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Why Do We Fall In Love So Easily,Even When It’s Not Right ? #opesays

Haa ! I’m back to my favourite topic, love. I hope you had a lovely week. Ever wondered why most of us fall in love so easily,even when we know it’s not right ? It has caused us much pain and heartbreak than most of us can say. You know deep within you that this person is not right or it’s not the right time to have a relationship, yet you go ahead and let yourself fall completely. Don’t blame yourself, most of us are plagued by this syndrome. There are several reasons why we fall in love ,even when it’s not right.

Ever wondered why most of us

fall in love so easily,even when

we know it’s not right ?

The most common is the triumph of emotions over logic. We all know that the emotions are strong,primitive urges that we can hardly control. You think it’s better to never ask why and spoil what you’re feeling with logical reasoning. It’s funny how the heart can be deceiving and you create picture of what doesn’t even exist in your head.Then it all comes crashing down like a pack of cards. It’s easier to go with the flow ,than question it and go against the grain. Most times the other person isn’t even what you want in a partner but you make excuses for them and go on anyway. This is why we end up getting hurt.

Loneliness is one of the most common reasons people fall in love. You will your heart to fall in love and manufacture an emotion that is not there. You see happy couples and you long for the same. Well, the easiest thing to do is to fall for the next person that comes along. You turn a blind eye to the other person’s qualities and forge ahead. After all, you can’t continue to spend night after night cuddling your pillow.The human need for companionship is basic. You want a warm ,living ,breathing body to hold you and listen to you.

Pressure is another reason people fall in love. Pressure from their peers ,pressure from family and mild pressure from seeing people who are happily in love. Some of us have heard about this ‘love’ all our lives and we want to experience it for ourselves. Loving out of pity is another common one. Someone has been on your neck for months, years perhaps. The other person pressures you into ‘falling in love’. Thing with this kind of love is the that your heart actually finds a way to believe it’s real.

Nothing would have been wrong with these kinds of love if they didn’t leave us with a castoff version of love or nursing broken hearts. Until I discovered the true meaning of love, I used to think I had fallen in love before.Only to discover I have never been in love. It’s easy to confuse longing ,attraction,infatuation ,obsession and even lust with love. They are not the real think ,only fake versions of it. If so, then what is love ?

If it has to end,then it is not love

Love runs deeper that what we think.It is not a feeling, as feelings are temporary.Anger,happiness,excitement are all feelings ,as they are temporary. If it has to end,then it is not love. Love is a conscious decision to stay with this person ,no matter what. Note that I said decision and not feeling. Love is holding on ,when you have all the reasons to let go. A prime example is God’s love for man.

Love is holding on ,when you

have all the reasons to let go

That is love.

Opemipo Adebanjo

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  1. Love is a conscious decision to stay with this person ,no matter what. True this!

  2. Just the way I’ve always wanted to hear it. Love with your heart, Think with your head. A decision to stay no matter the odds.

  3. Love conquers all thing…Love answerth all things…Love is often mistaken for feeling at all times. Well crafted…So love na ur Fav ish..Don’t let cupid aim you o..loool

  4. Ope writes from the heart, with logic. She brings to hearts what has been missing. I like this part: Love is
    holding on ,when you have all the
    reasons to let go.

  5. Ope writes from the heart, with logic. She brings to hearts what has eluded em. And I sincerely like this part: Love is
    holding on ,when you have all the
    reasons to let go.

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