A HUSBAND? ON THE INTERNET? YOU MUST BE CRAZY! By Japheth Omojuwa
Published:17 Jun, 2010
They will be getting married before you read this article. It took their parents 18 months to finally let the lovebirds have their most cherished wish. The bride’s parents refused to believe their once pious and homely daughter, would choose to marry a man she met on the internet.
‘’I dated your Dad for three years before we got married’’, the bride’s mother said, while the young girl was unkind enough to remind her that that union lasted only 6 years. I don’t hate conservatives, but at times, I wonder at their ability to argue against the indubitable. For instance, what is the crime in correcting a part of my body just so I can look better, if I can afford it?
A bare-chested lady wants to compete on the Frontal front against those naturally endowed with great sizes, so she decides for a breast enlargement surgery or whatever it is to get what she feels she needs. That is a decision she has a moral right to make. If I tell her that is immoral, without asking whether I had the morality to get involved in another man’s business in the first place. You cannot be your brother’s keeper if that brother of yours does not want himself kept.
Now back to our main issue. How many people bought goods and services on the internet 20 years ago? How come none of our parents met on facebook before they got married? Don’t you get it? Have you discovered that your facebook friend knows more about you than your next door neighbor who does not network with you on online? The truth is, the internet has become the real reality. 20 years from now, children will tell stories of how their parents met online.
In the past, men had to physically meet to deal, the meeting was a means to an end in itself an end,the deal is the end. Today, they don’t have to meet physically because they can achieve that end without the old way of meeting if they indeed meet on the net. I recently unplugged the net for a few days, and it felt like I had left some kind of home. Home, where my friends are. Home where they share my every passion- my pain and pleasure, my joy and happiness, my humanity and they know my thoughts virtually in real time.
‘’The brotherhood of men transcend the sovereignty of nations’’, says a creed I believe in and that settles it. The world was not created with boundaries, political or not political. Men created political boundaries, psychological boundaries and all sorts. Men were not created as Norwegian, Ghanaian, Cameroonian and the likes, men were created as men, citizens of the universe.
We will some day find ourselves again at that beginning where borders will be non-existent and men will live the vastness of the world. If my parents used the internet half as much as I do today, they probably would have met online. They did not meet online because they could not. The reason we can today is because we can. It has its risks and hazards but tell me one human endeavor that does not. People date for a decade only to have their marriage crash in two years, some others date for two months but remain married for a life time. It has nothing to do with when or how they met, it has everything to do with commitment, compromise and a willingness to evolve.
A husband? On the net? You must be crazy! It is okay to say that but only if you are a blast from the past, a relic of the archives. Nas will do his career a whole lotta good if he sang a track called ‘’New World’’. Oh he did! He did when Bill Clinton was the new JFK. Have you heard of Obama? He did when Roy Jones was the new Mike Tyson. Have you heard of a certain Pretty boy Mayweather? Then Africans bothered about getting the bling bling for Americans to light-up the stage, today Africa is the stage for the world’s most illuminating game. South Africa 2010 FIFA World Cup it is. It is indeed a new world,and we will yet do new things. Not all new things are bad and not all bad things are new. JUsT tHiNk! So then, who needs a husband?