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LETTER TO MY UNBORN CHILD by Whyte Habeeb

CHILD,

This I know may seem stupid but as your father to be, I have been saddled with the responsibility of stabilizing you at various spheres of your endeavour even as at now that I don’t know who your mother
would be. The feelings of fear, favour and failure is thick in the air and it can be over determination and hard work. My hands must be on deck to save you from the stranglehold of those who don’t wish their fellow human being good in life and hereafter. There’s no easy path to glory. There is no road to fame. Life, however you may view it, its no simple parlour game; but its prizes call for fighting, for
endurance and for grit; for a rugged disposition that will not quit.

We live in a wonderful world that is full of beauty, charm and adventure. There is no end to the adventures that we can have if only we seek them with our eyes open. This is just for you but for those that get to read this before you do, I say read between the lines. Child, man as distinct being from other beings is rational and has morals but insatiable. He has power to reason and differentiate right from wrong, good from bad, also justice from injustice. There are no great people in this world, only great challenges which ordinary people rise to meet. Friends are numerous like sand; they are semi gods which man must bow down to through conscience. There are people who live in hatred and can’t imagine an alternative. There are people who thrive in conflict and fear a time of peace. If I were forced to condense my ideas on morality into a single sentence: ‘Live consciously, take responsibility for your choices and actions, respect the rights of others, and follow your own bliss. Live with intention. Walk to the edge. Listen hard. Practice wellness. Play with abandon. Laugh. Choose with no regret. Continue to learn. Appreciate your friends. Do what you love. Live as if this is all there is.

My efforts to do away with people remain intractable. You need them around you to grow and develop. The question now lies before you that who are the gladiators among your friends or who are the perpetrators of the kingdom of doom and evil? Nobody can tell except GOD. Everybody will always seem ill prepared for the enormous task ahead but like your grandfather would say easy does it. A difficult time can be more readily endured if we retain the conviction that our existence holds a purpose, a cause to pursue, a person to love, a goal to achieve. I have never been especially impressed by the heroics of people convinced that they are about to change the world. I am more awed by those who struggle to make one small difference after another. To be able to practice five things everywhere under heaven constitutes perfect virtue… gravity, generosity of soul, sincerity, earnestness, and kindness. You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. The danger lies in refusing to face the fear, in not daring to come to grips with it. You must make yourself succeed every time. You must do the thing you think you cannot do. Great minds have purpose, others have wishes.

In the days of your Grandfather, it was fashionable to heap all blames on the destructive intervention of peers in one’s life but in this silver age of mine, it is the love of aesthetic things but in your own
time, I foresee the battle of supremacy i.e. the survival of the fittest. So also the brazen acts of criminality in various shades by friends has not yet been addressed by many parents but for me the
earlier the better. The fact that my own generation feels comfortable with a mission of undecided future should be a challenge to you on how to make it in life than any of your age peers.

Every day, think as you wake up, today I am fortunate to be alive, I have a precious human life, I am not going to waste it. I am going to use all my energies to develop myself, to expand my heart out to
others; to achieve enlightenment for the benefit of all beings. I am going to have kind thoughts towards others, I am not going to get angry or think badly about others. I am going to benefit others as much as I can. It is easier to start a quarrel with a friend than to end them. It is likewise easier to blame others than to look inward ; to see what is different about someone than to find the things we share but you have to choose the right path not just the easy path. Cowards die many times before their death; the valiant only taste death but once. So you don’t have to be carried away. I think it is very important that you should learn to make your own decisions and stand firmly on them. In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing. The worst thing you can do is nothing. You will be responsible for your actions, so you don’t have to blame other people. Just think and decide rightly.

The world is pregnant with fear of danger because the actions of men are bad. The only advice I would give is to prepare adequately well for all circumstance and don’t ever think a future exist. Would you like me to give you a formula for success? It’s quite simple, really. Double your rate of failure. You are thinking of failure as the enemy of success. But it isn’t at all. You can be discouraged by failure – or you can learn from it. So go ahead and make mistakes. Make all you can. Because, remember that’s where you’ll find success (on the far side of failure). The future that you have is for today and be prepared because if you don’t prepare well fear, failure and favour will be your guest in comfort. Don’t be deceived by the fact that you can only become great when you clock a particular age but better still start making your own impact at the tender age of One; nothing is impossible. Man is so made that when anything fires his soul, impossibilities vanish. The actions of men are the best interpreters of their thoughts. The reason for all this is that there is no man that lives who does not need to be drilled, disciplined and developed into something higher and nobler than he is by nature. Life at times could be unfair but what you should do is to look up to God for guidance, mercy and ability to handle every situation you find yourself. Life is beautiful but it is ephemeral.  Set a goal and strive to achieve your goals without regretting making any effort to be great. Personally, my own goal is to be an achiever that would have his name on the lips of endless generation. Set yours and achieve them because the ability to accomplish the task ahead is the beginning of been a real man. Why not think twice my dear baby. Your living is determined not so much by what life brings to you as by the attitude you bring to life; not so much by what happens to you as by the way your mind looks at what happens. May your road be rough my dear.

This is not a curse but the best prayer you can ever get from me. If you have a kobo with ease, you will spend it anyhow but if you have a penny that you laboured for, you manage it well and by then you
already are planning to live a good life. You must not depend on my labour when you are off age. I was taught very early that I would have to depend entirely upon myself; that my future lay in my own hands.
Strive for success. The successful person has the habit of doing the things failures don’t like to do. They don’t like doing them either necessarily. But their disliking is subordinated to the strength of their purpose. Child, your time has come to unleash the best; so make haste slowly in making me proud. I love you more than you love yourself. He who is in love is wise and is becoming wiser, sees newly every time he looks at the object beloved, drawing from it with his eyes and his mind those virtues it possesses. I will always wish you good luck in all your endeavours and encounters on planet in earth. Child remember that everyone is a house with four rooms, a physical, a mental, an emotional, and a spiritual. Most of us tend to live in one room most of the time, but unless we go into every room every day, even if only to keep it aired, we are not a complete person. Climb high; climb far. Your goal is the sky; your aim is the star. I LOVE YOU.

Yours Fatherly,

Whyte Habeeb Ibidapo

@whytehabeeb.

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