Have you ever asked yourself “why should I invest ?so much of my money, time, emotions et al into a friendship that sometimes lead to betrayal, agony, pains to name a few?” Interestingly friendship, actually good friendship is “LIFE ENHANCING”. It makes us feel more alive, enhances our activities by intensifying our absorption in them and hence the pleasure we get from them.
Friendship is an in-depth relationship combining trust,support,communication,loyalty,understanding,empathy and intimacy. It is a comfy relationship like home.A friend is someone you can be alone with and have nothing to do and not be able to think of anything to say and be comfortable in silence. It is a single body dwelling in two bodies.
Friendship is pleasant in itself as well as useful to the friend; it helps promote self-esteem, which is ? good both instrumentally and for its own sake.
The idea of friendship began from the beginning of time, man has always been a social animal and that’s why Adam the first man desired companionship and therefore God created Eve to be his partner. Primitive communities such as Aztee Indians are historical examples of people living together for companionship, protection and for the well-being of their tribe.
Law such as our constuitution were formed to bring “similarity” and order solely because of man’s desire to live in a society and this leads to Maria Kenley’s definition of friendship as a connection between two or more people that fulfils their desire for socialization and community.
Friendship can be futher emphasized by saying Even God is? a “social God”, He desired companionship thereby creating man in His own image and likeness (Gen1 :27) when He came in human nature, He made friends to accomplish His fulfilled purpose (Luke 2:4a) Friendship is the ability to render unceasing sacrifices to humanity, trust others, be loyal to them, share your joys and pains, fears and accomplishments, love each other, not judging the other, accepting their flaws and celebrating their strengths.
Friendship can also be said to be distinctively personal relationship that is grounded in concern and the part of each friend for the welfare of other’s sake and involves some level of intimacy.
When God said it is not good for man to be alone, He was actually talking about friendship because that’s the only thing that brings geniunine compaionship to humanity even in marriage. Successful marriages they say has its tribute to a good friendship platform.
Making friends isn’t hard, but sometimes keeping them is a different story. It’s easy to assume that once you’ve achieved friendship status, you’re solid; you can let a few things slide without jeopardizing your tight twosome. But like any significant relationship, these require time, effort, trust, selfless giving, respect or regards, introducing him/her to your other friends and including him/her in your activities rather than ditching your older comrades and hanging out one-on-one all the time, doing something sentimental, like compiling photos and memories of the two of you into a scrapbook.
Or simply tell her out of the blue, “I’m so lucky to have a friend like you.” having equal parts of effort: don’t let her take care of everything and giving impressive attention. As with anything you undertake, you’ll get out what you put in.
Don’t sit there day dreaming about that wonderful friend, be the best of all friends to all friends, the better friend you become, the better colleague, spouse, neighbour, class mate, name it you’ll become because every relationship is all about friendship and living well is? a function of our relationship with other people.