#VOICESINMYHEAD with Oreoluwa Aboluwarin – GET ON THAT HORSE
I’ve participated in competitions and in the aftermath, I’ve felt I was more qualified than some of the people who were rated to have won. I’ve seen people who I can sing a whole lot better than lead songs ahead of me in singing groups and choirs. I’ve faced situations in which people I’m definitely more intelligent than have commanded respect that I couldn’t dream of yet. I’ve seen people receive extraordinary favors when I did not feel they did anything more special than I did.
One thing I don’t do though is get bitter. I don’t get worked up over their achievements. I might discuss issues with a few good friends and have a good laugh but at the end, I always go back to my closet and try to consider a lot of things; mainly what set them apart. What distinguished them above me, what opened doors of favor to them. As such at the end of the day, I’ve almost always known why I got less than desired results at anything I did.
What causes bitterness in many a man is the fact that he expects the world to revolve around him. Hence when people fail him or he does not get what he feels he deserves or situations seem biased towards him he sulks and moans about a not so perfect life.
Truth is the world is not fair. Deal with it. Stop expecting perfect conditions. Stop thinking everyone will think the way you do. I do not believe in sheer luck.
People second-guess other people’s intentions, they criticize their works, they question why they do what they do instead of working towards distinguishing themselves in what they believe in, instead of adding value, setting themselves apart to be favored by merit. I wonder why there is such malady in the world.
Truth is, no matter how lucky you think the next fellow is, things did not just happen to him by chance. People do not like him for no just cause. There are some seeds he has sown which you’re oblivious of. There’s no reward for non-productiveness, hence, the fruits you see him reaping are the results of seeds he has sown in some way or the other (whether honest seeds or dishonest ones), the bottom line is seeds were sown.
The book of proverbs says something about “the hand of the diligent bearing rule.” You have to be able to do something to an unusual degree before you become reckoned with in any field. No matter how weak or incapable you are, think of the ANT, a very minute creature, yet it provides for itself and even other members of its clan. It simply has endeared itself to the hearts of its kinsmen and as such, there’s already the widespread knowledge that it is capable of certain things. A man who is prepared, a man who is skillful in his task will definitely find doors open to him.
The man who develops a way to do something better than others do has the future of the world at his fingertips. The greatest resource you have to offer the world, the greatest field you have to mine is your mind.
So whenever next you feel like belittling another person’s achievement, criticizing the work of another unduly, getting annoyed that someone made it, erroneously believing what he does is simple, suck it up! Just develop your thinking ability. Develop quality thoughts. Find something that’ll set you apart. Be creative. Endear yourself into the hearts of people around by identifying a need and meeting it.
After the desire to be wise, the yearning for excellence, the next thing to do is take charge of your destiny yourself. It is getting on the Horse yourself. It is refusing to blame your woes on some arbitrary character or happening. The verity of the matter is that only those that are able to make a difference and take responsibility for all that happens to them make headway at the end of the day.
Bitterness towards others does not solve any problem, it does not get you any further towards where you want to be, it does not automatically remove the competition. The only reasonable solution (for the wise alone) is to study why some have made it to the lofty heights they now occupy and then act in ways that’ll propel you to those heights.
Stay positive! Stay relevant! Be exceptional! Take charge yourself!
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