MARRY HIM: The Man A Good Woman Needs – by @IkeAmadi

Published:10 Feb, 2013

 I need a man who is striving for excellence in every aspect of life.” – A woman.

 

GHI won’t claim to be an expert in women affairs. However, there are a few things a man must know if he is to be respected in his home.

 

I believe that there are very few ladies out there who will whole-heartedly follow a man in the absence of material endowments.

 

A man must be a man, both in the house and in the office. A woman is naturally very proud of her husband who has had reasonable success in life. Loving him and being loyal to him becomes very easy. She can easily settle in and begin to change the house into a home. If however the man doesn’t yet have a house, in this case, a job or something from which he can support his family, he puts the burden of making a house on his wife, when indeed she should be making a home. What this portends is that she will spend most of her time trying to build a house for the both of you – something you should have taken care of before inviting her into your life, and eventually the ‘home’ will be left in disarray, unattended.

 

Why do you think there is a high spate of divorce in several European countries these days? It is certainly because both man and woman are working to support the family, which should not be.

 

Call me old-fashioned, but a woman whose only dream in life is to achieve this and that, not being first a supportive wife, has no business being in a home. When the woman, like the man, has worked 9 hours, what time does she have to take care of the kids and take care of her husband?

 

“How about me, a young smart lady, who is already in my 6th year studying medicine?” you ask. Timing is everything. If you are able to forego your dreams for a few years in order to see your family blossom, then, in my opinion, your home will be fresher and long lasting.

 

Back to the guys, we need to take our eyes off ladies, who could be distractions if not managed very well. Let us work hard at building ourselves – intellectually, spiritually, and physically; so that the end of the day when we are able to achieve some measure of success, one can bring in a lady who will now massage you, calm your nerves and bear children for you.

 

The Bible says that, ‘The wife God gives you is your reward for all your earthly toil’ Eccl 9:9. If we then begin to reap the reward for a battle we have not fought, then we are creating a vacuum which chaos will be happy to fill. How fresh is that? Food for thought! Let us not carry too many burdens at once. Take it one at a time and see things fall in place in your life.

 

To the ladies once again, if you see a man who is standing, and has a vision of where he is going, and is making conscious efforts to achieve his aim in life; a man who values dignity of labor and is not always willing to take the short cut, my fine dears, marry him! This is why, when I sit quietly in my room, apart from the pomp and pageantry, I pray to God to have mercy on me, to bless me and make my path shine brighter and brighter; for if that is achieved, getting a woman into the house will be secondary, and without any problems whatsoever.

 

To the men, your family, knowing that the woman you chose was not the reason for not reaching the acme of your personal and professional development, will give you their full-fledged blessing. Everyone will see it and smile, and say, of a truth, this man indeed needs a helpmeet. He has done something, let him relax and enjoy the freshness a woman can offer.

 

One more important question: “I am already in a relationship, even though I have not reached the apex of my achievements in life. What should I do? Should I let her/him go?” Certainly not, more so, if you have already pledged your loyalty and are more than certain she is the one your spirit yearns for. In that case, you must ensure that your relationship is one that aids and complements your spiritual and intellectual development. Are you a burden to her, or is she a burden to you? Does she encourage you to strive to greater heights or reach out for more spiritual exploits? In some cases, the relationship paves a way for them to discover themselves in different dimensions. Perhaps, have one more encouraging voice telling you, ‘yes you can’, one more wise counselor, one more guardian angel urging to flee youthful lusts and study your Bible more; One more kind eye to go through your school work and tell you it is possible; one more gentle voice reassuring you that the best is yet to come for you and yours. In that case, ride on and make positive use of that platform.

 

Let me leave you with a quote, nay two: “It is a truth universally acknowledged, that a single man in possession of a good fortune must be in want of a wife.” – Jane Austen and “If you have moneymen think you are wise, handsome, and able to sing like a bird”

 

Do you see a man, who has a house you can convert into a home? Marry him!

 

Ike Amadi

Follow on twitter: @IkeAmadi

Related Posts

Recent Posts

2019: Jonathan’s Loyalists Seek Lifeline For PDP

Loyalists of former President Goodluck Jonathan are trying very hard to end the crisis in the Peoples Democratic Party (PDP) ahead of the 2019 general elections, it was learnt Saturday. The loyalists especially former ministers and governors during former administration of Jonathan were said to be visiting different state chapters of the PDP to seek reconciliation among aggrieved PDP members. It was was gathered that Jonathan’s men were working under the auspices of the Ministers’...

Nigerian Becomes First Female To Win VSO Award In UK

Oluwatosin Folarin has won the Voluntary Service Overseas (VSO) National Youth Volunteer Award for 2016 and is the first Nigerian to win this award.  The 23-year-old graduate was posted to Ilesa in Osun state with fifteen other volunteers for three months. VSO, an International Development Charity works to address poverty under which their volunteers were sent to work in rural communities in order to secure Livelihoods. At the ceremony which took place in the United Kingdom,...

Waziri Responds To Ribadu’s Accusation Of Frustrating Corruption Fight

Former Chairman of the Economic and Financial Crimes Commission, EFCC, Mrs Farida Waziri has challenged her predecessor in the commission Malam Nuhu Ribadu to give account of billions of funds and assets recovered from suspects under his watch as EFCC boss and stop using her name for cheap political cards. A statement signed by her Personal Assistant, Ms Omolara Oluremi on Saturday quotes Mrs Waziri as saying Ribadu had accused her of being ‘’part of his...

Abuja Carnival Providing Credible Platform For National Unity– Buhari

President Muhammadu Buhari says that the Abuja Carnival has continued to provide a credible platform for national unity, peaceful co-existence and understanding of our ethnically and culturally diverse nation. Buhari said this at the opening of the 2016 Abuja Carnival, with the theme; “The Creative Industry: A Pivot to Economic Growth” in Abuja on Saturday. According to him, the present quest for authentic and homegrown approach to national security, peace and harmony, as well as...

Nigeria, Morocco To Build Gas Pipeline Link

Nigeria and Morocco on Saturday resolved to jointly promote a gas pipeline that will connect the two countries and some other African countries. This was one of the agreement reached during the three-day visit of Moroccan King President Mohammed VI. The Minister of Foreign Affairs, Dr Geoffrey Onyema, disclosed this to reporters on Saturday at the Presidential Villa, Abuja. Onyema said the...

Buhari Hails Victorious Super Falcons

President Muhammadu Buhari has congratulated Nigeria’s Super Falcons on their victory over the senior female football team of Cameroon at the final game of the women’s Africa Cup of Nations in Yaounde. The president described the hard-earned victory over the Indomitable Lionesses as “very sweet and well-deserved”. In a statement issued by his Special Adviser on Media and Publicity, Femi Adesina, Mr. Buhari commended the Falcons for their “indomitable spirit, resilience and team work” which...

Popular Yoruba actress, Mulikat Adegbola is dead.

Veteran Yoruba actress, Mulikat Adegbola is dead. Adegbola popularly known as Ashabi Iya Adinni died of brief illness. Nollywood actor, Muyiwa Ademola broke the sad news via his instagram page. According to him:“This is quite sad but who are we to question the Almighty? Sleep on Iya Adinni.May the Almighty forgive your sins.” She is popular for her roles in movies like “Ìlù gángan” (2009), “Ogbologbo” (2003) and“Ogbologbo 2” (2003).

Abuja Carnival records poor turnout

The Abuja Carnival which began on Saturday recorded poor turnout of FCT residents. Some of the residents who spoke with the ?News Agency of Nigeria (NAN), said the carnival should not be the priority of the Federal Government, and that measures should be taken to alleviate the sufferings of Nigerians. NAN reports that this year’s carnival was devoid of the usual funfare that used to characterise the event. NAN also observed that some designated streets of the FCT that were usually decorated...

JUST IN: Shehu Sani blames El-Rufai for attack on campaign office

Kaduna State senator, Shehu Sani, on Saturday said the attack on his campaign office in Kaduna was carried out by men working for Governor Nasir el-Rufai. The office was invaded by armed men on Saturday morning. Witnesses said police arrived quickly and stopped the attackers from torching the building. The senator said the attack took place as his social media aides held a meeting. No casualties were immediately reported. Mr. Sani blamed the attack on Mr. el-Rufai in a statement on Saturday afternoon. “Some few...

Kwara Government To Commence Construction of KWASU Campuses in Osi, Ilesha-Baruba

The Kwara State government has approved the construction of two campuses for the Kwara State University in Osi and Ilesha-Baruba at a contract sum of N2.8billion. The Commissioner for Information and Communication, Alhaji Mahmud Ajeigbe, who announced this during a media briefing on Friday, said that the projects will be implemented through through a PPP model under the Kwara Infrastructure Development Fund (IFK). He stressed that the State government is committed towards ensuring that the university is continually repositioned in order...

Kwara State: Police launches public complaint response unit.

The Kwara State Police Command, in an attempt to ensure that the officers comply with the change begins with me policy of the federal government has launched a unit called ‘Public Complaint Rapid Response Unit’. This is planned to ensure that members of the public are not cheated or maltreated in anyway. The State Commissioner of Police, Olushola Amore, who led other officers in a walk around the major streets and roads in the state capital Ilorin distributed pamphlets to motorists...

Gang hacks nursing mother to death, sells five-month old baby for N300,000

The Imo State Commissioner of Police, Mr. Taiwo Lakanu, yesterday paraded four alleged notorious crime Syndicate who specialised in armed robberies, murder and child theft for crime bothering on hacking a nursing mother to death, smashing the husband’s head with an axe and stealing their five months old baby.   The CP told newsmen in Owerri, the state capital, that the suspects sold the infant for N300,000 to an already waiting buyer in Okporo community in the Orlu local Government Area...

Illegal Recruitment: Kwara State Government to sanction indicted officials

Five individuals indicted for the illegal recruitment of 971 workers into Kwara State Teaching Service Commission (TESCOM) are to face disciplinary action. Addressing journalists on Friday after the State Executive Council(SEC) meeting, the State Commissioner for Education and Human Capital Development, Engr. Musa Yeketi, noted that the affected officials had recruited workers in excess of the number approved by the State Governor, Alhaji Abdulfatah Ahmed. According to Yeketi, two of the indicted officers are retired, while the remaining three are still...

Arsenal to make decision on Cazorla future in January

Arsene Wenger says Arsenal will make a decision about Santi Cazorla’s future at the club come January. The experienced midfielder’s contract at the Emirates Stadium is due to expire at the end of the season and he has been heavily linked with a move to Atletico Madrid in recent months. Arsenal have an option to extend his stay at the club, though, and Wenger is adamant the 31-year-old’s injury problems do not play a role in deciding whether Cazorla will stay,...

Ifako/Ijaiye residents resort to trekking over restrictions

Residents of Iju-Ishaga, Ogba, Agege and Ifako/Ijaiye areas on Saturday resorted to trekking due to partial road restrictions resulting into heavy traffic over the ongoing Ifako-Ijaiye Federal Constituency By-election in Lagos. There was heavy traffic along Agege/Ogba and Fagba axes; shops were also closed and security men with patrol vans were seen in the areas. Some of the residents who spoke to NAN lamented low publicity as they were not aware of the by-election. Mr Seye Adeoti, a civil servant, said that...

FRSC Officials To Start Bearing Arms

The Federal Road Safety Commission (FRSC) says it is taking steps to arm its roadside personnel for their safety.   The Corps Marshal of the Federal Road Safety Commission, Mr Boboye Oyeyemi, made this known after detailing an increased rate of personnel casualties at the commission.   This was one of the issues that emanated from the year-ending strategy session convened by the Federal Road Safety Corps (FRSC).   Bringing together all state commanders and sector heads of the FRSC, Corps Marshal Boboye Oyeyemi noted...

Damaturu IDP camp records 22 marriages, 81 deliveries in 20 months

No fewer than 22 marriage contracts were sealed and 81 babies delivered in the past 20 months at the Pompomari Internally Displaced Persons camp in Damaturu,  Executive Secretary, Yobe Emergency Management Agency, Musa Jidawa , has disclosed. He told the News Agency of Nigeria (NAN) in Damaturu on Saturday that the camp, established in March 2015 for IDPs from villages in Gujba Local Government Area displaced by insurgents, also recorded 18 deaths during the period under review. Mr. Jidawa, who is also...

Bodies of Chapecoense crash victims reach Brazil for memorial.

The victims of the Colombian air crash which killed 71 people including almost a football squad, arrived in Brazil on Saturday for a memorial. The bodies left the airport in the Colombian city of Medellin on Friday and were accompanied by representatives of Colombia’s civil aviation authority, soldiers, police officers and rescue workers. Among those killed were 19 first-team players from Brazilian football team Chapecoense. The club will hold a stadium memorial service at its Arena Conda later on Saturday. The stadium’s capacity...

Boko Haram has taught us unforgettable lessons – Ndume

The Senate Majority Leader, Ali Ndume, has said people from Boko Haram affected areas have learnt unforgettable lesson, realised their mistakes and would never allow such to happen again. Mr. Ndume, in an interview with the News Agency of Nigeria ( NAN) in Yola on Saturday, said that affected communities who were forced to leave their villages and towns are now anxious to return home and were ready to fight back. NAN reports that Mr. Ndume was in Yola , where...

Gambia’s president-elect promises two-term limit for presidency.

Gambian President-elect Adama Barrow on Saturday vowed to work for national unity and economic growth after power was peacefully transferred in the small West African nation for the first time in its history. The real estate mogul pledged to introduce an independent judiciary, promote media freedom, establish a two-term limit for the presidency and make the civil service transparent and accountable. He said that political prisoners would be freed and a truth and reconciliation process to “amend past injustices” launched. “The position...

Eko Disco apologises to Lagos residents for prolonged blackout

The management of Eko Electricity Distribution Company on Saturday apologised to customers for continuous shortage of electricity supply. A statement by Godwin Idemudia, the company’s Head of Corporate Communications in Lagos, blamed the shortage on a drastic reduction in the amount of electricity coming to EKEDC from the national grid. According to the statement, the company could only distribute what was allocated to it from the national grid. “We are, therefore, appealing to all our customers to bear with us as we...