Men survive on extramarital sex written by Shode Olufemi

Published:19 Jul, 2011

Most Men cannot have sex exclusively with just one woman, for the rest of their lives – not most Nigerian men.
Men are created with varied sexual appetite, some men can do without sex for a year, others cannot do without sex for a week, some would die without sex in a day.
A man who’s madly in love with one woman can still have sex with other women but still love his ‘woman’.
Some of the best husbands have concubines or mistresses, these extra marital affairs play a role in keeping the man sane and free of sexual tensions, especially during mid-life crises…see men agreeing with this.
If your man is just having sex with some sweet sexy teen or babe DO NOT WORRY, but if your man starts making midnight calls and exchanging text messages with another lady at odd hours, BE VERY WORRIED.
Before you choose your man, ensure he believes in AIDs, STDs and protected sex. That way, chances are that he will not bring HIV and other STDs into your life. My mum would say “e no dey show 4 face o!!!”.
Most chronic wife beaters are faithful husbands, they hardly have extra marital affairs. Remember not all – most.
Most ‘extra’ loving husbands have concubines, these concubines keep the man abreast on new ways of making women happy.
Your man’s mistress or concubine is most times not interested in you or your home. She has already seen your pictures and those of your kids via your hubby’s phone. She and your hubby just have a sexual understanding or partnership which helps both parties deal with peculiar individual issues.
Lastly as a woman, if you go all out in a bid to catch your husband red-handed cheating, you WILL succeed. Then what next? If you listen hard to your domestic servants in their private discussions, you will certainly hear them insult you, so why listen?
Judge your man by his responsibilities towards you and the kids, and NOT by whom he is giving ‘doggie style’ to at the office. Shikena!!!
…Hmmmmm…what more do you need than to pray for the grace to accept what you cannot change?

  • Alakinde Abosede

    Its true that most man not only in nigeria but all over the world keep and survive through extra marital affairs. The question ?? how would the wife or spouse b so sure that the man in question haven’t engaged in an unprotected sex? Thereby contacting STDs and AIDS and passing it onto the said wife or spouse! Or should wife start using condoms with their husbands.

  • Banji

    Olufemi…you are absolutely incorrigible,but absolutely right if I may add! Even the ‘loyal’ husbands are better off cooling the sexual tensions and satisfying the ‘beasts’ in them with women other than their wives…

  • pinky

    This ??I?????s????? crazy

  • Kenneth Ibegwam

    When you find out your husband is cheating then what? I like that question! All I will say is pray for the grace to expect things you can’t change!

  • Shode Olufemi

    @Alakinde the word “ensure” is before AIDs STDs n protected sex

    @Kenneth i see you bruv

    @Banji the truth just got bitter

    @Pinky Crazy is an understatement

  • Qhen

    This is a good write up,so on point leaving no space for addition,informative yet formal,this is one piece dat makes a site to revisit,keep it up guys!

  • talatu

    Ah! I totally disagree wt u Shode. I can’t imagine myself sharing my husband with another women especially one that is not a co-wife. Abeg no de talk like this Shode. We r Nigerians not obobo oyibo.

  • halima koko

    Orh i really liker this its very true,so we just take it as it is

  • Shode Olufemi

    @halima yes we jus do
    @Qhen i c u
    @Talatu……..wat can i say

  • motolaOshin

    Now that is pure generalisation, It does not hold any water with me… what percentage is most men? and who says a Wife beater can ever be is faithful…
    I will take it that u are one of those that dont intend to be faithful to their wife (if and when you are married).
    I respect your opinion but i know its not true that must men survive on extra-marital sex.
    that is just a Sick Assumption

  • http://facebook/zestyoasis omojokun opeyemi.E

    Dont b overprotective or jealous trust is the only means of keeping home safe but don’t overtrust your spouse instead build a strong shock resistance in your mind so that you can be free from heartbreak.

  • Ola Blessed

    This is so absurd… smh i’m not even sure why i’m responding. Yes extramarital affairs happen at times but that doesn’t mean it should be condoned. Anywhoo, I leave you with a special prayer… May thunder, lightening and hurricane strike ur “very good” body parts. And let the church say, AMEN. :)

  • dare

    well sincerely most men use extra marital affiars to ease off tension,so that they would not run mad.In as much as this is what men does,it should not be justified.Most men will even stop making love to thier wives all because they prefare it out there,i use to be there but i have to repent and asked God for forgiveness to stop the habit.the truth is that it is a habit you cant stop once you enjoy doing it,and it cost you money,time,energy,resources and so on,
    and you have to be a proffessonal liar,faking all sort of meetings and official trips all because you want to make love to your imagination.because all of this start from our brain and if u cant cut it off at that point,you transfer it to your heart,and it overwhelms you and until you lack self control.
    Come to think of it,what if your wife too is complaning that you are not satisfying her and you choose not to listen and she cant bear it no more and she starts going out?how will you feel.Lets be sincere with ouselves,we will feel bad.Its not men’s world its our world both male and female.
    remember a man that lacks self control is like a city without wall.You are vunurable.

  • Abiola

    God bless you Dare.

  • Isaac

    You said it all.

  • Afolabi Abioye

    the article was well composed,but most of we men, our jealousy is so much, we can’t stand to see our spouse receiving another man’s call, even if its official, sometimes we still have doubt within us, this happen because our minds are dirty, @dare you have emphasized on some good point, may God help us all!!!

  • Johna Pfrommer

    I do love the manner in which you have presented this situation plus it does supply me personally a lot of fodder for consideration. Nevertheless, through what I have observed, I basically trust when the remarks pile on that individuals keep on point and in no way embark upon a tirade regarding the news of the day. Yet, thank you for this superb point and though I can not necessarily concur with this in totality, I value your perspective.

  • yetis

    Dnt understand what u saying,re u in support of extra-marital affair? Or u definitely gonna cheat on ur wife whn u married or u cheating nw. May God hlp us choose the right partner…since guys wld always cheat.

  • Superrmayorr Kenpachi

    I choose to disagree with the biased views of Mr Shode..he has narrowed d sexual characteristics of most men to infidelity..I stand to say that “MEN” don’t survive on extra-marital affairs,Extra marital affairs starts from a basic thought magnified through peer pressure or Temptation..Men are sexual creatures agreed!!but If you have your dream you definately won’t go chasing after Shadows no matter d amount of Pressure or Temptation…”Most Men survive on Extra Marital Affairs” that should sound better.

  • GoldmarQue

    This is a very well written write up, thumbs up to yu… But God bless u Mr Dare 4 dat counter response, its basically a thing of the mind, I mean women are very capable of cheating too.. My mum is in her early 50s and when she sits in her show room I see how men come @ her n all, buh cos she has formated her mind in such a way, no one has to tell them to back off. So please don’t make men think they have an excuse cos dey don’t -_- (??? )

  • Tola

    This is the reason why God has allowed us to marry more than one wife.

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  • Nikk

    You need to be flogged is all I can say. Marriage laws are very simple and straight forward and people are just looking for loop holes to contain their depraved and immoral activities so they don’t feel bad about themselves when the truth is you are just fooling yourself.

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