprise face-to-face visit In a study conducted by Ford and YourTango, 55% of participants polled said that when a friend surprises them with a face to face visit, it made them feel totally loved.. Can you remember the last time you dropped by a friend's house just to see their face, and say hello? Yes, we text about our day and communicate constantly, but nothing beats actually being in each other's presence. Studies have shown that being in the presence of the people we love is vital to keeping us happy and healthy. And it makes sense! Think back to the last time you hung out with a...
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Questions A Guy Wants You To Ask On A First Date

1. Ask him, "If you could be doing anything humanly possible right now, what would it be?" It's always good to have a few icebreaker questions on standby. Go for original, absurd and goofy, or thought-provoking. If he says, "I'd still rather be here with you!" dump his cheesy ass. 2. Ask him where he sees himself in five years. All too often, first dates are about the "now." What do you do for a living? Where do you live? Instead, ask him where he wants to be. Most Millennials aren't working their dream job or even working in the field they'll end up in for most of their life, anyway. 3. Ask anything that...
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Are You Above 25 & Under Pressure To Marry? This Video Is A Must Watch

In China, the term "sheng nu" — which translates to "leftover woman" — is offhandedly used to describe single women, many barely over the age of 25. Even in 2016, the single adult lifestyle is seen as embarrassing for these women's families, which explains the popularity of "marriage markets," matchmaking hubs wherein parents seek suitable partners for their shamefully single daughters. In this video from Chinese skin care brand SK-II, some of these so-called "leftovers" attempt to stand up against the pressure to settle . . . for a partner, lifestyle, or societal expectation that doesn't suit...
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6 Ways To Spot An Emotionally Unavailable Guy

1. They're always (I mean, always) doing their own thing. If you're only spending one or two nights a week with your partner, and they spend the remaining time going on independent vacations or just straight-up not including you, then you might be dating what Dr. Parker calls The Iceberg. The Iceberg partner is constantly distancing themselves from the relationship, avoiding conflict, and brushing off affection. 2. They avoid all emotions. As you may have guessed, emotionally unavailable partners aren't so good with the mushy-feely stuff. Or, any kind of feely stuff. The partner Dr. Parker describes as The...
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Signs She Is A Gold Digger

Looking for some red flags to prove you’re in a relationship with a gold digger? Read this:  1. What your partner has is never good enough and he or she is constantly looking and pointing out what someone else just bought. Another red flag is if the focus always seems to be impressing other couples at your expense. It’s always about a good table at the new hip restaurant when you go out with friends, never a movie and a beer afterwards. You always pay. And the biggest red flag can be seen when it comes to vacations. Does it always need to be the St. Regis or Four Seasons or Maui or can we Airbnb a...
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Kylie Jenner Pregnant?

Kylie Jenner is reportedly pregnant, with sources close to the Keeping Up With The Kardashians star saying she is expecting a child with her rapper boyfriend.  A new report from In Touch Weekly claims that Kylie and boyfriend Tyga have been getting very serious, and that sources claim the 17-year-old may be pregnant. Kylie is eight years younger than Tyga, who is 25. This has many fingers pointing to mom Kris Jenner, who is famously involved in her daughters’ reality television careers. Read More: inquisitr.com
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Seven Steps to Finding True Love

Step 1: Envision your ideal mate You’ve got to know what it is you want before you “put it out there to the universe,” so spend some time honestly evaluating your marriage, past relationships and any crushes you may have had along the way. This will help you figure out the must-have qualities in a good partner for you. “Writing those traits down helps keep you focused,” says Harrell. “State clearly what you do want (“He/She is loyal”), not what you don’t (“My partner won’t cheat”). Step 2: Tackle your own insecurities about dating and relationships If you try to meet someone great...
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He Left me After Kidney Donation…

This actually happened to someone who is really close to my friend. My friend told me of how a young working class lady catered for her boyfriend till he secured a job and went as far as donating her kidney to him when he was ailing. She said the lady transported herself to India for the operation because the guy could not pay for her flight tickets. After the successful kidney transplant, they both travelled back to Nigeria and he went back to his station of work. My friend said the guy is now preparing to marry another woman on the grounds that he cannot live with his initial girlfriend because she...
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He Shared my Nudes with his Friends

Please I really need help here and not criticisms. Everybody has his or her own opinions about sharing nude photos with your lover. I never had any opposing opinion about it and I have never done it, till my boyfriend convinced me to send him just one single nude pix. He begged and begged for it till I sent one. My friend who happens to be dating his best friend confronted me, asking why I sent my nude pix to her boyfriend and said she was disappointed at the fact that I could even strip and take a photo. I explained everything to her and she believed me because we have known each other for a while and we...
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“Two out of our Three Kids aren’t his…”

I read Susan's story yesterday and it motivated me to share mine. I will not hide my real name because I have been praying to God for my long kept secret to be exposed. I can't live with it anymore and at the same time, I can't use my mouth to say it because I am disgusted at myself. My name is Shalewa and unlike Susan, my husband is not the "best" like she implied about hers. He is equally not a bad person. On a scale of 10, he is 6. My husband is what other would refer to the average good man. He has never laid his hands on me, he caters for me and the kids by doing all he can to make us comfortable...
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You Don’t Have to be Good in Bed to Keep a Man – Opeyemi Akinkusote

To be honest, this article is more focused on female folks than male. Howbeit, a guy can learn one or two things to pass on to his sisters, female cousins or better still daughters. It is a generally known fact that women are more emotional and full of empathy than men. This is one of the reasons why women generally seem to be better parents than fathers; because they can easily relate to the change in mood and behavioural pattern of their kids faster than a father who would have finished watching a game of soccer before noticing that one of his kids had been seated beside him all through the 90 minutes of...
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The Stopgap Theory Of Relationships – JJ Omojuwa

I am not an expert on relationships. Don’t take my words to heart. Just read and think about it as unbiased as you can. The Stopgap Theory (SGT) states and I quote; A person will only remain your unmarried partner for as long as it takes to find someone else who loves him/her as much as you do and with the same assurances that you provide but with better resources and/or prospects for the future. The above theory has been tested for five years (now eight years) and has not for once come up short in the discussions I have had with sincere people and most importantly in the realities I have seen over the...
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Love, a mystery through the ages ~ JJ @omojuwa

As old as man, as mysterious as his thoughts. As soothing as the calm that comes with sharing it with the one your soul desires, like balm for every point of pain. Flip it and it becomes the source of many wars, the path to the underworld and the word that plays through the brain of many broken hearts who have found shelter in psychiatric homes. That same Love is the cord that joins many hearts together. Love has its many parts. While it is what keeps some hearts going, it is the reason some others don’t want to live anymore. Often mistaken for a lot of other passions, including infatuation and even...
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LOVE, SEX AND VALENTINE

It is true that the meaning of love has been bastardised and that people often confuse love for other things. Having participated in a lot of conversations about this man-woman issue, I pity how love has been abused. A man buys a woman a BlackBerry and then she is thinking, “Oh, he loves me”. To that, I’d say Duh! Similarly, a man that thinks a woman loves him because she keeps sending love messages to his phone and always returns his phone calls like a tennis ball thrown against the wall makes me wonder what the heck? Except of course, there is something clearly unique about the relationship, you...
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Men survive on extramarital sex written by Shode Olufemi

Most Men cannot have sex exclusively with just one woman, for the rest of their lives - not most Nigerian men. Men are created with varied sexual appetite, some men can do without sex for a year, others cannot do without sex for a week, some would die without sex in a day. A man who's madly in love with one woman can still have sex with other women but still love his 'woman'. Some of the best husbands have concubines or mistresses, these extra marital affairs play a role in keeping the man sane and free of sexual tensions, especially during mid-life crises…see men agreeing with this. If your man is...
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Why Must It Be A Man’s World – Part 2 (Dating Ex’s friends) by Omolola Paul-Olaleye

A typical scenario goes thus; So I was seeing John for like a year and John's 'not so close' friend, Thomas is asking me out 2 years after I ended it with John. But John is saying I can’t date his friend ‘cause when the guys sit to talk, they will refer to me as a whore! But John has been with all my friends! Please, please, and please!!! Tell me why i should not pick Thomas since I really like him and he does not mind that I dated John. We are just a bunch of teenagers and we don’t know where we are gonna b in the future, so I should jeorpadise my potentially happy marriage because of...
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