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5 Myths About Marriage That Are Totally Untrue

1. The romance eventually dies Your sex life doesn't end when you get married! Yes, as time passes things become routine or perhaps less spontaneous than in your 20s, but married couples actually experience more intimacy because there's a level of trust that may not exist in premarital relationships. 2. Happy couples don't argue Let's get this straight: every couple argues. No matter how compatible you may be with your partner, disagreements are going to happen. It's how couples communicate and problem-solve that sets them apart from other, less successful relationships. 3. Babies fix...
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This Is The Ideal Age Difference In A Relationship

They say age ain't nothing but a number if you really love each other, but are certain age gaps — or lack thereof — more likely to end in tears? According to a study conducted by Emory University in Atlanta, there's an ideal difference that can heighten your chances of a lasting relationship. The study looked at 3,000 people and found that the greater the age gap, the greater the risk of a breakup. These are just patterns, but the results could come down to partners having conflicting goals and interests at different stages in their lives. Researchers found that couples with a five-year age gap are 18...
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Once A Cheater Always A Cheater! Why This Is Not Always True

Once a cheater always a cheater? The experts say this may not always be the case. One therapist, Dr. Nancy B. Irwin, argues that since behavior is learned, it is possible to do a turnaround when it comes to cheating. If you’ve ever been cheated on, your first instinct may have been to break up because you felt you could never trust the cheater again. But depending on the circumstances, you might have another shot at love with your partner. Here’s why. Consider why your partner cheated You may not think about this during the aftermath of the cheating, but the circumstances that led to infidelity...
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Signs Your Relationship Is Toxic & You Need To Leave Fast

You have to ask permission.It's nice to consider your partner's thoughts and feelings when making decisions, but it shouldn't be only one of you who can give the go ahead. You should have full freedom to do what you want. You're emotionally drained constantly.If all your energy is being put toward arguing or trying to keep your SO satisfied, that's a problem. A healthy relationship is happy and fulfilling. You can't fully be yourself.You should never have to suppress certain parts of you to make your SO accept you. If they can't love all of you, then they sure as hell don't deserve you.   You'll...
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How I Hired A Professional Cuddler After A Heartbreak

Shanna arrives at my apartment 20 minutes early for our 4 p.m. session. I greet her in the clothes prescribed by her company's code of conduct: a clean T-shirt and sweatpants. On my couch, also as directed, are a fresh sheet and two pillows, both with fresh cases. She changes in the bathroom into an outfit that matches mine, goes over the rules, and for the next 60 minutes, she holds, rocks, and cuddles me, a complete stranger.  Earlier that week, I had gone to Cuddlist.com, a website that connects certified cuddlers with those looking for non-sexual affection, and selected whom I wanted to hold or...
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7 Of The Best Places To Meet Your Future Partner

1. Don’t skip work happy hour Even if you’ve already determined that you will never date any of your coworkers, join in on every office happy hour you can. You never know who may bring an outside friend along or where you could end up after the happy hour is over. Chances are most of your work friends are pretty cool people so you can rely on them to broaden your network of potential partners. 2. Volunteer your time If you’ve already scoured everyone at work, the gym, and any mutual friends, it may be time to switch things up a bit. Volunteer for an organization you care about or with election...
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7 Signs He’s Awesome In Bed

1. He clenches his hands and feet. A physical sign that a guy is in complete ecstasy is if he’s clenching his hands and feet. When you see your guy doing this, take it as a sign he’s holding on for dear life, making sure that the encounter doesn’t end prematurely. After all, what you’re doing to him at the time might be just a little too good. 2. He wants to do it again right away. When you’ve really blown his mind, he won’t be able to get enough. Just thinking about the sex you had will be so arousing that he’ll want to do it again. So, if he seems particularly virile, pat yourself on the...
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If Your Guy Does These Things, Congrats! You Found a Real Man

1. He is hygienic, but cleans his nails and trims his nose hairs outside of a nail salon. 2. He can balance both swag and sophistication and a career and a personal life without too many proverbial exclamation points (and certainly not multiple ones in a text message. No, no, no). 3. He reserves his "LOL" for actual laughter, which he exudes out loud and often. 4. He isn't looking to play "pen pal" with you through your iPhone because he knows that all text and no play makes Johnny a very dull boy. 5. When he's interested in a woman, he doesn't wait three days to call her, but he does actually...
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Signs He/She is the “One”

1. He/She tells you things you don't tell anyone else: This goes beyond random talks. If there is a desire to share intimate details about your lives; this means you both trust each other, which implies a major component of successful long-term love. 2. He/She lets you see his/her weak moments: It's easy to be happy with someone when you're feeling good about life. But what about when you're not doing so well? Do you want to see her when you've been denied a raise, or your cat died or you had a plain old bad day? She/He should be a comfort during tough times, not a burden. 3. Respect: You...
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He Dumped me After the Abortions…

I'm publishing my story (hoping it gets published), not because I need anyone's advice. I just want my story to serve as a lesson to other young girls out there. I dated this wicked animal since our secondary school days. Everybody in school back then knew us to be sweethearts. I even refused to do my first degree abroad because I wanted to attend the same Federal University he attended. He convinced me not to school abroad and told me to stay back in Nigeria so we could get married after we graduate. I lost my virginity to him in my first year in the University after several failed attempts to deflower...
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Khloe’s Corn Rows to Entice Another Rich Black Rapper?

The Kardashians girls have quite a chronical affiliation with rich black rappers. Some say Kim Kardashian's  marriage to Kanye West is a recorded success in the family's goal. Now tongues are wagging at Khloe's flare for corn rows. Critics say her excuse for dumping French Montana was a silly move because her sister Kim, did same with Chris Humphrey, adding that French Montana was the victim who was used to display her to other rich black rappers, like Kim K used Humphrey to get to Kanye. Prove to this theory is the fact that Khloe is still friends with her BFF, who was the one French Montana was sending...
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“He Beats Me Everyday… I Can’t Leave Him”- Anonymous

I'll start with an apology for not revealing my identity. This is because he'll know I am referring to him, so I remain anonymous. We have been seeing each other for 9 years and I can count the days he did not slap me or hit my head and even beat me, just four months into our relationship. His entire family already knows me and we were meant to get married married 5 years ago but he is not financial buoyant enough to pay for my bride price and marriage rights, so he asked me to move in with him till he raises the money and I know he is working hard towards that. My only problem is that he has a very bad...
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Stereogoddess, Bolanle Okhiria’s Pictorial Valentine’s Day message: Say No To Domestic Violence in relationships!

  [highlight]In this season of love, someone out there is dying to be loved. Show some love today and always.[/highlight] Bolanle Okhiria, winner of kokomansion 2009, model and current co-host of the biggest music countdown on Radio, MTN Yhello top 10 countdown wishes everyone Happy Valentine's day and has a message for everyone that might know anyone (Male or Female) who's a victim of domestic violence and emotional trauma. Pass this message on and you may be saving a life. You can connect with her on Twitter, Instagram and Facebook : @Stereogoddess
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Kissing away your dreams – Ike Amadi

A kiss may ruin a human life - Oscar Wilde I find myself lazy to take my clothes to the dry cleaner’s. In order not to have them stink, I hand wash them. Hand washing affords me the time to think over a few things, learn from the past, analyze the present and pray for the future. Today, I was asking myself, ‘why does God let us fall into temptation a la “deceitful relationships”?’ And almost immediately, James chapter one verse fourteen comes to mind: “but each person is tempted when they are dragged away by their own evil desire and enticed.” Let me break that down a little. This young...
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MY BOYFRIEND TALE #SuperBloggers by @princessimysola

My Boyfriend Tale             At age 11 I had my first boyfriend, I thought I’d found love, I was young, intelligent, smallish and adventurous.   I was alone and lost in the world I had been kept. And in the midst of the entire crowd, He found me; he called me “his ebony cutey’, he said he loved my smallish body; he said I was sweet, caring and fun to be with; he spoke sweet nonsense to my ears, and I loved every bit of it, I thought he was my kind of man, 3 times my size, well built, eloquent and a charmer.   I thought we...
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Healing the Sores We Don’t Merit. Written By Lanre Olagunju

She came in with high hopes, and a little much more than a mustard seed sized faith. All she wanted were healing prayers for her mouth deformation, which has brought her shame and constant misery. But little does she know that Sokoto can be much closer than her own ‘sokoto’. Before she could say much with the same deformed mouth, the clergy got this strong nudge to ask her about her mother in-law. With so much pain and reserved anger, she expressed that the memory of her mother in-law isn’t one she wants to remember, let alone discuss. The reverend again explained to her that the one who teaches him...
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‘Na wa o, you’re not even a naij girl’

'No, let's go jor, don't buy it o, I'ld manage it till i can buy a new one. Please now' 'hmmm you this girl, ok oya let's go' So we left the blue and white shop.... ......skip skip skip..... We are walking up the escalator to see harry potter..and he goes, 'na wa for you o, which naij girl will they want to buy BB for that will not collect, she will even ask for BB torch, you're not a naij girl'.  And I am looking at him, laughing like a crazy person. .....skip skip skip..... On the train back home, I started thinking, 'do naij boys now think that ALL naij girls want material things?' ...
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DEATH TO OUR FRIENDSHIP! Written by Josh Eagles

Anyone who has been in a conventional boy-girl relationship knows what this is. I do too because I have experienced it once and it was though not as dramatic as you’d see in the movies, it had its bit of drama. It was my first day at school and somehow my only girlfriend was admitted into the same institution. Before resumption, she always saw that as an extremely great thing, while I secretly dreaded the impending adventure. We managed to last a day. Day one was full of drama. ‘‘how come you know all those girls?’’, ‘’why didn’t you introduce me as your girlfriend?’’ and funny...
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